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Neighbour taking liberties

188 replies

Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 15:33

I’m just so angry right now. I live on a busy new build estate and parking is a luxury. We have one parking space big enough for one car. DH and I were away over Christmas and mentioned to our next door neighbours, who are elderly, that they could park in it to save them from finding a space. DH told them we would be back Boxing Day.

We arrived home last night and a totally different neighbour has parked there! We then couldn’t park in our own space and we ended up scouring the street trying to find a space and had to unload the car with several trips!

I’m annoyed because the elderly neighbours have obviously told these neighbours that they could park there (we NEVER said anyone else could - we were trying to be nice to the elderly neighbours). Also, it’s been 24 hours and the car is still there! We’ve had to find another space on the road AGAIN - I’m angry because these other neighbours have my mobile number and I thought they would’ve at least text me to ask if they could use my space, and also because the car still hasn’t moved.

DH has been over to the other neighbours and they aren’t in, and I’ve text them and put it nicely, but bluntly, “move your car” - but no answer.

DH says it’s fine and that I’m getting upset over nothing, but I think both sets of neighbours are being CFs!

So please, shall I take a chill pill or would you be angry too?!

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Moveoverdarlin · 27/12/2022 16:31

I would be absolutely fuming. I’m also quite a placid person, but stuff like this would make my blood boil. I would knock on the elderly neighbours drive and asked them if they mentioned it to Boy Racer neighbour. I would say ‘I was trying to do a nice thing and it’s massively backfired as we’re now not able to park on own drive, ha ha typical.’ If it was them that mentioned it, they’ll learn not to confide in boy racer neighbour again.

MeridianB · 27/12/2022 16:32

He needs to knock and apologise to you!

Have you considered a penguin bollard? 🐧😁

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 16:34

@Moveoverdarlin thats what I was thinking of doing - we’ve offered previous years as they are both in ill-health and thought we were doing them a favour. We don’t bother from now on.

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Inkpotlover · 27/12/2022 16:36

I'd text him again to say either the car is moved asap or you'll be having it towed and billing them for the cost.

FOJN · 27/12/2022 16:38

If there was loads of other parking available it probably wouldn't bother me but it doesn't seem like there is and I would not be chilled out about it. People buy houses with parking to avoid this situation so I would absolutely think it was worth falling out about.

Who would miss being on friendly terms with cheeky fuckers. We're all so afraid of these arseholes that we let them get away with taking the piss. I would leave the cheeky fuckers blocked in until I wanted to go somewhere in my car and I would ignore any messages or phone calls asking me to move. They don't mind inconveniencing others so introduce them to how it feels.

NCNCNCYEP · 27/12/2022 16:40

Eeee, wonder what’ll happen. Hopefully they’ve not jetted off on holiday?!

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/12/2022 16:41

I’m quite laid back about most things, but the utter CFery of this would really annoy me. I would leave my car blocking him in until he comes and asks you to move it

Inkpotlover · 27/12/2022 16:42

NCNCNCYEP · 27/12/2022 16:40

Eeee, wonder what’ll happen. Hopefully they’ve not jetted off on holiday?!

That's a really good point! OP, you need to have a word with the elderly neighbours to find out where exactly boy racer is and how long he's expecting to park on your drive.

GettingStuffed · 27/12/2022 16:48

Why, in this day and age do developers only allow minimal parking. Bearing in mind most modern households have at least 2 if not 3 or 4 vehicles head Dickheads thinks I'll build the houses with a single space.

dcut · 27/12/2022 16:49

I was going to suggest blocking them in but I see you've done it already. Good for you.
People are just unbelievably cheeky.

TheCurseOfBoris · 27/12/2022 16:51

So glad you've blocked them in OP - good for you!
Have a word with the elderly neighbours to find out if they told them you'd be away, so you're prepared for when CF's eventually turn up. You don't want to be blind sided by them saying 'oh but xx told us you were away for xx'.

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 16:52

Update - I had a missed call and a voicemail from CF neighbour. He said he had an emergency yesterday and had nowhere to park so used my space. He said he wants me to move my car now as he has to go out.

He then came to door and spoke to DH. DH asked about the “emergency” and if everything was OK - CF couldn’t think of an excuse and was stuttering for a few moments! I reckon he had given his space to a guest and thought he would use my space, seeing as we weren’t there.

DH told him that he can’t park in our space but CF said “rob and Jane (elderly neighbours) said it was fine” - I’m going to speak with them to make sure they don’t offer my space out again!

So, CF has gone and my car is back in it’s rightful space! Small victory ✌️

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 27/12/2022 16:54

Well done! 'EMERGENCY' my arse. They were just taking the P and got caught out.

Batbatbatty · 27/12/2022 16:56

Fucking hell you should have said you're eating dinner and he'll have to wait until you've finished! Fucking CF!!!!

ScroogeMcDuckling · 27/12/2022 16:57

I would say to Rob and Jane that the offer of the parking was for yourselves and not to the neighbourhood, I certainly won’t be making the mistake again of offering help again.

ABrotherWhoLooksLikeHellMugYou · 27/12/2022 16:58

Rob and Jane are equally as fuxking cheeky here and I'd be having a pointed word. Oh, and not offering them the courtesy in future.

OldTinHat · 27/12/2022 17:00

Welcome to my world only mine is a designated disabled space 😡

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Jaybird43 · 27/12/2022 17:04

I was cooking dinner and saw the missed call and was listening to the voicemail as he came to the door and spoke to DH. He was obviously hoping we wouldn’t question his pathetic excuse.

Will definitely have words with the elderly neighbours - make sure CF is telling the truth and make sure they don’t offer it out again!

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MajorCarolDanvers · 27/12/2022 17:08

YABU

Stop blaming the elderly neighbour - you've no idea if they are involved at all.

MajorCarolDanvers · 27/12/2022 17:11

MajorCarolDanvers · 27/12/2022 17:08

YABU

Stop blaming the elderly neighbour - you've no idea if they are involved at all.

Sorry seen your update.

fancyacuppatea · 27/12/2022 17:12

DH told him that he can’t park in our space but CF said “rob and Jane (elderly neighbours) said it was fine” - I’m going to speak with them to make sure they don’t offer my space out again!

Don't tell them next time you're away.
At least you know which CF it was, and if he's not in you could always get a visitor to park on his drive. Wink Wine

WiddlinDiddlin · 27/12/2022 17:12

I'll bet Rob and Jane said no such thing.

I bet CF: 'oh you've parked in Jaybirds spot, how come?

   R&J 'They're away tonight and said it was ok'

Which is true, but a long long way from 'they said it was ok for YOU to park here too'.

Redebs · 27/12/2022 17:13

Is it on your drive, or a designated space with your house number painted in it? Otherwise it's normal for people to park in the street outside other people's houses.

AliceOlive · 27/12/2022 17:17

I think he's lying! What a jerk either way.

Beautiful3 · 27/12/2022 17:19

Don't offer it out next time and install a foldable bollard, so they can't do it again.

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