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Wont stop asking!

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Castleontheisland · 28/12/2022 05:05

Name changed for this as my other threads are quite outing. Sorry its long!

Me and partner are away for a few days over Christmas, our next door neighbour has a spare key for our house for emergencies (we have their spare house key as well). We are not close friends just normal neighbours, They have had family visiting over Christmas/new year. On boxing day they text me and asked if some of their family could sleep in our home as more of the family had arrive unexpectedly! We said no because beds need changing and heating not on etc.(also I dont want strangers in my home)Well since then we have had text after text asking over and over again! I have also repeatedly tried to ring them but they are not picking up! The last one was very late last night (I was already in bed asleep)asking again and saying the family who they want to stay's car has broken down! I feel like packing up here and going home now as so worried they will just use my house anyway! I dont have any friends or family nearby who can check on my home. My partner has said they surely wont just use our house but I'm not sure they wont. 😥

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Cath667 · 09/01/2023 19:17

Why on earth didn't you go round yesterday and ask them to move their car?

AutumnCrow · 09/01/2023 19:32

You could park your own car by the drop kerb as often as possible and make a habit of it on weekends especially.

365names · 09/01/2023 21:07

What a bunch of tosses.

Send them a bill for cleaning and the locks etc what utter bastards!

tit for tat - can you block their drive …. And when they moan say every time you block ours we will do it back until you stop

365names · 09/01/2023 21:07

Also go out and photograph them parking across your curb and video it and send it to the local council to enforce

SauteBaconHollow · 09/01/2023 21:07

Ahhh, I'm afraid with these type of neighbours you've created a situation war it's a game to them now, they are so ignorant and entitled

SauteBaconHollow · 09/01/2023 21:08

... in that they don't see that they've done wrong in the first instance

LadyBiker · 10/01/2023 08:45

Hi Op, so sorry you are going through all this crap. Just to let you know that it is illegal for them to park across your drive blocking you IN, but not blocking you OUT re-accessing it. We previously had issues with next-door's builders who constantly did this. Hopefully any issues will peter out.

Itschristmastimeinthecity · 10/01/2023 09:01

I would have asked them to remove the car even if I didn't plan on going out! How can you block someone's car in?

Emotionalsupportviper · 10/01/2023 15:45

Headabovetheparakeet · 09/01/2023 16:29

They sound awful.

I'm not certain of this but I think it's against the law to block a car in (but not illegal to block access to a driveway). If they do it again, call the police and tell them you're being harassed by someone who is blocking your access to a public highway.

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Like you, I am far from expert, but I think blocking a car in and obstructing a dropped area of kerb are both illegal.

OP I'd check this, and certainly call the police if necessary.

Emotionalsupportviper · 10/01/2023 15:48

RampantIvy · 09/01/2023 17:21

Next Sunday we will definitely be going out so if they do it again we will tell them to move the car

@Castleontheisland I would move the car off the drive, lock the gates and park it across the front of your house before they turn up. If the daughter is really confrontational then she will just put up a fight. You need to be one step ahead of them.

They sound awful.

This.

I'm confrontational, but not suicidal, and the daughter is obviously spoiling for a fight, possibly physical.

Don''t let your DH go round in case she accuses him of assault - and kee[ a good distance yourself. She sounds beyond nasty,

Forthelast · 10/01/2023 18:21

Emotionalsupportviper · 10/01/2023 15:45

Like you, I am far from expert, but I think blocking a car in and obstructing a dropped area of kerb are both illegal.

OP I'd check this, and certainly call the police if necessary.

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I'm pretty sure it a civil matter. A solicitor's letter might help but they should be prepared for a tit for tat solicitor's letter on some made up pretext. The reality is that if neighbours decide to make a nuisance of themselves, there are a million ways they can do it and the police are not interested. Judges don't like neighbours bickering either.

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Castleontheisland · 12/03/2023 05:18

Hello again, we have decided to move as the last 3 months have been 😖. Next door is constantly blocking our drive, I go and knock at their door every time it happens, sometimes they answer the door and take time moving the car(its the daughters car). Other times they just let me knock. I had a anonymous letter posted saying partner is having an affair (the info in the letter doesn't match up as he was with me on the dates it was supposed to have happened 😅) Silent phone calls to my phone which have stopped as I have changed my number. Telling neighbours we are 'snobs' (not sure how they think that, we are just an ordinary couple).

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ruralwanderer · 12/03/2023 07:00

So sort to hear this, they sound awful! I hope you can manage a stress-free move!

Magenta82 · 12/03/2023 07:09

They are crazy and their behaviour is harassment, I'm sorry you are going through this OP. I think you are right to move, this is unlikely to get fixed and going to the police will affect the sale.
Good luck, I wish you a speedy stress free move.

MoonGeek · 12/03/2023 09:57

Blocking your driveway is obstruction and a criminal offence. Their behaviour is unbelievable. So sorry it has turned out like this for you.

Ohnonevermind · 12/03/2023 10:01

If you can move, I recommend it.

rainbowstardrops · 12/03/2023 10:05

You shouldn't have to move but I certainly don't blame you for coming to that decision. They sound nuts!

MeridianB · 12/03/2023 16:38

Is it worth getting a cease and desist letter sent? Have you exhausted council routes for antisocial behaviour.

They and their daughter are persistently harassing you because they weren’t allowed free access to your house and Sky service when they fancied it. It’s beyond belief.

Wait2see2 · 12/03/2023 19:06

What horrible people. Hope you find a better home with amazing neighbours.

emptythelitterbox · 12/03/2023 19:40

Castleontheisland · 12/03/2023 05:18

Hello again, we have decided to move as the last 3 months have been 😖. Next door is constantly blocking our drive, I go and knock at their door every time it happens, sometimes they answer the door and take time moving the car(its the daughters car). Other times they just let me knock. I had a anonymous letter posted saying partner is having an affair (the info in the letter doesn't match up as he was with me on the dates it was supposed to have happened 😅) Silent phone calls to my phone which have stopped as I have changed my number. Telling neighbours we are 'snobs' (not sure how they think that, we are just an ordinary couple).

What a bunch of weirdos. Sad you have to move because of them.

Call and have their car towed off.

cecile86 · 13/03/2023 13:32

Next time have the car towed. You have warned them plenty. Keep evidence of them consistently blocking your drive and written communication asking them to cease. If they continue report them to the police for harassment. No-one should make you feel forced to move from your home.

AliceOlive · 13/03/2023 14:07

cecile86 · 13/03/2023 13:32

Next time have the car towed. You have warned them plenty. Keep evidence of them consistently blocking your drive and written communication asking them to cease. If they continue report them to the police for harassment. No-one should make you feel forced to move from your home.

I would do this, too. Also, just start parking your own car where they park theirs.

But then I’d probably end up in an all out war and OP sounds like a nicer person than me.

AliceOlive · 13/03/2023 14:08

Also, I’d see about installing bollards on both side of the drive? Penguin ones, for best effect.

Itschristmastimeinthecity · 13/03/2023 14:33

To be honest OP I wouldn't let them win. Like others have said above, blocking someone's drive is illegal. At this point I would equally start making their life very difficult. As someone suggested above, Id be getting their car towed. Have you contacted the council about this?

IncessantNameChanger · 13/03/2023 14:34

I wouldn't get into any dispute with them as this will come up in the sale. Just park blocking your own drive or if you can't get into your drive, block theirs. They sound batshit. When neighbours block our drive we block them in then go out for hours. A CF down the road said he thought it was a public car park but no one us that stupid. So blocked him on our drive and went on an extremely long unplanned walk. How could he possibly find the owner in a public car park I wonder?

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