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Original poster

To not have taken her DD to Pizza Express?

346 replies

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:40

As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 28/12/2022 19:41

Why not? Just tell her what happened and say next time you won’t bother.

Savoretti · 28/12/2022 19:41

Why didn’t you just tell her the truth?

Tacocatgoatcheesepizza · 28/12/2022 19:42

Why wouldn’t you say that?

Your daughter got upset because they didn’t have any pasta so we had to go somewhere else.

I certainly would tell her the reason why and I wouldn’t be having her again either unless the mum apologised!

MelchiorsMistress · 28/12/2022 19:42

Why wouldn’t you tell her that it was her dd who had a tantrum leading to you going to kfc?

She’s asked, so you tell.

OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 28/12/2022 19:42

Tell her there was no pasta
HER daughter cried
So that was the alternative
End of

dementedpixie · 28/12/2022 19:42

Could you not just have said there was no pasta and by mutual agreement of her dd and your dd you all went to KFC instead

HeddaGarbled · 28/12/2022 19:43

No need to be upset. Just answer the question. Explain why. Keep it short, factual and don’t over-justify, nor feel any need to abase yourself.

MzHz · 28/12/2022 19:43

just Tell her! It will not do anyone any harm

Original poster
h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:43

I didn't want to grass on a 6 year old and start moaning that we had to go elsewhere because she was upset Blush

OP posts:
RedPost · 28/12/2022 19:43

Yes, I don't know why you wouldn't just tell her either

Original poster
h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:43

dementedpixie · 28/12/2022 19:42

Could you not just have said there was no pasta and by mutual agreement of her dd and your dd you all went to KFC instead

Why didn't I think of that 😐

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 28/12/2022 19:43

I wouldn't be doing her any more favours.

VanillaImpulse · 28/12/2022 19:44

It's hardly grassing, she's not going to get in trouble for it is she?

dementedpixie · 28/12/2022 19:44

You dont have to say her dd cried. Just say you all agreed to go elsewhere as there was no pasta

RedPost · 28/12/2022 19:44

I don't now why it's "grassing". 6yo got upset so you changed your plans. It's not awful that 6yo got upset when disappointed.

TangledWebofMincemeatDeception · 28/12/2022 19:44

Well that’s the truth so that’s what you should say!

And I’d not do any more favours for this neighbour.

Original poster
h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:45

RedPost · 28/12/2022 19:44

I don't now why it's "grassing". 6yo got upset so you changed your plans. It's not awful that 6yo got upset when disappointed.

Yes that's very true

I have now text to say her DD was disappointed there was no pasta. So I asked if they fancied KFC and we all agreed on it

Message done

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fruitbrewhaha · 28/12/2022 19:45

Grass her up? Jesus, grow up will you. You’re an adult taking care of someone else’s child and they have asked why, so tell her why.

LadyKenya · 28/12/2022 19:45

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:43

I didn't want to grass on a 6 year old and start moaning that we had to go elsewhere because she was upset Blush

Why would you be moaning? How is saying what happened grassing? Just tell her, it is not a biggie.

SchrodingersKettle · 28/12/2022 19:45

Text message

KylieCharlene · 28/12/2022 19:46

I'd tell her you and your DD wanted to go to the pizza place but her DD threw a tantrum.
I'd tell her now.
The cheeky pig.

Merryoldgoat · 28/12/2022 19:46

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:43

I didn't want to grass on a 6 year old and start moaning that we had to go elsewhere because she was upset Blush

You’d rather take shit from someone who can’t even be grateful for you looking after her child?

I would want to know if my child behaved like that.

BabyFour2023 · 28/12/2022 19:47

Well to be fair, she thought she was going out for pasta. Wouldn’t it of been better to take them somewhere else for pasta instead of a kfc?

LadyKenya · 28/12/2022 19:48

KylieCharlene · 28/12/2022 19:46

I'd tell her you and your DD wanted to go to the pizza place but her DD threw a tantrum.
I'd tell her now.
The cheeky pig.

Wow, harsh.

RewildingAmbridge · 28/12/2022 19:48

I would absolutely wasn't too know if my DS had behaved like this, because there would be a conversation to be had about manners

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