Was this rude? (Please ignore if your problems are never trivial; this is!)

[SarahAndQuack]

DP and I went to a small party at my boss's home; he'd cooked a roast dinner. DP looked at it and said 'ooh, potato gratin for the third day in a row!' to me. I thought this was rude so said something like 'it all looks really delicious!' Since I'd not acknowledged the comment, DP repeated 'we've had potato gratin three days in a row now!' DP did also, to be fair, say it was delicious. We are now disagreeing. DP thinks it was a perfectly fine comment and doesn't really believe me that it was rude. I think it was rude.

Who is right?

Extremely rude. Id be so embarrassed

This made me laugh! I read a list somewhere once, which ended by saying if you had these traits, you could be autistic... or northern!

Clearly not to utter that statement again. Very rude and embarrassing.

It was rude. Saying that is on par with people complaining they did not like the food or drink provided which they did not pay for or cook.

Definitely rude and it doesn't sound like she loves gratin at all.

Once could be a slip of the tongue. Repeating it after you’d already awkwardly countered it is rude - either DP has no social skills/awareness of was deliberately trying to cause a reaction

I don't think so. If he said it cheerfully. Some people love potato gratin and 3 days in a row would be a treat. I certainly dont mind eating food i like repeatedly.

Agreed. It was uncalled-for, unnecessary, inappropriate, ungrateful and childish/uneducated comments. I'm on your side OP

The sad fact is when people are pointed out their mistakes etc and they argue against it, they will never learn.

To be fair while it's rude I would approach it dfferently if the DP was just socially clumsy than if she was deliberately making a point. If it was just a one-off thing and the DP is normally polite and tactful I'd let it go, if she's generally socially a bit clueless and I wanted to bring it up I'd be careful to do it really kindly. I know that I'd be mortified if I'd said something someone was offended by - I'm happy to learn and improve myself but if it was pointed out unkindly it could just lead to social anxiety which would just exacerbate social issues.

Rude, and I can't bear people who make attention seeking comments.

Unless your partner was expressing complete glee because potato gratin is their favourite thing in the world, probably rude and unnecessarily so as someone was hosting them!,

Very rude

In front of the host very rude and I would be majorly embarrassed. In front if my boss I would also be furious

Definitely rude

Your boss heard it?! That's so rude and ungrateful. If I were your boss that would really piss me off and probably affect how I saw you.

Did anyone apologise?

Made me laugh. DP is from Lancashire.

I would be very angry. Its as if your partner doesn't care about your job.

Sorry but it's just blatant ignorance at best.

If I was the host and one of my workers I'd invited to my home made a comment like that, I'd remove the plate from front of them as a joke

Agree it is socially clumsy, though not full-on rude given that she said it enthusiastically. In your place I'd feel particularly sensitive given that you were guests of your boss, and would expect your DP to be on absolutely best behaviour as a result.

I've heard a lot ruder, but it's not massively tactful, no. What would bother me more, though, is your dp refusing to countenance the possibility that someone else might see the comment in a different light. Doesn't show a lot of humility or respect for your opinion.

Rude and unnecessary. Your dp is either purposefully tactless or is totally socially unaware.

Would she be as rude to her boss? Most people would try to be extra polite to their boss and their DP's boss.
It was rude but I doubt your boss is still thinking about it.

Not rude... factual

I don't think it's that bad! I'm quite shocked at some of the comments about the dp on this thread, feel a bit sorry for her tbh

Just because it's factual doesn't mean it's not rude!