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Neighbour taking liberties

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:33

I’m just so angry right now. I live on a busy new build estate and parking is a luxury. We have one parking space big enough for one car. DH and I were away over Christmas and mentioned to our next door neighbours, who are elderly, that they could park in it to save them from finding a space. DH told them we would be back Boxing Day.

We arrived home last night and a totally different neighbour has parked there! We then couldn’t park in our own space and we ended up scouring the street trying to find a space and had to unload the car with several trips!

I’m annoyed because the elderly neighbours have obviously told these neighbours that they could park there (we NEVER said anyone else could - we were trying to be nice to the elderly neighbours). Also, it’s been 24 hours and the car is still there! We’ve had to find another space on the road AGAIN - I’m angry because these other neighbours have my mobile number and I thought they would’ve at least text me to ask if they could use my space, and also because the car still hasn’t moved.

DH has been over to the other neighbours and they aren’t in, and I’ve text them and put it nicely, but bluntly, “move your car” - but no answer.

DH says it’s fine and that I’m getting upset over nothing, but I think both sets of neighbours are being CFs!

So please, shall I take a chill pill or would you be angry too?!

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Canthave2manycats · 28/12/2022 19:30

brilly · 28/12/2022 18:18

Rather than write an epistle here, does it not make sense to approach the owner of the car to move it.

Rather than post a stupid comment here, does it not make sense to RTFT?

DobbyTheHouseElk · 28/12/2022 19:34

Notforbeef · 28/12/2022 19:27

You must live near me. That was utterly tragic x

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It was. When I see people winding each other up in here about parking I think of them. The husband taught my friends kids. It was such a tragedy.

Canthave2manycats · 28/12/2022 19:36

Tabasco007 · 28/12/2022 18:23

I would be really p'ssed off and you have every right to be, could you call the police or something and say a car is blocking/on your driveway? Are you sure it's that neighbours car? If so could you say you are going to get it removed unless they come and remove it themselves.

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We did call the police when some asshole parked in our drive many years ago - blocking both our cars in. They said they would check the reg to find out who it was, and duly called back to say it was ok, the car's owner was a doctor!! I said I didn't give a hoot who he was, he was preventing us getting out of our own drive!

Turned out he was on a social visit to neighbour 2 doors down!! Happened to see him coming to retrieve the car, and let's just say, I highlighted the inconvenience he'd caused us. At least he never came back! I was furious - so bloody cheeky and entitled.

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Jaybird43 · 28/12/2022 19:37

@DobbyTheHouseElk god that’s awful, I hadn’t heard of that! To lose loves over parking is absolute madness. Yes it’s annoying but nothing more than that. Where we are we have one designated space with our number and it’s a buggar. The house is only a few years old (5 tops I think) and we never thought of how annoying the parking issue would be!

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Jaybird43 · 28/12/2022 19:38

*lives not loves!

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Fleurdaisy · 28/12/2022 19:44

SinnerBoy · 27/12/2022 17:29

Fleurdaisy

I’d say superglue the locks but central locking would probably still work.

Vaseline on the windscreen wipers is a thing of joy. Not for the recipient, you understand!

Oh, nice one!!!
Yes, definitely go with that OP.

HotChoxs · 28/12/2022 19:49

I'm in the minority here, and think you need to take a chill pill over this. People thought you were away and you told neighbours it was ok to use your space. I don't think anyone was trying to put you out.

MirabelMadrigal · 28/12/2022 19:49

Op , I wish your DH pretended you were out and had taken your car keys with you and you won't be home until later so he had to wait the way you did. Petty yes but some people need a taste of their own medicine

Dillydollydingdong · 28/12/2022 19:54

Get it towed away

Nocutenamesleft · 28/12/2022 19:54

Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:33

I’m just so angry right now. I live on a busy new build estate and parking is a luxury. We have one parking space big enough for one car. DH and I were away over Christmas and mentioned to our next door neighbours, who are elderly, that they could park in it to save them from finding a space. DH told them we would be back Boxing Day.

We arrived home last night and a totally different neighbour has parked there! We then couldn’t park in our own space and we ended up scouring the street trying to find a space and had to unload the car with several trips!

I’m annoyed because the elderly neighbours have obviously told these neighbours that they could park there (we NEVER said anyone else could - we were trying to be nice to the elderly neighbours). Also, it’s been 24 hours and the car is still there! We’ve had to find another space on the road AGAIN - I’m angry because these other neighbours have my mobile number and I thought they would’ve at least text me to ask if they could use my space, and also because the car still hasn’t moved.

DH has been over to the other neighbours and they aren’t in, and I’ve text them and put it nicely, but bluntly, “move your car” - but no answer.

DH says it’s fine and that I’m getting upset over nothing, but I think both sets of neighbours are being CFs!

So please, shall I take a chill pill or would you be angry too?!

