To not have taken her DD to Pizza Express?

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As a favour for a neighbour, I was taking her DD to Pizza Express with my DD (her friend)

We were all set to go and then I couldn't find my bloody bag! Found it. Went there, went to go in and they announced they didn't have any pasta left

My friend's DD started crying and was really not happy. She said it's all pointless, and that she wants to go

So we did go. And I took them to KFC. They were happy with that

When I dropped her home, she told her mum. Next thing I know, I get a text asking why I said I'd be going Pizza express when I just went KFC? And if she'd known I was only going for fast food, she would've taken her to the cinema with the older DD (I did this as a favour so she could spend some time with her older DD for her birthday)

AIBU to be upset? Not even sure how to reply! I didn't and won't say her DD had a tantrum and that's why we didn't go

It really isn't.

Reply "you don't sound like you appreciate it" and then ignore all communication until she backtracks or apologises. I think we all thought YABU but clearly you knew this woman was nuts - probably should've mentioned that in the OP haha.

She's a nutter, gobby and aggressive and she can't spell.

Idiot. That's the last favour you do her op if you have any spine at all.

Listen, if my neighbour was kind enough to take my kid out and my kid ate their food, I'd be delighted. KFC, McDonald's, wherever. Its not like her text message makes her sound that eloquent so what is her issue with KFC?

What on earth is wrong with some people!

"Don't be so fucking rude. Needless to say I won't be helping out again".

THIS ^^ with Christmas bells on.

Why is everyone fixated on pasta?

Why was pasta so important?

I'm so confused.

You took her daughter out for food, she ate some food. The end.

I really don't get why there is any drama.

"All I have done is tell you what happened. I'm sorry that you didn't like it but there's nothing I can do about that. We won't do this again. Bye now."

Jeez

What a weirdo

People who give responses like this baffle me - where do you live to think that everywhere has an abundance of restaurants? Have you literally never stepped foot outside a city?

Text back

‘Please don’t accuse me of lying. I was doing you a favour and plans changed. I won’t bother in future.’

Your neighbour sounds rough.

Reply:

I’m not blaming anyone but didn’t want to force a child who was crying and wanted to leave to stay and eat something she didn’t want. Maybe it’s best if I don’t babysit any more as I always seem to make the wrong choices! See you around, OP.

Cheeky bitch!!!!

I would text back "wow, I am actually mortified for you right now 🤣 Anyway, at least I know never to bother again. And FYI putting "I appreciate it" at the end of a rude text doesn't make it any less rude"

Cow

She sounds...Nice..

Really? No Frankie & bennys, no pubs, no Pizza Hut? Nowhere?

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Why are people acting like going to pizza express was binding by law? What the fuck does it matter where they ate?

You've obviously never had pasta cooked correctly then!

Well she sounds bat shit so at least that’s one off the Christmas card list for next year.

I mean I get pizza express and kfc are slightly different dining experiences but you took her kid out and paid for it so she could have one on one with her other kid. This is a case where even if she was grumpy she should have kept her gob shut.

Your friend is a CF and if she considers pizza express to be the height of cuisine frankly she needs to up the standards at home. I could well imagine my dd not wanting to go either, she likes pasta but won't eat pizza, she too would have been happy with a kfc. I'd not feel obliged to do her a favour again. I'd respond to her text with something along the lines of, 'not blaming your dd just explaining what happened. Frankly if I'd have known it would have caused this much of an issue I wouldn't have bothered'. However it depends whether you are OK with losing this friendship.

“I changed the plan as your daughter cried when she found out there was no pasta. And don’t worry, there’s no danger of this happening again as if that’s your reaction to me trying to make your daughter happy”

God this sounds awful. What a complete cow. Surely everyone ends up in situations like this where the day doesn't go to plan and the thing we are going to do isn't what we end up doing?
I would just cut contact until she comes back with an apology. I had similar issues with a CF mum of my daughters friend. When I took her to the museum once and then Greggs, she asked if I knew there was a lovely health food cafe nearby (average sandwich price- about £8) I mean, these people!

@BabyFour2023 Yes some towns - like mine - have no Frankie & Bennys no Pizza Hut just Pizza Express, KFC & McDonalds! Shock horror!

I would just text back 'no problem 🙂' and secretly think the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.

I think it's pretty telling that this woman thinks Pizza Express is "a good meal" but KFC is "mean". Any 6yo who doesn't view KFC as a rare occurrence but views "a good meal" as a treat doesn't exactly have exemplar parenting.

"I'm not blaming your child for anything. You asked why we didn't go to Pizza Express, I explained that your DD was upset they didn't have any pasta so I asked the DC where they wanted to go and they chose KFC. If you're not happy with that then in future please don't ask any favours of me that involve looking after your child as I cannot guarantee that plans won't change due to logistical issues like today and you have made it very clear that this is not acceptable to you."

Job done ... And never babysit for the CF ever again