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TheShellBeach · 2022-12-23T14:46:07+00:00

I am still trying to get my head round this one. It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception. After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house. There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee. Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order. After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided. AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

Zax · 27/12/2022 21:53

BelleMarionette · 27/12/2022 21:50

In which case, why did they ask for gifts, if they weren't providing anything for the 'guests'? I use the term loosely, as there was no hosting

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Ahh, so you only give gifts if you are receiving nosh and drinks? Very shallow, I must say.

LolaMoon · 27/12/2022 21:56

Zax · 27/12/2022 21:53

Ahh, so you only give gifts if you are receiving nosh and drinks? Very shallow, I must say.

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If guests have made the effort to dress up, travel to your wedding and brought a gift it’s polite to offer refreshments. It doesn’t have to be posh. But offer something. Otherwise THEY are coming across as gift grabby and shallow.

ortonym · 27/12/2022 21:58

Zax · 27/12/2022 21:18

With respect, you don't know them so you're on no position to judge or comment. It's complicated!

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Why don't you indulge us and explain what these complications are.

youshouldnthaveasked · 27/12/2022 22:02

Weddings are usually so long. This sounds more my thing, 😃 but I think a bit out of order to ask for money for the food

Zax · 27/12/2022 22:25

I can't as they could read it and it's sensitive, unlike the OP it would seem. But in fairness I am closer to them. I've already told you that they are skint and that's as far as I'm going. If folk here knew the truth they'd be sympathetic I assure you.

DrManhattan · 27/12/2022 23:30

Yeah @Zax course you were there....

Zax · 27/12/2022 23:46

You can take it or leave it, I don't really give a damn either way. Now, unless your passing comment from experience then don't bother wasting your time. Goodnight.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/12/2022 00:00

It sounds quite nice as a way to spend time in a way but only if everyone knew in advance what the set up was going to be and was ok with it.

But without any kind of pre warning etc, asking people to pay for their own food at a supposed “wedding reception” is very tight, and not socially acceptable. And I’d expect some sort of drinks to be provided, or if not, a note in the invitation saying “this is the situation, please bring your own bottle” (even if they disapprove of alcohol and said bring your own soft drinks etc)

A curry in itself is a nice thing, but given that the convention is for food to be provided by the hosts, then if that isn’t going to be the case it should be set out in advance.

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

sue20 · 28/12/2022 04:39

ortonym · 26/12/2022 15:30

"Sense". Coming from somebody who thought that the groom was paying for the food because the orders had gone into his bank account.
And to expect guests to pay for their own food after being invited back to their house is just downright rude and tightfisted. If the guests had been told beforehand of the setup, then that might have been more acceptable..

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Er Ortonym that was me not Zax re not understanding that section about who was paying.

I’m completely bemused by how outraged the posts I got about that are. As if my not understanding the ambiguity made me evil or at best a complete moron. I don’t particularly care but really, plain English “ groom organised it so that all guests paid for their own meal”?

so what anyway!

sue20 · 28/12/2022 05:05

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

What’s going on here? OP said they “abhor social media”. Then suddenly others “who were there” and had got off with each other at some point previously. Then an indication that the couple had both been made redundant the day before….? This is all complete fabrication?

LolaMoon · 28/12/2022 06:58

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

Did this happen at the "reception"?- this is getting interesting now

Ursuladevine · 28/12/2022 07:02

Zax · 27/12/2022 22:25

I can't as they could read it and it's sensitive, unlike the OP it would seem. But in fairness I am closer to them. I've already told you that they are skint and that's as far as I'm going. If folk here knew the truth they'd be sympathetic I assure you.

Post the invite but blank out anything identifying

Ursuladevine · 28/12/2022 07:03

sue20 · 28/12/2022 04:39

Er Ortonym that was me not Zax re not understanding that section about who was paying.

I’m completely bemused by how outraged the posts I got about that are. As if my not understanding the ambiguity made me evil or at best a complete moron. I don’t particularly care but really, plain English “ groom organised it so that all guests paid for their own meal”?

so what anyway!

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😂

there was no ambiguity!

Untitledsquatboulder · 28/12/2022 07:11

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

🤣🤣🤣

Againstmachine · 28/12/2022 07:47

sue20 · 28/12/2022 05:05

What’s going on here? OP said they “abhor social media”. Then suddenly others “who were there” and had got off with each other at some point previously. Then an indication that the couple had both been made redundant the day before….? This is all complete fabrication?

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Mavis is clearly taking the piss out of the other person who said they were there(she wasn't there)

DaveGrohlsMrs · 28/12/2022 09:06

It always makes me laugh on here how so many people “read” the post, entirely invent their own version of it and then blast the OP for something that has come from their own imaginings of the situation and not what has been clearly stated in the original post!😂😂😂

Zax · 28/12/2022 10:07

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

Now, tell the truth please. You tried several times but couldn't get anywhere. Well, that's how I remember it, unless of course you've been dreaming. 😉

sue20 · 28/12/2022 10:13

Ursuladevine · 28/12/2022 07:03

😂

there was no ambiguity!

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I’m wondering if we are in different English speaking countries. Still as I re read it IS ambiguous but might be a different use of words. But why do you find this funny and enjoyable? Here’s a word- pathetic.

Arseulaundress · 28/12/2022 10:26

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

Wait...you shagged Zax? I'm married to Zax and I am going to fight you...😡

As for the couple, they were completely unaware that asking for gifts and not providing food or drinks were rude, as both have a rare but tragic condition that means they were born without the common sense gene.

Ursuladevine · 28/12/2022 10:36

sue20 · 28/12/2022 10:13

I’m wondering if we are in different English speaking countries. Still as I re read it IS ambiguous but might be a different use of words. But why do you find this funny and enjoyable? Here’s a word- pathetic.

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Doesn’t occur to you that you are the only poster to have struggled with the OP’s statement that everyone transferred to the groom so he could make payment for the total order? 😂

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TheShellBeach · 28/12/2022 11:47

sue20 · 28/12/2022 04:39

Er Ortonym that was me not Zax re not understanding that section about who was paying.

I’m completely bemused by how outraged the posts I got about that are. As if my not understanding the ambiguity made me evil or at best a complete moron. I don’t particularly care but really, plain English “ groom organised it so that all guests paid for their own meal”?

so what anyway!

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FFS Where was the ambiguity?

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TheShellBeach · 28/12/2022 11:49

MavisMcMinty · 28/12/2022 00:36

Actually I was at the wedding. I’d explain everything but as I am great friends with the couple and shagged Zax a few times, I’d better not say anything else as the bride and groom are both avid Mumsnetters and I don’t think they even knew about me and Zax until now.

So that was YOU behind the bookcase!

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WishIwasElsa · 28/12/2022 11:52

It's unusual, I think if I knew beforehand I wouldn't have too much of an issue with it other than thinking it was out of the ordinary.

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TheShellBeach · 28/12/2022 11:53

sue20 · 28/12/2022 05:05

What’s going on here? OP said they “abhor social media”. Then suddenly others “who were there” and had got off with each other at some point previously. Then an indication that the couple had both been made redundant the day before….? This is all complete fabrication?

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SIGH.
Some posters are being amusing, Sue.
Do not take it literally.

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