Was this rude? (Please ignore if your problems are never trivial; this is!)

[SarahAndQuack]

DP and I went to a small party at my boss's home; he'd cooked a roast dinner. DP looked at it and said 'ooh, potato gratin for the third day in a row!' to me. I thought this was rude so said something like 'it all looks really delicious!' Since I'd not acknowledged the comment, DP repeated 'we've had potato gratin three days in a row now!' DP did also, to be fair, say it was delicious. We are now disagreeing. DP thinks it was a perfectly fine comment and doesn't really believe me that it was rude. I think it was rude.

Who is right?

Yes quite. There are many factual statements I don't put into spoken word because...well...it'd be exceedingly rude to do so!

Incredibly rude I would be mortified. Poor host.

So, she's aware her mum is rude?

I would have thought it would make her more careful.

Are you showing her this thread?

Just because something’s a statement of fact, doesn’t mean it’s not rude.

And it doesn’t matter if the DP doesn’t see anything wrong with the statement - clearly she doesn’t see anything wrong with it - she said it, and repeated it.

What matters, is that the person on the receiving end of the comment may perceive it as rude.

I imagine the OP is always semi-on edge when socialising with her DP, since she has no idea what might come out of her mouth. That’s not great.

He, she, what does it bloody matter. The question was whether what was said was rude, not what their gender is

Quite rude. Gauche and clumsy.

Those asking if DP struggles socially - I often feel a bit embarrassed by comments like these; DP always expresses complete bemusement and makes me feel I'm being overly sensitive; she really doesn't follow why it is rude.

Is it a class thing? She might not have been brought up to consider other’s feelings in this way, but to speak her mind.

Very rude

Yes, I think tone and body language would influence whether I thought it rude or not.
Did the hosts even hear or care?