Drama on holiday. Aibu?

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Would this upset/annoy you?

My DsD wanted to pull my DS on a sledge and I'd told her numerous times not to go too fast as it would be dangerous. Clearly she didn't listen. Went too fast, suddenly stopped and DS went flying face first and hit the snow with his face. He didn't cry but was stunned and said it really hurt his head. I panicked as I saw him face plant and worried he really hurt his head. I got annoyed but didn't shout and said I told you not to go too fast because look what's happened. She didn't ask how DS was and then stormed off and started crying. My DP followed and they sat talking for ages. Then we went back to the apartment, DsD wouldn't speak to my DS. DS kept saying DSD are you upset, it's ok don't be I'm OK. She still wouldn't talk to him. My DP is off with DS too and Me.

So me and DS are made to feel bad because DsD didn't listen and my DS faceplanted the snow hard.

Aibu to think me and DS have done nothing wrong?

Your DP is beyond pathetic being off with a 5 year old, eurgh.

DP sounds like a man child. Your little one is 5 and the older one is 11 and you have a right to be upset in the moment. Why the heck is your DP off with your DS...that's not right. And you shouldn't be made to sleep on the sofa. That's no way to live as a family if you can't ever set boundaries.

Not DP son. DS sees his dad (my ex) regularly

You ar eon the sofa? I would be fuming!! You have a DP issue. Sorry but I would not settle for the sofa.

Sounds like you're putting your child first and he's putting his child first. That's not wrong of either of you but if that's how you carry on rather than parenting them both together then living as a blended family will be hard

It's going to tough as there is already a pre booked itinerary. So we will be together alot of the time

Now that you have said that your son is not his son, it all makes sense. He is just looking after his daughter and isnt looking after you or your son. He is not treating you or your child in the rightway. I couldnt be with a man like this. Sorry OP. I really feel for you. You should not be on the sofa.

It’s not wrong for a grown adult to blank a innocent 5 year old?? Yeah, it is.

Are you in Lapland OP? Don’t let DP dickish behaviour be the thing DS remembers from
this trip.

Plan what you and DS are going to do for the next few days then bin DP off at passport control back in the UK

I know but what do I do? If I kick off then DsD will cry some.more. I'd wake DS up and I don't want kids being in-between an argument of me and Dp.

I would like to bin him off then but we all came in his car to the airport. That's going to be fun on the way home.

I am sorry OP. I simply couldnt go on like this. It would annoy the hell out of me. Why is your "D"P not treating your poor little 5 year old and pandering to his daughter is beyond me. I can understand him being a bit biased but this is gone too far. HE is basically letting the daughter know that she is No1 and you and your child are second class citizens. Why does a 11 year old who has caused the drama need consoling? Why couldnt she be careful and stop going fast when you told her already? I know you have said you cuddled her afterwards and made peace. You are a better person than me. I really dislike the sound of your P. Sending you hugs OP

Do you know what? As you're certain you're going to break up anyway, I say f**k the itinerary, just go off with your DS and do whatever you like.

Why force yourselves to be with them? I'd even be tempted to go home early, just the two of you.

You can get into bed with your DS or sleep in DSD’s bed?

Contact your holiday rep/speak to the tour operator if you can adjust the itinerary. It’s not going to get better - do what you can to salvage the holiday for your DS. If you’re secretly hoping he’s going to wake up and suddenly start apologising and being reasonable, I’d give up. Prioritise your son and change the plans so you’re doing things with just him.

Tomorrow tell your STBX that you and DS will have the bed the rest of the nights.

Where was dsd meant to be sleeping?

Isn't going too fast and face palming the snow all part of the fun of sledging? I don't understand why you're upset .. your child wasn't injured. Speed is very subjective. You've all turned something that's meant to be fun into a big drama for no reason.

I’d be sorely tempted to book an early flight back with a taxi/train home once you’ve landed.

I'd just leave now or go off on our own.

Honestly! That's not a holiday, that's torture.

DsD has got her way which is to get rid of any competition - what a twat your DP is!

Is your boyfriend usually a Disney dad?

Tips?

Go home. Or find alternative accommodation.

Don’t wait until after the holiday to end the relationship. End it now.

Clearly 2 adults can’t communicate healthily here which has caused upset for both children.

It was an accident. Your son is fine. Both adults should have communicated with each other and both children and moved on. Accidents and injuries happen with kids. It’s the norm.

He’s an absolute twat. I’m pleased you’re seeing what he’s really like. Fuck off the itinerary and do what you and DS will enjoy then make your own way back if at all possible. Seriously, don’t waste your time pretending things are okay when they’re clearly not.

It's coming across pretty clearly that you dislike your dsd, so my guess is that is what you ex-p is reacting to.

It doesn't sound like you blended family is working out.

If the relationship is over then just enjoy the time as best you can with your ds.

I don't understand why there isn't a spare bed for you, surely you can sleep wherever your dsd had been going to sleep?

Yes I think you have nailed it. It's competition even though DS doesn't want one. She is fine with just me and DP but soon as my DS is added all he'll breaks loose. Dramas begin happening, crying, how awful a person she is, how she needs attention

Was DSD sleeping on the sofa?