To not have taken her DD to Pizza Express?

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As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

And further....... all the sauces have to be the same. Pizza Express, McDonalds, KFC, every SINGLE pub chain.........they all work on the same premise that it will be the same no matter where you go. That if you go to PE and order their Carbonara it will taste the same in Plymouth and Preston and Peterborough.

And people being arseholes means that they will complain if it doesnt.

Lol I was wondering the same 😂

Like mother like daughter. Ungrateful brats.

I'd want to find out the nutritional value of what she ate compared to a pizza express pasta, then write an essay on the comparisons and post it to her.

Lol at the lost then found bag. So unnecessary to the story.

My only text to OP would've been to thank her for treating my child to a meal out. Nothing to sort out other that my dc's lack of gratitude and difficulty with disappointment. 🤷‍♀️

I imagine it was relevant to:

• missing out on the last services of pasta before PE ran out, and
• making neighbour's kid hangry and emotional.

Clearly OP thinks it contributed in some way, perhaps in the throes of a text war with her absolute arsehole neighbour she forgot to explain why.

Why do I sound weird?

Don't think so. KFC is a 5 minute walk from pizza express

No she doesn't have my DC. She once had her, think she had homemade pasta. Not relevant really as it's a one off fast food visit in this example

Guessing it's the bag thing but I assumed you mentioned it because it made you late. Only logical explanation, you were not weird in the slightest.

Probably just meant that they were running behind schedule as OP trying to find bag. I do this all the time trying to scoop up cards/keys/phone.

Then just Let the mother think what she wants to think.

you behaved totally reasonably and made the right call. it was weird of your friend to get the hump about decisions you had to make on the fly due to circumstances beyond your control, but also very weird of you not to want to communicate the reality of what happened. it's totally normal for a 6yo to get upset if they were expecting a favourite thing and it's not available. it's not "grassing" to tell a parent when something happens to upset a 6yo, and your solution was a perfectly reasonable last-minute plan-adjustment.

I am wondering about your "friendship" though. your friend was reacting as if you had dishonestly claimed you were planning a pizza express trip but secretly planned to substitute a cheaper inferior eatery as a devious deception. meanwhile it doesn't occur to you to give her details of what actually happened. do the two of you even like each other? how does a friendship thrive if this is how you interact with each other?

I’d be texting to say something like “Well now I know where your DD gets her tantrummy behaviour from. Don’t you think you’re both a little entitled in this particular case?”

Anyone fancy giving me an idea of what the neighbours text said?

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I would be happier letting someone take my child to pizza express than KFC, so I would be a little disappointed at the switch. (No, I don't think pe is a fancy restaurant, but it's not deep fried and there's a lot more vegetables). Obviously batshit to complain about it, it's already done and even the best laid plans can go awry.

Boggled by the poster who thinks that knowing the number of calories is equal to knowing nutritional content!

I assumed the bag story was just to illustrate that everyone had got a bit over hungry and op didn't have time to travel to a different restaurant/just needed to get the kids fed.

The neighbour's text said something like So you are blaming my child now? Why? Then something else (if I'd known it was only kfc I'd have taken her to the cinema with me and other child) and ended with I appreciate you taking her out 😂

Ah, thank you!
What a nut job.

oh and I think it said you just need to admit that you didn't do what you said you were gonna do

very rude

The mother was so rude but if you had taken my child to KFC I would be really upset. I have never taken my children there (or McDs etc). It's something that I probably would have to tell someone who was taking my children out for food though as I wouldn't want this type of awkward situation. I would never be rude to someone like she has though. This isn't a very popular opinion though so I'm expecting no one to understand!

YABU for not just saying what happened in the first place.

The mother was so rude but if you had taken my child to KFC I would be really upset.

I can understand this if it contravenes religious beliefs or they've eaten meat and you're all vegetarians.

Beyond that, I'd be grateful that someone had taken my child out for dinner, not dictate where everyone else has to go for the sake of one child. KFC may be a slightly questionable option on health grounds but it's just one meal, not the work of the devil.

Do people really think that KFC is no worse than Pizza Express? It's been a while since I've had either but I would never think of them as the same in terms of nutrition, quality or experience.

Regardless, the other mum was incredibly rude.

I actually had take away kfc after not having it for erm 10 years. It went in the bin, one child refused to even touch it, second child ate the sweetcorn and a couple of chips, third child ate sweetcorn and a bit of popcorn chicken. Now it’s never been my favourite thus 10 years but it has gone to shit tbh. My friend did the typical ew you bought rats for dinner when I told her I was getting a kfc 😂 I’d definitely prefer a pizza express pizza over a kfc any day in my life or even a Burger King and I don’t like their chips either.

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