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To not have taken her DD to Pizza Express?

346 replies

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:40

As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

OP posts:
Liz1tummypain · 29/12/2022 10:05

You were not being unreasonable. She sounds a pain in the arse. Don't bother next time.

PixieLaLa · 29/12/2022 10:05

I didn't want to grass on a 6 year old

This sentence alone makes you sound weird to be fair!

JustTryingToBeUseful · 29/12/2022 10:05

Headabovetheparakeet · 29/12/2022 09:50

Do people really think that KFC is no worse than Pizza Express? It's been a while since I've had either but I would never think of them as the same in terms of nutrition, quality or experience.

Regardless, the other mum was incredibly rude.

nutrition-wise they are broadly similar. what a typical child will eat there is 80% carb (pizza is nutritionally about the same as a cheese sandwich but with very scanty cheese) - I know veg sticks are offered on the kids menu but not all kids will eat them, so I wouldn't consider pizza express a balanced or high quality meal but don't mind it as a treat. KFC is in broadly the same category yes. it's probably higher fat but kids need a lot of energy and don't need a low fat diet, and there's a lot more protein in a kfc than in a pizza. uneaten baked beans that kids reject doesn't contribute any more or less to their nutrition than uneaten carrot and cucumber sticks.

given the choice I would rather take kids to pizza express as at least then I can drink some wine and order something I like, but from the pov of the kids nutrition and experience I don't think there's much difference.

Violashift · 29/12/2022 10:30

What was so bad it was deleted? Feel like I have missed the final part of the situation.

OhmygodDont · 29/12/2022 10:35

Violashift · 29/12/2022 10:30

What was so bad it was deleted? Feel like I have missed the final part of the situation.

Think because it mentioned a name. It was just an arsehole text from the ops neighbour about blaming it on her DD and that if she had known it would just be a kfc she would of taken her DD to the cinema with her blah blah blah but I appreciate you watching her.

nothing bad from op.

Soubriquet · 29/12/2022 10:44

Awww I wish I could’ve seen the deleted reply cf mum sent

Cococomelon · 29/12/2022 11:18

I summarised the reply a couple of pages back

Perhaps OP can post again too though without the name!

Cococomelon · 29/12/2022 11:18

Did you reply to the neighbour @h2Oo ?

Lexi868 · 29/12/2022 11:56

Ok so for anyone joining at this point I'm going to also try my best with my memory to report the text:

Are you seriously blaming my daughter for this? Why didn't you stuck to the old plan. If I knew you were going to KFC I would have just sent DD with sister to the cinema. (Bla bla bla, a bit more bitchy shit)
but i do appreciate you taking her out so thanks for that.

It was something to this effect I think

Lexi868 · 29/12/2022 11:56
  • repost the text not report !
mooselooseaboothoose · 29/12/2022 13:43

I think the point (rudeness aside) is that the mother thought her child was getting one particular meal (and was grateful) but child ended up getting something she wouldn't have approved from the get go.

Some parents really don't want their kids to have those types of food. That is their right! Although pizza express isn't exactly gourmet it has a different setup to KFC, McDonald's etc. There's a way to communicate that though and it was very unkind of her to treat you like this OP. I always will notify parents of what children will be eating at my house or if we're out. I wouldn't want to put a child in an awkward position or give them something that would cause friction. In this case it's really an unfortunate incident which this mother has been awful about.

TangledWebofMincemeatDeception · 29/12/2022 13:51

No...it wasn't the type of food the neighbour had an issue with, it was that it wasn't expensive enough, or enough of a treat! So rude and entitled. No one has a right to dictate where their child eats when a neighbour has kindly offered or agreed to look after them. Although tbf I don't know if OP was paying...

It's not as if Pizza Express is particularly naice, anyway Confused nor is pasta automatically a much 'better' option than KFC, nutritionally or otherwise!

Emdubz · 29/12/2022 14:08

TangledWebofMincemeatDeception · 29/12/2022 13:51

No...it wasn't the type of food the neighbour had an issue with, it was that it wasn't expensive enough, or enough of a treat! So rude and entitled. No one has a right to dictate where their child eats when a neighbour has kindly offered or agreed to look after them. Although tbf I don't know if OP was paying...

It's not as if Pizza Express is particularly naice, anyway Confused nor is pasta automatically a much 'better' option than KFC, nutritionally or otherwise!

Exactly this. It wasn’t about nutrition. It was what CF mum deemed sufficient as a treat day out.

Burgoo · 29/12/2022 14:10

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Mummieslncorporated · 29/12/2022 14:30

Last time I was at KFC I had a rice box - mostly rice, beans, lettuce, sweetcorn, tomatoes with a single piece of chicken.

I think that's preferable to bread with a thin layer of tomato sauce and some cheese, personally.

Bbq1 · 29/12/2022 14:41

How is it "grassing" to say your dd cried because there was no pasta so we went to Kfc??
Also the mum needs to know that pizza and kfc are BOTH fast food.

Ramsbottom · 29/12/2022 14:44

I can’t believe you actually wrote grassing on a 6 year old like you yourself were a child.

as a grown up you simply answer as am adult.

FrazzledFirefly · 29/12/2022 14:59

Some of the replies on here are weird...

OP, I think, used the wrong terminology when she referred to "grassing" on a six year old child. I presume she meant she didn't want to draw attention to the child's bad behaviour and probably didn't realise the KFC substitute would cause such issues!

Any further updates OP?

SaintLoy · 29/12/2022 15:02

Isn't 6 a bit old to be crying about pasta?

MrsKnows · 29/12/2022 18:00

Definitely tell her it’s because her daughter had a tantrum. You should’ve said so immediately - you were doing her a favour! If she doesn’t believe you, show her these messages! Outrageous ingratitude!

greentwig · 29/12/2022 18:00

It’s probably that you didn’t tell her where you’d been when you dropped her back. If they were expecting her DD to go to Pizza Express and you didn’t mention the change of plan when you took her back and they heard it instead from their 6yo then that is a bit strange. 6 is still little; there’s normally some communication around what they did at the end. So it’s probably more about hearing it from her.

Gardengirl108 · 29/12/2022 18:52

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:43

I didn't want to grass on a 6 year old and start moaning that we had to go elsewhere because she was upset Blush

No, you didn’t want to admit to the girl’s mum that you weren’t the adult in the room and caved in to a 6 year old having a trantrum about pasta.

Nannygoat151 · 29/12/2022 19:19

Tell her what happened and why

Justbefair · 29/12/2022 19:40

Just tell her the truth?

Toomuchtrouble4me · 29/12/2022 21:16

She’s sent you a really shitty message!
Dear neighbour, when we got to Pizza Express they had no pasta and your DD had a meltdown and was crying. She didn’t want to go in, to placate her we decided on KFC.
I hope you enjoyed your one to one time with other DD which I thought was why I was taking her in the first place.
PS - You’re welcome.