Drama on holiday. Aibu?

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Would this upset/annoy you?

My DsD wanted to pull my DS on a sledge and I'd told her numerous times not to go too fast as it would be dangerous. Clearly she didn't listen. Went too fast, suddenly stopped and DS went flying face first and hit the snow with his face. He didn't cry but was stunned and said it really hurt his head. I panicked as I saw him face plant and worried he really hurt his head. I got annoyed but didn't shout and said I told you not to go too fast because look what's happened. She didn't ask how DS was and then stormed off and started crying. My DP followed and they sat talking for ages. Then we went back to the apartment, DsD wouldn't speak to my DS. DS kept saying DSD are you upset, it's ok don't be I'm OK. She still wouldn't talk to him. My DP is off with DS too and Me.

So me and DS are made to feel bad because DsD didn't listen and my DS faceplanted the snow hard.

Aibu to think me and DS have done nothing wrong?

You’ve had some pretty harsh words for the OP, haven’t you? Now you’re upset because the tide has turned against you and you’re lashing out. Who does that remind me of, from the OP’s description of the people on the holiday?

OP didnt start this MESS?! Her "D"P started this by showing her the sofa

And so have half the PPs on this thread! "Poor girl, you don't seem to like your dsd much....." etc

I’m the youngest of 5 … if my parents stopped talking every time one of us hurt the other, their lives would be spent in silence.

I‘ve been pushed over, off walls, down hills … I remember a notable incident when my sister hit my brother with a plate, during a row about socks … I could go on. We are all in our 50s & 60s now, really close - and laugh about these incidents now.

Oh please. Many posters acknowledge that an 11 year old can attempt to manipulate. Not one poster has suggested she is evil.

Seriously? You want to blame a 5yo for something completely out of his control? Your post is vile.

Dp is a cunt, you'll be well rid of him and his brat.

Any updates op? Hope you and your DS are ok x

It’s so obvious when the posters are exes whose partners have gone on to have more DC with someone else. No limits to the excuses of the SDC behaviour.

Unfortunately a poster called her just that at 06.15 this morning:

Your little boy was the one mistreated and hurt yet he tried to be nice to evil step sister.

The post was so OTT (‘manipulative brat’ etc) that I think a lot of posters ignored it.

There is a lot of hyperbole brewing now though.

Don't be ridiculous, I didn't blame the 5yo, I suggested both dc are innocent parties and the adults who are speaking in such disgusting terms about an 11yo ought to be ashamed of themselves.

If you think it is "vile" not to be blaming a child and assuming an adult level of planning to their behaviour, I think you might be the one with the problem.

A pp literally called her evil. I think people who think like that about dc have a problem tbh.

@Stompythedinosaur You made snarky comments about a 5 yo. Vile.

I think you need to get through the holiday, focus on DS, go to the precooked activities but spend any free time doing what your DS wants. Don't pander to DSD, it's not fair on your DS that he's being made the outsider of the family.
Then when you get home you need to split up because this is no environment for your DS at all.

You have clearly not read my post correctly and are doubling down on the mistake.

My quote was about pps choosing to believe one dc is good and the other is bad, rather than seeing them both as young dc.

Maybe check what you are reading before you start name calling.

This is the best advice. Leave DP and DSC to it. You will never be given a say in changing DSC behaviour, so vote with your feet.

Sounds like this has been going on a while.

You are not a blended family.

You are just another woman with a boyfriend who is well capable of being unkind to your child.

Unforgivable IMO.

You need to prioritise your child.

Your boyfriends daughter deliberately hurt your son and they both give a 5 year old the cold shoulder for being upset.

Absolutely Unforgivable.

Your poor little boy stuck in the middle of your choices.

It says EVERYTHING about the dynamic that he threw you out of a bed you paid for?

Did you pay your share of this?

Wake up to just how appalling this is.

You should be absolutely furious with him.

You and your son deserve better than this nasty waster that is so comfortable being unkind to a 5 year old.

@Stompythedinosaur I haven’t made a mistake. Or called anyone names. I said your post vile.

I'll assume all the pps who see the 5yo as a pure and innocent flower and the 11yo as evil incarnate have limited experience of dc in the older age bracket. 11 is still pretty young, you know.

If you believe you need to stick up for the 11yo here, then surely you can do that without making an unpleasant comment about a 5yo who was the injured party?

You over reacted, upset DSD and are annoyed that your partner was annoyed about that?

This is typical sibling shit.

I don't know how you can read my comment, which is clearly directed at the pps who were slagging off an actual child, and think that I am criticising the 5yo?

You see the bit where is referenced "pps who think that..." rather than saying it was true or what I think?

What I think is that adults shouldn't slag off dc.

You are right - i missed that. How very unkind to calm the 11 year old evil :(

My attention has been drawn to ONE poster calling her evil, not ALL the posters. I do agree with you it’s a horrible thing to call a child.

Get this man out of your ds life. He's not a nice guy or a good step father.

It was a long post, posted early. Not pleasant reading. You were probably best off missing it tbh.