Page 31 | To be angry that my family banned me from Christmas for having covid

tantrumingcoldchild · 2023-01-02T02:42:08+00:00

I flew 4000 miles to see my parents for Christmas. I unfortunately have to live in a different country from them. I am asymptomatic but had to test due to being exposed to someone with COVID. My parent was supposed to pick me up from the airport but decided not to after the positive test. I see my parent once a year at most. They don't travel to see me. My parent and the rest of their family went ahead with the celebration but I was uninvited. Fortunately, my other parent picked me up and let me stay with them (my parents are divorced) They have agreed to meet me in a park tomorrow for an hour, which will be the extent of my time with them for the next year. AIBU to consider this relationship basically over?

Sundayvibes · 07/01/2023 14:44

ThisGirlNever · 07/01/2023 12:55

I completely agree.

Covid stopped being an issue in my life, as far as I was concerned, in May 2020.

It's been the biggest mass hysteria event in human history (except, perhaps, for organised religion).

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And look at all the collateral damage lockdowns have now caused.

ThisGirlNever · 07/01/2023 14:45

Britinme · 07/01/2023 14:02

Yes it's not as if anybody died or had long-term effects is it?

Quite right.

Until covid we all lived forever, just like in the Garden of Eden.

Twonewcats · 07/01/2023 14:50

Why did you even test if you weren't going to stay away from them if it was positive?
My parents wouldn't want me near them if i had it, regardless of how far I'd travelled. It absolutely wouldn't mean the relationship should be ruined forever!

Wiluli · 08/01/2023 12:44

SaponificationQueen · 06/01/2023 10:15

I see you named yourself well. Definitely childish.

I would not let you in my home with a positive COVID test no matter how far you had traveled. What about your child? You didn’t say whether he/she tested positive. Do you care about your child contracting a deadly virus? Wow.

I think your family might be better off if you choose not to spend a lot of money to travel to see them in the future. You obviously don’t have their best interest at heart. You only appear to care about the money you spent. I know people who are focused on money. I don’t spend much time around them. I prefer to be around people that care about people over money.

You are definitely unreasonable here.

what was she supposed to do with her child? What a stupid comment !
her family are vile , no way loving parents would leave their children and grandchildren without care , like I would never leave my parents , let alone at Christmas !

ancientgran · 08/01/2023 15:33

ThisGirlNever · 07/01/2023 12:55

I completely agree.

Covid stopped being an issue in my life, as far as I was concerned, in May 2020.

It's been the biggest mass hysteria event in human history (except, perhaps, for organised religion).

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That's lovely for you. Unfortunately I got covid in February 2022 and I am still struggling with long covid so it is a big issue for me.

No hysteria from me, I still go out, I see people, I don't wear a mask but it is an issue.

Graceloveslace · 18/10/2023 10:49

Absolutely selfish and unreasonable.
You seam to care more about the money than your parent life .
I think I know who's better off without who .
Do you even love them ?
NO amount of money would come into it .
I would of made the decision not to visit with COVID , without even consulting them , as I care more about my parent than the money . Sounds like you still have a lot of growing up to do .

HakunaMatiłda · 18/10/2023 10:54

Graceloveslace · 18/10/2023 10:49

Absolutely selfish and unreasonable.
You seam to care more about the money than your parent life .
I think I know who's better off without who .
Do you even love them ?
NO amount of money would come into it .
I would of made the decision not to visit with COVID , without even consulting them , as I care more about my parent than the money . Sounds like you still have a lot of growing up to do .

Pretty sure that 9 months on she will have done plenty of growing up!

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tantrumingcoldchild · 23/10/2023 12:10

@HakunaMatiłda

I have definitely done a lot of growing up!

The damage to my relationships with my parents hasn't been fully healed.

I have taken the view that it's important to keep people in your life, but ultimately I know these aren't people I can count on.

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TitaniasAss · 23/10/2023 12:50

tantrumingcoldchild · 23/10/2023 12:10

@HakunaMatiłda

I have definitely done a lot of growing up!

The damage to my relationships with my parents hasn't been fully healed.

I have taken the view that it's important to keep people in your life, but ultimately I know these aren't people I can count on.

Sorry to hear that OP, it sounds like some serious damage was done, which is such a shame.

I do think, however, that having people you can count on works both ways. Hope your festive period this year is a happier one when it comes.

cookiesbeforepookies · 23/10/2023 13:25

@tantrumingcoldchild has your parent contacted you since it happened? Has there been any remorse?

FeverBeam · 23/10/2023 13:35

Graceloveslace · 18/10/2023 10:49

Absolutely selfish and unreasonable.
You seam to care more about the money than your parent life .
I think I know who's better off without who .
Do you even love them ?
NO amount of money would come into it .
I would of made the decision not to visit with COVID , without even consulting them , as I care more about my parent than the money . Sounds like you still have a lot of growing up to do .

How do people like you even find ancient threads to contribute to? Seems a bit odd.

Meredithmama · 23/10/2023 16:39

As someone who lost their 7 year old son to Covid last April believe me when I say you should never take the risk of passing it on. What if one of your parents caught it and died from it?

Zebedee55 · 23/10/2023 18:33

My DH died of Covid last April. Don't take the risk of passing it on. Money can be replaced, humans can't.🙁

Ponoka7 · 23/10/2023 18:40

FeverBeam · 23/10/2023 13:35

How do people like you even find ancient threads to contribute to? Seems a bit odd.

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It's underneath all new threads under similar threads. I think people assume that they are recent.

My DP has long Covid and because of the state of the NHS and wait times in-between tests etc he's had no quality of life since April. Not everyone bounces back and it's starting to show that those that do, won't always. They were right to invite you.

midnightfirework · 23/10/2023 18:41

Meredithmama · 23/10/2023 16:39

As someone who lost their 7 year old son to Covid last April believe me when I say you should never take the risk of passing it on. What if one of your parents caught it and died from it?

I'm so sorry

Willyoujustbequiet · 23/10/2023 18:45

Meredithmama · 23/10/2023 16:39

As someone who lost their 7 year old son to Covid last April believe me when I say you should never take the risk of passing it on. What if one of your parents caught it and died from it?

I'm so very sorry for your unimaginable loss.

Sadly some people are so blinkered they can never see the bigger picture until it affects them personally.

Gingernan · 23/10/2023 18:59

If there is ANY risk to vulnerable people...oh just stay away! How can you even consider it?

ArcticSkewer · 23/10/2023 20:29

Gingernan · 23/10/2023 18:59

If there is ANY risk to vulnerable people...oh just stay away! How can you even consider it?

There you go op, something to think about if you catch covid again this Xmas