@JusteanBiscuits "What exactly has been taken away from men?!"
This is going to take some explaining! Firstly (full disclosure) I am a bisexual man, I was gay for years then met a woman. I am in a good profession, earning decent money and have a degree of middle-classness. I am as far from Tate as one can imagine, in fact I despise people like him because he sows division and hate within a society that is already rather unpleasant.
That said, I have spoken to MANY men over the years who believe much of what Tate says, in my professional life. A few themes always came up:
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Some men feel they have no "role" any longer. Whereas women can now do any range of things (and rightly so), some men feel pushed out. They don't have the status and their "breadwinning" days are long gone. Women can do everything men can do, men are often degraded for being stay at home parents etc.
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White men (straight particularly) are seen as "the most privileged" and it simply isn't reflected in their everyday experience. They are stuck on council estates, in dead end jobs, paying into a system and getting nothing out, no housing, no benefits, no compassion or empathy for how hard things are.
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They see other groups (not straight white and male) having a good moan about how awful things are for them and when they try to raise a genuine grievance it is often shouted down. They are told they are "privileged" and to "stop complaining, the patriarchy benefits you" and they think "that's bullshit, look at how shit my life is!"
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Male suicide rates, alcoholic/drug addiction, sexual harassment/assault, perceived unfairness in court proceedings, work related accidents/deaths, perceived unfair housing practices of LAs etc all get widely ignored and that fuels their HUGE amounts of anger.
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This is the big one that people overlook - some men think that they get told to be "nice, kind, caring" and that "looks don't matter". Yet they see women getting with "bad" guys who treat them bad and they think "this is all bullshit, it's stacked against me".
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Some men perceive that to be "masculine" is to be seen as "bad". Everything about them is "toxic" and needs to be purged from society. They are endlessly told that they need to show emotions, yet not the ones that get them in trouble. They take this message as being told if they are masculine they are fundamentally "wrong" and "evil" and "toxic".
That is the feeling I've gotten talking to HUNDREDS of men who have been in either prison services or radicalised - in a nutshell. They genuinely believe that the world has swung the opposite direction and that it is now stacked against them. They believe that whilst everyone else has gotten more rights they have seen a decrease in their overall worth and they aren't happy (who would be!)
The problem is that there is a kernel of truth in EVERY perspective and until we as a society hear ALL sides, we will never have unity. We (and I count myself on the side of doing the right thing) need to find a way where EVERYONE feels like they are winning. This means... listening to ALL sides and not dismissing them. Acknowledging that there is a tendency for neuroticism in all "groups" where people "believe" their narratives. We need to stop screaming and telling people they are toxic, bad, a scourge on the rest of society. This does NOT win people over. It is the exact same tactics these young men engage in to get women (and minority groups) to do what they want and it is NOT ok.
People like Tate (predators of vulnerable, often deeply unhappy young men) claim that to get ahead you have to be brutal, take no prisoners, treat women badly, show no mercy or respect, and be the "Top G" (apparently that stands for gangster rolls eyes)
I will paraphrase what someone once told me and it stuck with me because despite how completely deluded it was, this person actually believed this, 100%:
"there is currency in being oppressed. You can shut down conversation when you are oppressed. You say something and you are called an ist of some type. There is huge power in that. Everyone must have something to hang their victimhood on, even if its bullshit. Why can't people like me have a hanger? Society has treated me like shit, and then told me I should be grateful. F* them"
Obviously paraphrasing but that gives the main points of the conversation we had.