To ask what age you stopped enjoying going “out out”

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Just that really. I’m 29 and living in the city as a working professional. Up until the last 6 months or so, I guess you could say I’ve very much lived a ‘work hard, play hard’ sort of lifestyle involving a lot of socialising, drinking and late nights out. Over the past few months it’s as though a switch has been flipped and suddenly it’s just no fun anymore. The idea of a cosy night in, or a nice meal out with a couple of drinks and being back at home and in bed by 12pm is far more appealing!

The majority of my friends here in the city around my age are still very much in to the party way of life and are showing no signs of slowing down… so I wondered, when did the switch happen for you?!

Live in the heart of a major city. It’s fizzled out for me the last 3 years I’d say.

I only ever go to bottomless brunches now which are during the day. I’m 30 and I’m so done with nightclubs!

Never liked going out at all and have always avoided night clubs like the plague.

Currently mid 50s and still like going out out.

I can pinpoint the exact time 😂. New Years Eve 2014 (I think) BIL used to come up and we’d have a big night out at a nightclub we all loved…2am, had drunk so much I threw up and something just clicked in me…nah, last time I’m doing this 😂. Was 29. Next year we got married and now 2 kids so good I got it out of my system. I still like a drink but prefer to stay in and go to bed at a reasonable time!

I think the hey day of out out for me was at uni and early 20’s, I literally used to live for it!

I'm 45 and still like going out but preferably if I can get home within 5 mins or have booked a hotel. Hate having to wait for a taxi and then have a journey home.

Early to mid 30s for me.

I'm 39 now. It's all about the day drinking, then home and in bed by 10pm at the latest. There are lots of places near me that have afternoon drinks promotions and are almost like clubs so I don't feel like I'm missing out.

It's less about the alcohol and more about my need for sleep.
The thought of staying up late makes me feel anxious (even having to stay out until midnight would be a no-no).

Until the pandemic I would have the occasional "accidental" late night out, but I would always massively regret it when I couldn't function for the two days after. I'm useless without sufficient sleep; I'm moody, anxious, struggle to focus, etc. Even 6/7 hours sleep is insufficient, I need 9-10 hours.

I'm 43 and still love an out out evening! They are very rare as I can't afford much these days but I miss the crazy nights out of my youth and would be doing that every weekend if I had the money, metabolism and fewer responsibilities!

30 when I met my now husband

OP I couldn't agree with your post more. I'm 29 also and in the exact same position as you. I dragged myself out out on new years and that will be the last of it 🤣

To clubs and pubs/bars, when i stopped drinking alcohol 3 years ago as a result of menopause (51 atm)

When I got pregnant at 30 that stopped me going out but up until then I loved going out out. I still love getting dolled up at 40 and going out out but the places I prefer to go have changed. I prefer bars, restaurants and day drinking now. And want to go to bars that aren't too loud so I can actually have a proper conversation with my friends.

I partied from about 15. Most Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays in the nightclubs. (I had a job and worked every night after school in a restaurant so always had money for nights out after my shifts. I also passed for much older and only ever got ID'd maybe twice!)

Got pretty bored of it by 20 or so. Met DH at 24 and we'd do the whole night out in town shit each week and then a three hour wait in the freezing cold until it was almost daylight again for the taxi back to our village 45 mins away because no town taxi would touch us because they could do a dozen or more short runs in that time and pre-booked ones never showed. After over a year of that I dared to admit I hated it. (Now) DH sagged with relief and said, "Thank God! Me too! Can we never do that again?!"
17 years later we still haven't been out drinking other than a wedding or two.

Realised over the weekend that although I like a bar for a few drinks clubbing or staying out past 11pm is not fun for me anymore.
I would feel very out of place in a club now honestly.

54 and love a night out dancing and a few drinks every couple of months. We are lucky to have a great venue nearby playing 'our' music, so good the dance floor gets invaded by 20-somethings every now and then, enjoying the retro sounds! It's just great fun, love catching up with friends and the buzz when another great song comes on and you just have to stay on the dance floor.

Around 25. With the odd few big nights until 30s.
I can honestly say I don't think id ever go to a nightclub again and I'm late 30s.
I like a pub, meal, cinema etc but even then maybe 3 or 4 times a year is ample for me

I'll let you know if it ever happens, but I very much doubt it will.

When people say they don't enjoy a night out...do they actually mean any? Bo bars, no dinners, no parties, no theatre trips, no nothing? Do they actually sit at home, every night, for like 50 years? Really?

@BrownEyedGhoul I do like going to the cinema or theatre but tend to go to showings that are early ones so would be home by 10 ish.
I've never been one for meals out - except for places like Pizza Express or Harvester which we would tend to go to in the daytime.
Don't do parties. No one in my family or friends circle does parties but we do things like a summer BBQ on a sunny afternoon.
So I might be "sitting at home every night" but I do still go out and do things.
I simply don't enjoy a 'night' out - I enjoy a 'day' out.

Honestly I don’t think I’ve ever enjoyed going out out. I’m early 20s. I like a drink and dressing up, but I’m not the best dancer and definitely can’t sing so I’m a bit awkward at clubs. If you’re not dancing or feeling the music then you’re just left to stand around, take photos and chat which is considered “boring”. Restaurants and bars are my happy medium.

Why do people think going out means a club?

@LahLahLoopsy in the case of this thread people were talking about going out all night (ie to the early hours of the morning) - clubs are the only places open at that time. Where else would you go (except a 24 hour McDonalds or A+E)?

Late bars, decent restaurants, late gigs. Peoples houses. Loads of places that aren't clubs

I have never really enjoyed going to bars, clubs etc but I developed enough self confidence to stop giving in to peer pressure to tag along when I was in my mid 20s. I more or less stopped drinking alcohol at the same time.
Mind you, even then I used to make up excuses not to go to work dos etc for years. It wasn't until I was well into middle age that I learned to say "No thanks, I don't want to come." Stupid really. I am sure everyone knew it couldn't really be true that I couldn't get childcare or a child was ill every single time there was a night out and that "I might see you down there" was always an outright lie, but somehow that was more acceptable than saying that I don't enjoy socialising in the same way as lots of other people. I don't know why that is really. I guess i was afraid of offending people.

@LahLahLoopsy oh well I have learned something new. I kinda thought most bars/restaurants etc closed by midnight and most gigs usually have to finish by then.
Isn't going to "people's houses" the opposite of going out though?

Probably when I finished uni at 28. I haven’t been ‘out out’ since my hen night when I was 34. Admittedly I loved it but it was because it was a novelty. My hen night was 9 years ago. I just prefer a meal and drinks now or having friends over.