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Wont stop asking!

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Castleontheisland · 28/12/2022 05:05

Name changed for this as my other threads are quite outing. Sorry its long!

Me and partner are away for a few days over Christmas, our next door neighbour has a spare key for our house for emergencies (we have their spare house key as well). We are not close friends just normal neighbours, They have had family visiting over Christmas/new year. On boxing day they text me and asked if some of their family could sleep in our home as more of the family had arrive unexpectedly! We said no because beds need changing and heating not on etc.(also I dont want strangers in my home)Well since then we have had text after text asking over and over again! I have also repeatedly tried to ring them but they are not picking up! The last one was very late last night (I was already in bed asleep)asking again and saying the family who they want to stay's car has broken down! I feel like packing up here and going home now as so worried they will just use my house anyway! I dont have any friends or family nearby who can check on my home. My partner has said they surely wont just use our house but I'm not sure they wont. 😥

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Castleontheisland · 28/12/2022 08:42

HotChoxs · 28/12/2022 08:37

Yes they really need to do check this. I think also should be aware:

www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/bills/article-8910239/Is-OK-leave-spare-set-keys-neighbour-invalid-insurance.html

I can't believe these CF's. Awful.

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Good god I never knew this! I thought I was being a good neighbour. Definitely getting the keys back and changing all the locks.

OP posts:
Inkpotlover · 28/12/2022 08:42

Castleontheisland · 28/12/2022 08:37

Thank you all for your kind support and advice it is much appreciated. I have text 4 times and I have also left a voicemail this morning. Still not picking up. My sisters husband is leaving work early today and picking my sister and my mum up and the 3 of them are going to check my house (its about 80 to 90 minutes drive away for them)

They might be long gone by then, though. I'd do what a PP suggested and send a local taxi firm round asap to bang on the door. If anyone answers, you have your answer.

DontFeatureMeOnSocialMedia · 28/12/2022 08:43

Do you have an Alexa you could listen in on?

wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 28/12/2022 08:43

Oh and sorry to be nosey but do please update us as to the situation at your house.

nancydroo · 28/12/2022 08:43

dolor · 28/12/2022 05:12

Sounds like they've already done it.

Yea. Let us know if they're in there when you get back OP

CrunchyCarrot · 28/12/2022 08:44

I would be livid and reading them the riot act the second I got home. Get the keys back and change your locks as well. It's a totally unacceptable situation. I suspect the 'car breakdown' is manufactured to get you to give in.

Good you have your family who can check what's going on.

BrutusMcDogface · 28/12/2022 08:46

The thought of someone invading my privacy like this would give me the absolute creeps. Im sorry your break away has been ruined like this!

starfishmummy · 28/12/2022 08:46

Overthebow · 28/12/2022 07:37

Yep they’re already using it and now trying to get your permission to cover their tracks.

This. I suspect something has been damaged.....

Ritasueandwhatshisfacetoo · 28/12/2022 08:46

I’m horrified at this! I wouldn’t even ask my best friend if I could have family use their house. It’s just beyond rude and out of order.

fenellavonspurtz · 28/12/2022 08:49

After this is done, I would be instigating a community order via the police and get the neighbour warned off. Oh and change the locks as PP have said. Cheeky fuckers!! I would be coming back at an ungodly hour and awakening everyone with a rape alarm and shouting.

Squiblet · 28/12/2022 08:51

Not sure what the big deal is? I would have just said yes. If they want to sleep on dirty sheets it's their look out.

StripeyDeckchair · 28/12/2022 08:51

I would go home.
I would plan to arrive either early morning or late at night.
That way you find the truth and they can't lie to you.

Personally I'd try to get home at 6am, go in turn on the lights, music, open & close doors etc.
I'd have my phone on video and capture the evidence.
If I found strangers In my beds I'd throw them and their stuff out without a qualm (videoing it all to go with all the texts saying they couldn't use your house.

I'd later send round a bill for the washing, anything in your house they'd used (heating etc) and me having to come home early.

If they get stroppy I'd have absolutely no problem putting it on local Next Door or whatever to warn off other neighbours.

Inkpotlover · 28/12/2022 08:51

Squiblet · 28/12/2022 08:51

Not sure what the big deal is? I would have just said yes. If they want to sleep on dirty sheets it's their look out.

Course you would.

grayhairdontcare · 28/12/2022 08:54

Get your mum and sister to get the key and take it with them

NOTANUM · 28/12/2022 08:54

What time are your family going around? Yes I may be getting the popcorn in!

AngelontopoftheTree · 28/12/2022 08:55

I can't believe 3% of prior corr YABU, you are so not! To be honest, I think I'd have to go home and check, and as PP said, arrive at 6am for maximum impact if they're there.

PotatoScone1 · 28/12/2022 08:55

This is actually nuts! What terrible people!

AngelontopoftheTree · 28/12/2022 08:56

AngelontopoftheTree · 28/12/2022 08:55

I can't believe 3% of prior corr YABU, you are so not! To be honest, I think I'd have to go home and check, and as PP said, arrive at 6am for maximum impact if they're there.

Prior corr??? Meant to be people voted 🥴

SoSweetAndSalty · 28/12/2022 08:56

FromEden · 28/12/2022 06:42

This is so ending up on the daily mail

Absolutely! Wonder how long it will take.

Cheeseandlobster · 28/12/2022 09:01

I can't get over the cheek of some people. And to then ignore your messages. Disgusting behaviour!

Sunsetintheeast · 28/12/2022 09:03

That's so rude.

Howeverdoyouneedme · 28/12/2022 09:06

YANBU

weddinglovepure · 28/12/2022 09:07

Hi,
I am sorry but this is totally unrelated to the thread. I'd like to post something about that is bothering me but I am unable to start a thread on this website, how to do that? If someone could help, that would be great.

Hobbesmanc · 28/12/2022 09:07

Squiblet · 28/12/2022 08:51

Not sure what the big deal is? I would have just said yes. If they want to sleep on dirty sheets it's their look out.

They're complete strangers. Why would you let randoms sleep in your house when you aren't there. With your valuables and personal stuff,

if you can't see that as an issue you're either very naive or just posting drivel. Or nine years old.

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