To not have taken her DD to Pizza Express?

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As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

Why not?

How will children ever learn to adapt and modify their behaviour if adults don't address it?

"Sorry you're upset we went to KFC instead. When we got to PE your DD was in tears because they'd run out of pasta. She wanted to leave. So we all agreed on KFC instead. If I decide to take her out again what would you suggest I do if the situation arises again?"

Basically indicates you'll likely never offer again as it's clear when the 6yo gets their behaviour from and asks her what she'd do - not that you'd care but outs ball in her court!

Why is pizza express so much better than KFC? My kids would think either was a treat.

I mean it’s probably marginally more nutritious I guess, wouldn’t exactly call it haute cuisine.

Is it the fact it is more expensive? Is she pissed she didn’t get max expenditure out of you? She does sound like a grabby, entitled idiot.

This is crazy 😳 you did something nice by taking her DD out and that's the 'thank you' you get 😳

I had a friend like this once.

Nite the had and once in that sentence.

Cheeky fucking bugger.

Yeah. As someone else has said: ‘You’re welcome. Have a good evening’ will suffice.

Don’t give the ping-pong any more mental or emotional energy. She’s clearly not about to turn around and go ‘oh yeah - you’re right, I have been so unreasonable’.

Wow she is so rude! I wouldn’t be looking after her DD again.

Chuckling that the cheeky bint thinks that Pizza Express is a real meal.
Ignore her now and do no more favours.

Reply back:

'im not blaming anyone, that's what's happened, in future, next time you need a favour and someone to look after your dd don't ask me, you ungrateful cow'

Such a weird response. Where I live we have a pub, a KFC and a Prezzo. I don’t think the pub serves pasta… we don’t even have a McDonalds within half an hour!

OP, will you have to interact with her much going forwards? I think I’d probably say something like “No, not blaming, just answering your question. We had a good time. See you soon, anyway.” and then avoid her like the absolute plague!

The OP isn’t ridiculous at all!!!

“Please be assured, this will never happen again”. “Ever!”

Then find some new friends for your Dd.

The bit where she says “thanks for taking her I appreciate that” is a blatant attempt to keep open the possibility of you taking the DC again in future. What a chancer.

Tell her you saw a minor royal there and decided to give it a swerve

‘you clearly don’t appreciate it. next time go fuck yourself’ suggested response

Honestly I wouldn't be replying if I got that message, because it sounds like the start of the sort of tabloid drama you get around one of those 'trouble on the estate' sort of families who collect ASBOs & have feuds with their neighbours.

Don't engage, just disengage & find more sane people to interact with.

I'd just block her tbh.

Oh and with my ex friend I wouldn't respond to texts like that.

I know for a fact that wound her up more and she'd end up apologising days later.

Eventually I found a backbone and stopped replying full stop.

Funny how my favours for her were never right but yet I can't ever remember her ever doing one for me.

Wow. So rude. You did a nice thing and that was her response. I would never look after her DD again and keep this woman at arms length.

Don't engage further with this total loon. There is nothing to gain.

Just send 'You're welcome' to end the conversation. Don't respond to anything else.

Then no more favours, no more babysitting.

You did nothing wrong OP, but I can see why you were reluctant to reply when this was who you were dealing with!!

And now I fancy a bowl of pasta and a KFC.

Ohhhhh she can fuck right off! Bloody nutcase.

No way would I ever be having her DD again!!

You would have to have the last word after receiving a text like that, for your own self-respect and sanity! I could not let that go. Call her out in no uncertain terms and then block her. And if she approaches you in the street afterwards, just blank her for as long as it takes until she realises you're serious about never speaking to her again.

You have been kind OP and have done nothing wrong. Don’t engage further, block her number and certainly never do any favours for this person again. I can’t believe how rude some people are!

Tbh you sounded scared of her. And after her rude reply I can see why.
No more favours for this lady.