Our neighbours keep parking next to our garden or next to our lounge

theube got 2 90,000 cars. Yet brought a house with one parking space?!?! What’s more they could actually get both on with some driving or park the other car outside their own house

new build here too!

hate hate hate it.

Nocutenamesleft · 28/12/2022 19:54

Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:47

@CremeEggThief fair point - we had only told the elderly neighbours we were away, so assumed they had told the other neighbours. We don’t really get on with the other neighbours (man is a controversial type) so I wouldn’t think they would have wanted to park in my space!

Park behind their car?!? That’s what I would do.

ortonym · 28/12/2022 20:05

Nocutenamesleft · 28/12/2022 19:54

Our neighbours keep parking next to our garden or next to our lounge

theube got 2 90,000 cars. Yet brought a house with one parking space?!?! What’s more they could actually get both on with some driving or park the other car outside their own house

new build here too!

hate hate hate it.

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There's not much you can do about it, I'm afraid. As long as there are no parking restrictions in place, and they're not causing an obstruction (eg. parking across a driveway), then it's a public highway and anyone can park there. It's annoying af, I know - I've encountered it myself ( not so much that they were parking outside the house, but they were parking 2 cars where there was room for 3) - and the only thing I can suggest is you park your car outside their house

July70 · 28/12/2022 20:42

It's called taking the piss and nothing less.
Tell them and expect an apology and don't offer again - lesson learnt and all that stuff

LetsBekindx · 28/12/2022 21:00

Really freaking out but hopefully just being OTT! Advice needed! Post elective c section

So im two weeks post c-section, this is my second and its nothing like my first!
This time i was really bruised and swollen. I now have a pouch of fluid which is quite hard and its making my tummy look really deformed! Doc has looked and not worried and has said needs time to resolve likely up to 8 weeks! Although she did say with some women the fluid doesn't fully absorb and there left with a 'c section pouch'.

Im freaking out that this is how im going to be now! Has anyone had similar and it did resolve? I cant express how bad its making me feel looking like this! 🫤

Konfetka · 28/12/2022 21:06

@LetsBekindx
You need to start your own thread, best wishes xxx

saleorbouy · 28/12/2022 21:13

I'd park behind them so they can come and find them when they need to move.
I'd agree that it would have been nice 9f them to ask to use the space.

VeronicaFranklin · 28/12/2022 21:17

Tbh I think you are over reacting, just go to your elderly neighbours ask if they know who's car it is. Or alternatively knock on the doors and ask all the neighbours, hopefully you'll find out whose car it is and they will apologise and move it.

Daffi · 28/12/2022 21:25

Pothoswithasparkle · 27/12/2022 15:45

That was my thoughts.

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Parking is the biggest issue next to noise butwe do become obsessed by it

Wetblanket78 · 28/12/2022 21:31

Put a note through they're door telling them they need to move it or it will be towed.

Dotcomma · 28/12/2022 21:35

Who was parked in his allocated space?
If he lives on your road he knows the set up, there's always one who'll take advantage. Leave it a while then replay the exact same scenario by parking in his space, the exact same trick & length of time, claim it was an emergency & ignore him - then watch him explode.

Lola9565 · 28/12/2022 21:52

I think you can’t blame the elderly neighbours really. If they haven’t asked you directly or answered your messages then I think it’s highly unlikely that they popped to your nice neighbours to get permission to park there. They sound like the type that just do what they want probably. It’s very annoying I know but I do think I’d take a chill pill, just on the off chance that maybe something possibly could have happened, relative in hospital etc who knows ? And you DH doesn’t seem to worried so send him out to have a chat with them when they are next around. You sitting there raging isn’t going to help your stress levels for the next few hours. Holidays are always a time when extra guests are around and hopefully this won’t happen once everyone is back to their normal routines.

Childrenofthestones · 28/12/2022 21:56

There is a new estate been built in the next village to us and if you drive round in the day it looks quite nice, though the roads are rather narrow and only one small off road space outside each house.

Go back in the evening when everyone is home though and it is a totally different story with so many second cars half on and half off the pavement so ypu can barely get down the road in a car, let alone push a pram along the pavement. God knows how a Fire Engine or an Ambulance would manage at 3 in the morning.
I think it's a problem in many new build estates.
Perhaps they are allowing for the not so distant future when only the upper middle class and above will have private transport 🤔

Bigdamnheroes · 28/12/2022 22:17

I'd have ignored the door and phone and left him stuck for a few hours. Let him pay for a bus to work. Serve him right, entitled little prick.

Katekeeprunning · 28/12/2022 22:39

WhereYouLeftIt · 28/12/2022 18:30

Can you fit something like this to your parking space, OP?

This is what I’d do

Lollipop25 · 28/12/2022 23:35

Call a tow truck and have it moved 🤷🏼‍♀️