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Would this bother you?

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

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Mirabai · 23/12/2022 13:19

Who are all these grabby people who if someone else answered the question to win a prize thinks thinks that £1,000 is sufficient.

BucketofTeaMassiveCake · 23/12/2022 13:32

It would have been nice of your colleague to offer you a share and if she ever needs a favour again you won't be so ready to help, will you? No good turn goes unpunished, as someone once said. It's a shame but life's like that, I'm afraid. A braver person would have asked outright, "Oi, where's my share, then?" Surely others noticed, though?

Learningstill · 23/12/2022 17:51

In my eyes you both “knowingly” cheated and deprived someone else more deserving. Neither of you deserve anything.

Ihateboris · 23/12/2022 17:56

I would definitely have given you half, without a second thought x

BettySwallocks · 23/12/2022 18:02

Hmmm, they didn't ask you for help with the question did they?
You just gave it off your own back.

However gratitude and good manners should be shown.
A huge thank you along with a bottle champers and choccies should be the bare minimum or a very reasonable gift of £500.
But looks like you are getting nothing and that's a shame

busymomtoone · 23/12/2022 18:02

There’s no way I’d expect half ( you didn’t enter!) but certainly a nice contribution would seem fair. I mean you’d hardly deliberately not answer and see her lose ?! Like others have said perhaps she’s waiting for the money to clear ( she can’t give you what she might not have). I really don’t understand why you can’t just make light of it and say: “ aren’t you glad/ lucky for you I knew that - you can thank me properly later!” Or something similar. I’m sure she will do - probably still reeling/ taking it all in?!

Happygirl79 · 23/12/2022 18:06

She obviously hasn't even considered giving you some of the winnings so if you don't mention it then you will get nothing.
Yes she should give you something
You've nothing to lose by pointing out that without your help she would have nothing

Justbefair · 23/12/2022 18:14

Only fair to share as wouldn't have won without your input. I would write a thank you card, stuff some cash in and give you a bottle of something you like! X

AllyArty · 23/12/2022 18:17

Yes they should have thanked you and given u a percentage. They might give u a gift voucher when u go back to work🤞🏻

GtotheP · 23/12/2022 18:20

You set yourself up to fail.

GtotheP · 23/12/2022 18:21

And you set them up to win.

Nutmegger · 23/12/2022 18:21

Oh my god I would be enraged. Could you not send them a text saying all thanks very welcome? If it were me I'd have given you 100/500/1000 depending on the vibe

rosegoldivy · 23/12/2022 18:27

Shamelessly placemarking in the hope of an update from OP

MysteryBelle · 23/12/2022 18:29

You deserve half, this is very unethical of your colleague. This is basic ethics 101. The fact is, you really deserve it all, as she didn’t know the answer. It is fair that you get half. Does anyone else know you gave her the answer? If they had any integrity, they’d shame the colleague into doing the right thing.

I cannot believe how basic integrity and honesty have totally gone down the tubes.

Vynalbob · 23/12/2022 18:30

Nope, if every response to people is only given after calculating 'whats in it for me' it would be pretty sad. However an acknowledgment and a thank you wouldn't have hurt.
So yes & no
Sorry, although personally I'd buy a small gift to thank you.

poefaced · 23/12/2022 18:31

rosegoldivy · 23/12/2022 18:27

Shamelessly placemarking in the hope of an update from OP

I’d be very surprised…

Elliecat7 · 23/12/2022 18:34

You should approach the person and ask for a portion of the winnings, otherwise you will contact the radio station and report that he didn’t know the answer and repeated the answer you gave him. I would be much more than annoyed! You won the prize for him!!

TerrysNeapolitan · 23/12/2022 18:35

It should be a 50/50 share.

bpirockin · 23/12/2022 18:48

I do competitions all the time, used to encourage others to enter, and have on the odd occasion received flowers or similar when a prize has been won because I sent details to a person I know would be very interested in a particular prize. In your shoes I'd have thought she'd have jumped for joy and said she'd give you half. That said, if she gave you £2K or something, I'd find it acceptable.

If she would have won nothing at all without your input then 50/50 seems the right thing to do. Maybe she wants to see the money first and will surprise you at a later date, but the fact that she has not even said "thank you" doesn't bode well.

I'm afraid I'm less tactful these days and would not have been able to stop myself from commenting before departing. What a shame she doesn't seem to deserve your help. I'm so sorry that your gesture has not even been acknowledged.

Proudofitbabe · 23/12/2022 18:48

I don't know about half but of course you should be offered something! What a tightwad.

OP please can we have the question?? I can't be the only one wondering I'd I'd have got it!

GUARDIAN1 · 23/12/2022 18:50

If I'd won I'd have given you something. If it was £5K I'd think £500 was reasonable

bpirockin · 23/12/2022 18:52

I should have added that my GM always used to tell me that I set myself up for disappointment by hoping that others will do the same as I would in a certain situation, when in reality they rarely do.

I'm sorry this happened to you, particularly at a time when it could have made all the difference to your Christmas.

WibblyWobblyWooWoo · 23/12/2022 18:58

Honestly? It would bug me big time! That should be a 50/50 split. Shame you didn't immediately say, "I expect my 50% when you get the prize money, Gloria" with a wink.

lottielooinwonderland · 23/12/2022 19:09

To be fair, I wouldn't give you half. Thats not what winning on the radio is about. They got lucky and were called up, they then got really lucky when you knew the answer. At the moment radio wins are big, as its Christmas. For example, if I won 50,000 I would give you around 500-1000. As money doesn't go far nowadays and it is my winnings. But you definitely deserve an amount that would make you happy.

Toomuchtrouble4me · 23/12/2022 19:11

No, you helped a colleague but you didn’t enter. Why wouldn’t you not tell the answer - do you wish you hadn’t so they didn’t win. Just be happy for them and get on with your life, you haven’t lost anything and you didn’t enter the competition.