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To not have taken her DD to Pizza Express?

346 replies

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:40

As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

OP posts:
MrsMiddleMother · 28/12/2022 20:33

I either wouldn't reply or just put a thumbs up. Cheeky fuck

Whydothat · 28/12/2022 20:33

What a nutter, poor kids.
I'd be furious however the sensible option is to disengage.

SemperIdem · 28/12/2022 20:34

Notjustabrunette · 28/12/2022 20:28

And now I fancy a bowl of pasta and a KFC.

Mac and cheese with southern fried chicken 👌🏻

Ellie1015 · 28/12/2022 20:34

Awful. Would not have that child over again.

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 28/12/2022 20:34

SleepingStandingUp · 28/12/2022 20:10

Omg op is she actually a friend?

I'd be inclined to reply

I took her out with us because you asked for time alone with Gab. Betty cried in Pizza Hut and didn't want to stay. No blame, she's 6 and was disappointed. She enjoyed KFC. This is not how you thank someone for doing you a favour.

Definitely this response.

SemperIdem · 28/12/2022 20:34

Op - this woman is an idiot. Block her or tell her to fuck off.

MerryChristmasTree · 28/12/2022 20:36

"If I'd known your daughter was going to cry because there was no pasta at Pizza Express I'd have refused to take her. Seems we're both unhappy with the favour I did for you."

Oh I like this!

You definitely need to reply telling her not to worry you won’t be doing it again.

Redebs · 28/12/2022 20:38

h2Oo · 28/12/2022 19:40

As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

This actually doesn't make sense. What was the relevance of losing the bag?
Why did the daughter's friend say it was all pointless?
Why did the girl's mother get upset about having fast food if she thought they were going to Pizza Express for fast food?
What has the cinema got to do with it?
Who is Gab?

BringBackFoilWrappers · 28/12/2022 20:40

I'd tell her I won't be having your daughter again if this is the reply I get got doing you a favour.
Now fuck off you cheeky mare.

July70 · 28/12/2022 20:40

Sell up and move.

specialk9 · 28/12/2022 20:41

This can't be real. Surely there are not people who would reply like that Confused

Cococomelon · 28/12/2022 20:41

Yes what has your bag got up so with it

Dontsayyouloveme · 28/12/2022 20:42

I’d put ‘I’m sorry your daughter missed out today because she wouldn’t eat the food they had in pizza express! Unfortunately, as you’re blaming me for what happened earlier I won’t be able to look after your daughter again, in case these circumstances arise again.’

SemperIdem · 28/12/2022 20:43

Redebs · 28/12/2022 20:38

This actually doesn't make sense. What was the relevance of losing the bag?
Why did the daughter's friend say it was all pointless?
Why did the girl's mother get upset about having fast food if she thought they were going to Pizza Express for fast food?
What has the cinema got to do with it?
Who is Gab?

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Not sure of the relevance of losing the bag.

But I’d assume Gab is the neighbours older daughter. Neighbour wanted to take Gab to the cinema without the little one.

The neighbour is the sort of person for whom Pizza Express is fine dining

BudgeUpAnne · 28/12/2022 20:45

Is the relevance of the bag that it took you ages to find it, which delayed you, and had you left earlier there would have still been pasta available??

CottonSock · 28/12/2022 20:46

Ffs she's 6. Why do you think her being upset is grassing on her. Very odd.

FlounderingFruitcake · 28/12/2022 20:46

DairyDiary · 28/12/2022 19:58

People who give responses like this baffle me - where do you live to think that everywhere has an abundance of restaurants? Have you literally never stepped foot outside a city?

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I live in fairly central london and there’s no pizza hut or frankie and bennys anywhere near me either! It’s a weird presumption that everywhere has those sort of chains, I thought they were more airport/leisure complex sort of places than typical high street? And the pubs nearby all do things like sausages and mash, mini fish and chips etc on the kids menu.

As for OP’s neighbour though, what a weirdo! I’d reply asking if she expected OP to force feed her crying daughter a sloppy guiseppe or if she’d rather she took her somewhere where she actually wanted to eat the food (KFC)?

Emdubz · 28/12/2022 20:47

BudgeUpAnne · 28/12/2022 20:45

Is the relevance of the bag that it took you ages to find it, which delayed you, and had you left earlier there would have still been pasta available??

That’s how I read it too.

Smashingpumpkinsatchristmas · 28/12/2022 20:47

What an ungrateful cow. Actually lost for words, other than tell her to piss off and it’s ‘which’

FrazzledFirefly · 28/12/2022 20:47

Redebs · 28/12/2022 20:38

This actually doesn't make sense. What was the relevance of losing the bag?
Why did the daughter's friend say it was all pointless?
Why did the girl's mother get upset about having fast food if she thought they were going to Pizza Express for fast food?
What has the cinema got to do with it?
Who is Gab?

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Think the OP is just setting the scene with the bag - was rushing around looking for it which delayed them and got to restaurant to find no pasta.

Friends DD said it was pointless as no pasta I presume.

Girls mother is an idiot.

Girls mother was taking the sister (Gab) to the cinema as a treat - which is why OP had the other sister.

Honestly, I'm wondering why people are picking holes in OPs post.

OP I'd not respond to the awful text message. Ignore, don't engage and don't do her a favour again.

FrazzledFirefly · 28/12/2022 20:49

CottonSock · 28/12/2022 20:46

Ffs she's 6. Why do you think her being upset is grassing on her. Very odd.

The girls mother sounds unhinged. No wonder OP didn't want to "grass up" the child.

Comeonbarbiebrianharvey · 28/12/2022 20:51

What could you have done, rung her to say plan changed when she was in cinema? What could she do. I hope you didn't pay.

Kid has gone home and had a melt down because of cinema Fomo.

I'd say i love pizza express but she cried and wanted to go, but it's fine she's 6. It was stressful and we were all hungry.

Or just block the psycho.

EricNorthmanYesPlease · 28/12/2022 20:52

BabyFour2023 · 28/12/2022 19:53

Really? No Frankie & bennys, no pubs, no Pizza Hut? Nowhere?

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Are you the neighbour!?
The OP was doing something nice for someone and you are berating her

CottonSock · 28/12/2022 20:52

To be honest I'd not read the mother's reply. This is not normal behaviour. I'd be giving her a piece of my mind and ending contact probably

WiddlinDiddlin · 28/12/2022 20:52

WTAF?

'I changed the plan as your daughter was upset that Pizza Express had no pasta, KFC was what she agreed she'd like. I have not denied we went to KFC, we did go to KFC, it was never a secret, plans do sometimes change and when they do it is not an attempt to deceive you!
Glad you appreciate that I did you a favour, it will be the last time I bother!'