To expect a family of educated, emotionally intelligent professionals

[Idontmeanto]

To think to leave a parking space on host’s drive for the disabled family member with restricted mobility?

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Way more information needed. If the drive isn't massive and there was a space right outside the house, for example, then no, not necessarily.

Sadly op there are lots of highly intelligent people about who have (a) no common sense and (b) very little thought for anyone but themselves.

Mumsnet is full of educated, emotionally intelligent individuals, apparently. If that doesn’t help manage your expectations, then I’m not sure what will.

People only think of themselves regardless of emotional intelligence or education level, I'm afraid. If one of them ever personally experiences limited mobility then they might think of such matters independently.

I'm sorry OP, it sounds frustrating!

Hey probably just didn't think. Couldn't the person have asked someone to move? For eg texted when parked outside?

Depends on lots of love other factors, how long had other family been there for, as in they'd been staying for several days and disabled family member just arrived so hadnt yet moved car? Were they asked to move and refused? Where else could people have parked? Is it an absolute slipped mind thing?
Is anyone involved looking to start an argument over something?

We really must have a diagram . . .

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Drive holds 3 cars, 4 at a squeeze. Host does not have own car. There are double yellow lines in the street outside the property, admittedly blue badge holding family member can park here where others cannot, but it makes for a walk at the very limit of their capabilities.

Domestic, you made me smile with that comment!

Ah - well if the disabled visitor can use the road and the others can't then that may well have been their thinking to make best use of the available parking spaces.

So could bb holding family not have parked on yellow lines blocking the others in, then only had to go up the drive, or is this not something they could do?

All guests arriving for lunch, no overnight visitors. Anyone looking to start a row…possibly but I would hope they would have more respect for their host!

Yeah this.

Are all the other family members close enough to the disabled family member to understand it is at the limit of their abilities? As opposed to thinking they are ok with walking short distances?

@Idontmeanto where else would the others have been able to park? Is it likely some urban streets which are double yellow as far as eye can see?

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What has them being 'educated professionals' have to do with anything?

They claim to be close enough…they certainly display entitlement to disabled person’s
detailed medical information…In practice they see them 4 times a year or so. There are streets without parking restrictions about 300 yards away.

It would have been nice if they’d thought of this, but it could just be they’ve a lot on their minds themselves and it just slipped their minds. Happens to everyone. Presumably if relative had reminded them so keep a space free they would have?

And they work in public-facing, caring professional roles…I expected more awareness of accessibility.

Spot on

Surely only third of the arrivals needs to think and not park there. Not all attendees?

People don't always have other people's limitations front of mind. Wouldn't the host just say "hello last person to arrive, we need to leave that space free for disabled relative, please can you move your car?". To which they reply, "Yes of course, how silly of me to have forgotten that". Situation sorted.

Do you feel you couldn't have asked them to keep you a space or to move @Idontmeanto ? As am sure you're not one of those who you're annoyed with? Surely it's only the last arrival to the space you can really be annoyed with as there would still have been space with 1,2,3 arriving? Or did you think no-one else should have parked in the drive?