Worst Wedding Reception Ever?

[TheShellBeach]

I am still trying to get my head round this one.

It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception.

After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house.

There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee.

Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order.

After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided.

AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

I think we can safely say, from this thread, that some people are VERY easily pleased.

Because we like weddings, we like meeting our relations (and did not know how small the wedding was going to be) - but we would have gone anyway, as we think it's nice to be invited - and it wasn't too far away and I enjoy getting dressed up for an occasion.

I don't think that's particularly odd TBH.

Yep!

So it's all about you then....figures.

Indeed, they are never happier than when making up bollocks on the internet to feel superior to some total stranger.

Nobody appreciates being invited to a "wedding reception" that comprises buying yourself a takeaway and absolutely nothing else.

The people expecting a buffet and some fizz are at least more honest than the virtue-signalling "I'd love to have been at such an intimate do" crew.

Using that cockeyed logic, OP wouldn't have bought a £50 present.

if bride and groom are inviting guests that they’ve both met just once years ago… I would probably have assumed that they were down on guests and scraping the barrel and, given that, the wedding was unlikely to be…. Even close to enjoyable?

Perhaps they did have grander plans

then when loads dropped out and they were reduced to inviting a couple they’d met once years ago at a wedding… they quick pronto changed their plans! 😂

If they didn't like it then they should have left the party to those who did. Not their gig, simples!

What party?

You know, the one that the bride and groom wanted and enjoyed.😀

Well it was shit, wasn't it? Parties aren't supposed to piss off the guests.

That's your idea of a party? No music, no dancing, no drink, food only if you bought it yourself (and I think the guests did that out of politeness). Don't think the B&G enjoyed it much, either, as they shooed everybody out, after the food was eaten "because they were tired".

I'd have shooed them all out too. Miserable bunch!

The guests were a "miserable bunch"? That takes the biscuit.
Hang on... it was your wedding, wasn't it?

Yep.

One thing I like/find incredibly frustrating about MN is how different our standards are. If the OP had come here to complain that they'd been invited to a wedding and was disappointed it wasn't a big, all-paid-for affair in a hotel, she would have deserved the grief she's had. But to invite people to a wedding reception in your house and not provide food and drink, apart from what their own 'guests' were told to pay for, is absolutely bonkers and beyond stingy; I genuinely can't believe a single person thinks that's OK .

And other people coming on saying how low key their weddings were are spectacularly missing the point/being disingenuous - nobody cares if somebody has a very quiet wedding as long as the B&G pay for the food! It's basic hosting!

Actually unclear but thanks for unnecessarily aggressive response.

Yes. Orders transferred to his account ie he is paying?

Yes they picked what they wanted and the groom asked everyone to transfer the costs of the orders for him to pay the total out of his bank account. If people were paying for their own why would groom’s bank account have any mention? They would all be paying out of their bank accounts right? Not grooms. That’s the way it reads to me. Whether that’s what happened is another matter.

What’s virtuous about being fine with a simpler affair? What virtue would that be exactly? It’s not fake display of helping someone or fake display of a heroic act is it?

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I can't tell if you're serious.

Groom told everyone they were ordering curry. He told them all to pick what they wanted then put the money for their orders into his account. He would then pay for the whole lot in one transaction, presumably because that what easier than getting 12 people on the phone to each pay individually, but only after they had given him the money.

They transferred him the money, which he then used to pay. The guests bought their own food. As if they had all handed over the cash, which he then put in his wallet until it was time to pay.

In what way do you think the groom "covered the cost"?

It was crystal clear @sue20
and 15 pages in… you were the only one confused by it

we all make silly comments sometimes. Laugh about it and move on!