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Neighbour taking liberties

188 replies

Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:33

I’m just so angry right now. I live on a busy new build estate and parking is a luxury. We have one parking space big enough for one car. DH and I were away over Christmas and mentioned to our next door neighbours, who are elderly, that they could park in it to save them from finding a space. DH told them we would be back Boxing Day.

We arrived home last night and a totally different neighbour has parked there! We then couldn’t park in our own space and we ended up scouring the street trying to find a space and had to unload the car with several trips!

I’m annoyed because the elderly neighbours have obviously told these neighbours that they could park there (we NEVER said anyone else could - we were trying to be nice to the elderly neighbours). Also, it’s been 24 hours and the car is still there! We’ve had to find another space on the road AGAIN - I’m angry because these other neighbours have my mobile number and I thought they would’ve at least text me to ask if they could use my space, and also because the car still hasn’t moved.

DH has been over to the other neighbours and they aren’t in, and I’ve text them and put it nicely, but bluntly, “move your car” - but no answer.

DH says it’s fine and that I’m getting upset over nothing, but I think both sets of neighbours are being CFs!

So please, shall I take a chill pill or would you be angry too?!

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KangarooKenny · 27/12/2022 15:39

I’d find someone with a jack and remove it onto,a double yellow line.

Pennyforthezombies · 27/12/2022 15:41

I know how you feel, I have one parking space on a new build estate and the same thing has happened to me too when I’ve gone away. I try and reason it and tell myself what does it matter, bigger things to worry about but god it makes me so cross 😁 and I have had a few crosswords since I’ve been here.

Pennyforthezombies · 27/12/2022 15:41

Cross words

CremeEggThief · 27/12/2022 15:44

How do you know that about the elderly neighbours though?🤔

The CF ones might have seen them doing it and decided to copy them, without realising you'd given them permission first.

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:45

It just grinds my gears! I think a text of “do you mind if we parked there instead” from the other neighbours would’ve been fine, but they have their own space too, so it’s like more if they can’t be bothered to find a space on the busy road so they’ll use my space! Most of the houses here have one space and they’re like gold dust. I couldn’t imagine just dumping my car in someone else’s space without asking and without replying to the message asking them to move it. I know the man has read my message as I sent it on WhatsApp and it’s got 2 blue ticks!!

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Pothoswithasparkle · 27/12/2022 15:45

CremeEggThief · 27/12/2022 15:44

How do you know that about the elderly neighbours though?🤔

The CF ones might have seen them doing it and decided to copy them, without realising you'd given them permission first.

That was my thoughts.

ChickenGotLegs · 27/12/2022 15:46

Have you tried to call rather than texting?!

cansu · 27/12/2022 15:46

I think I would maybe calm down. Scouring the street sounds very OTT. They shouldn't have parked there but I would dial it back. It really isn't worth a huge row with a neighbour.

RegularNameChangerVersion21 · 27/12/2022 15:47

YANBU the neighbours who actually parked in your spot and ignored your text about it are definitely CFers. Not sure about the elderly neighbours as you don't know what was actually said.

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:47

@CremeEggThief fair point - we had only told the elderly neighbours we were away, so assumed they had told the other neighbours. We don’t really get on with the other neighbours (man is a controversial type) so I wouldn’t think they would have wanted to park in my space!

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Therealjudgejudy · 27/12/2022 15:48

This would give me the rage!

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:49

@ChickenGotLegs I’ve tried calling - it just rings and rings. DH went around again and they still aren’t in (they’re a few doors down from us). Where we are, it’s a really busy residential street leading into a shopping area so it literally is grab a space if you find one. When we got back yesterday, we were driving around for 10 minutes before we found a space!

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FurAndFeathers · 27/12/2022 15:50

Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:45

It just grinds my gears! I think a text of “do you mind if we parked there instead” from the other neighbours would’ve been fine, but they have their own space too, so it’s like more if they can’t be bothered to find a space on the busy road so they’ll use my space! Most of the houses here have one space and they’re like gold dust. I couldn’t imagine just dumping my car in someone else’s space without asking and without replying to the message asking them to move it. I know the man has read my message as I sent it on WhatsApp and it’s got 2 blue ticks!!

Why didn’t you just phone them when you got back last night and ask them to move their car?

this seems like a lot of passive aggressive anger over a relatively minor inconvenience

Luckynumbereight · 27/12/2022 15:51

No good deed goes unpunished, OP. Next time, keep schtum.

growgrowinggrown · 27/12/2022 15:52

Text them again and tell them vandals have set it on fire, that should see them come running.

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:52

@FurAndFeathers my DH said to let it go yesterday, that it would be gone today. Only it hasn’t gone. They aren’t answering our calls now and I’m hoping they haven’t just dumped the car and left it! DH is far more relaxed than me, I just can’t get over the cheekiness of it.

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CremeEggThief · 27/12/2022 15:52

They sound exactly the sort of people who see someone else doing something that's not 100% by the book and decide to do the same, OP.
I see you don't really get on with the CF ones, so if I were you, I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of knowing they'd got to me and annoyed me, in case they'll do it again.

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 27/12/2022 15:52

Can you park in front of the car and then go and have a nice drink. It is not as if you haven't warned them to move.

Pothoswithasparkle · 27/12/2022 15:52

Bet you they fucked off on holidays

Peashoots · 27/12/2022 15:53

Block them in. Cheeky fuckers.

AlwaysFoldingWashing · 27/12/2022 15:53

This would drive me mad. I'd be keeping it to myself next time and not offering it to anyone- seems CF have seen it as a free for all. Do they not have their own space too? Seems like they knew they would be away if it's been for such a long time and you're getting no reply... selfish twats

Frosty1000 · 27/12/2022 15:53

If I recognise the car then I'd have knocked on their door and asked them to move. It's your space after all. I'd also not assume the elderly neighbours had said anything. The others probably just were copying.

thelobsterquadrille · 27/12/2022 15:54

Just park on the road and block the driveway.

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:54

@Unexpecteddrivinginstructor I may do that! DH thinks it will lead onto an argument and whilst I totally get I may be overreacting (and I probably am!) I just think common courtesy wouldn’t have gone amiss

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HermioneWeasley · 27/12/2022 15:55

Can you block them in? I’d definitely do that