To ask what age you stopped enjoying going “out out”

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Just that really. I’m 29 and living in the city as a working professional. Up until the last 6 months or so, I guess you could say I’ve very much lived a ‘work hard, play hard’ sort of lifestyle involving a lot of socialising, drinking and late nights out. Over the past few months it’s as though a switch has been flipped and suddenly it’s just no fun anymore. The idea of a cosy night in, or a nice meal out with a couple of drinks and being back at home and in bed by 12pm is far more appealing!

The majority of my friends here in the city around my age are still very much in to the party way of life and are showing no signs of slowing down… so I wondered, when did the switch happen for you?!

Probably slowed down around 33ish? Mine was more due to changing workplaces, as normally I'd be going out with workmates on a Friday night. I also moved so it was harder to spontaneously go out. Now at 42 I wouldn't mind it now and then but it's the hangover that scares me, I can't recover like I used to. Wouldn't mind a good boogie though. Miss those carefree days ... now a great night is a good movie at home

32ish? I split up from a long term boyfriend when I was 29 so got back into going 'out out', then met DH who is a few years younger than me so I went out a lot in the first couple of years we were together.

I haven't been able to go out on a school night since I was 30, and now I have a 7 month old baby I’m in bed by 9 most nights!

That said, I’ve never been keen on clubbing - always loved a bar (especially an indie bar) or a gig but I don't like dancing so even at 18 I hated clubs!

About 43. It was lockdown that stopped me and then after lockdown I found I was happy and settled and didn't fancy out out any more. I had enjoyed a great second wind after my divorce and now I just find the thought of a big night out unappealing in a way I thought I never would.

About 21. Went out out multiple times per week between 18-21 whilst at uni and with non uni friends. Overdid it and now as I'm in mid 30s couldn't think of anything worse than a night out out.

I can only go out out if there’s a seat.

In 43 and I'd say I got fed up about 5 years ago, maybe more, but I'd preferred day drinking prior to that anyway. Still like a drink in the house in my PJs, or a nice meal out and few drinks, but the thought of late nights stood in packed out bars and then having get home in the early hours fills me with dread and I've not had that sort of night out for around 5 years. When I think back, it was never that great and I had to be drunk to enjoy myself, so not sure it was ever really my thing in hindsight.

About 24, when I met DH

Late 20s. I partied hard from being a teen and living in London from 18.

Now early 30s I'd rather do a yoga relaxation event or have a nice treatment. I don't drink anymore and the idea of clubbing makes me go cold!

About 25 but was done with crappy clubs earlier

I still LOVE going out, I'm 48. Love dancing, drinking, sticky carpets, misadventure, just being out in the world. I can't do it as often as I used to though, don't get the time and can't take the pace! Probably have four or five really big nights a year (not inc festivals/holidays).

About 35. Now I prefer pubs and restaurants and sitting chatting not dancing. I have friends who still like a proper night out though (we are mid 40s).

About 27/28. I was sick of it before I'd stopped. I had an epic 5 years of travelling from 18-24 so really was all partied out. I much prefer a quiet pub or long drink filled dinner.

I never liked going out to pubs, clubs etc. I did it a few times, enough to know it wasn't for me. I've never been a drinker and hated being in smokey places when that was still allowed. I've always preferred second hand bookshops, cafe's, the cinema, concerts, art galleries, theatre, going for a meal than clubs and pubs. I remember being out when I was 18 wishing I was tucked up in bed with my book.

Am nearly 50. I love a gig or a sticky floored indie club and can dance all night. I'd rather go out for a proper night out (albeit less frequently than I used to) than sit drinking overpriced coffee in a cafe or shit prosecco in someone's living room.

Well aren't you a ray of fucking sunshine? Also it doesn't even make sense.

40

I don't go to pubs or clubs but I go to a lot of gigs, I never drink though because I'd need to pee every 5 minutes and end up missing most of it!

Probably early 30s. I was still living in London & used to go out quite often with work, but over time found myself making excuses why I couldn’t go or I’d just go out for a few hours and sneak off.

I still enjoy a good wedding and the odd birthday night out, getting dressed up, the music & dancing, but I don’t enjoy drinking or that side of it. Drunk people are very loud & annoying when you’re sober.

48 and still love it. Great having a dance with your friends why would you stop?

22 when I fell pregnant with my eldest.

40 and I still lgo to festivals and raves. Ill give up when my body gives up

Dunno, I'll let you know when it happens. 42 now, 43 this year. Go out every weekend. Don't get the weird superiority on MN about not enjoying a night out.

I'm 54 and still love going out out! One of my favourite things to do is going into town on the tube, seeing all the people coming in from Heathrow on the Piccadilly Line, imagining what they make of London and what they're going to do here! Then I like to go to lively, bustling places, with plenty of noise. Really missed it during lockdown.

Have memories of going to the West End with my parents at night as a kid and loved it then too.

It's even better now I'm older and able to get an Uber home if I want to.

@HisNameWasMike I certainly don't feel superior in any way because I don't enjoy a night out.
It's just one of those things I don't like.
Some people enjoy it, some don't. Everyone is different.

Never liked clubs / bars, always liked pubs. Have not changed this in decades.