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Would this bother you?

287 replies

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

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FatEaredFuck · 22/12/2022 19:37

I wouldn't expect any money (although I would take a small amount if offered)

The fact that they didn't say thank you would be a grudge I would carry till the very day I die! What an absolute ballbag.

Gagaandgag · 22/12/2022 19:42

I’m sorry OP I would feel exactly the same as you. Are you close to this colleague? Did other people see you share the answer too?

Oneeyedreindeer · 22/12/2022 19:45

This is a very very unsatisfactory conclusion!

WishIhadacrystalball · 22/12/2022 19:46

Maybe they are in shock, hadn’t quite sunk in and they don’t have the money yet. Maybe once it comes through and they’ve been home and told their family the might come back with a thanks and an offer who knows!

FictionalCharacter · 22/12/2022 19:49

That was horrible of her. I would have had to say something like “how did you know the answer Sandra?” She should have thanked you.

AlcoholFear · 22/12/2022 19:50

To be honest, £12k is a lot but not life changing. If you’d done that for me I’d probably give you £2k. If you ASKED for half I’d give you it because I wouldn’t have won without you

Dibbydoos · 22/12/2022 19:51

OMG yiu helped someone and they didn't thank you? Yes I'd def have thanked you abd given you some of the money, but it doesn't sound like your colleague is the caring sharing kind.

I'd remind them who gave them the answer - watch them huff at you if they don't give a monkeys or squirm if they have a conscience. Maybe if the latter happens they'll take you out for a mea if you're lucky!

Facefail · 22/12/2022 19:53

Just astonished they never even thanked you! They should definitely be giving you a nice present as a thanks too!

Never help that person again with anything!

StoneofDestiny · 22/12/2022 19:55

She entered, you had the answer. Teamwork. Should be 50/50. But if she hasn't thanked you, she is clearly not going to share.

mydogisthebest · 22/12/2022 20:05

Should definitely have given you at least £2,000 if she won £12,000. She sounds horrible and greedy.

Eastie77Returns · 22/12/2022 20:07

Some very jealous, embittered people on this thread. The same people I bet wouldn’t share a penny in the winning colleague’s shoes.

HaggisBurger · 22/12/2022 20:08

I bet she won’t mention to people / family that she was given the answer. Probably rewritten it in her head that she DID know the answer anyway … to justify being rude & ungrateful. I’d probably give you £2k

July70 · 22/12/2022 20:09

If I was your ex work mate, I'd give you every penny of the prize money and the coat off my back.

ShillyShallySherbet · 22/12/2022 20:13

Ahhh OP that is such a shame they didn’t even say thank you and at least give you £100 or something which is a drop in the ocean. A decent person would have done that but they obviously don’t want to share that money for whatever reason and to do that with a clear conscience they need to believe they won it in their own right and to say thank you is acknowledging that you had a part in the win. Either that or the adrenaline was running so high at the time they have no idea where that note came from and then they were so caught up in their win they didn’t give it another thought how they won. Those are my theories!

ShillyShallySherbet · 22/12/2022 20:15

Oooh or they might be waiting for the money to actually appear in their account before giving you anything, fingers crossed!

Murdoch1949 · 22/12/2022 20:15

A token gift, £500, would suffice. She's insensitive and greedy.

Aftersevens · 22/12/2022 20:17

diddl · 22/12/2022 19:18

Anyone else want to know the question?

Me!

Wakk · 22/12/2022 20:20

What was the question?

HimiJendrix · 22/12/2022 20:21

I'm really hoping that when she gets the money she will give you some. I think that she should.

Volumous · 22/12/2022 20:22

I'd give the person who helped me half the money, however much it was. It would make me happy to share it.

But most people do not think like that. I always assume that the majority of people are selfish and self serving, have no sense of gratitude, and so I never expect anything from anyone. I'd say it's very disappointing they didn't offer you some of the money, but ultimately unsurprising.

SnackSizeRaisin · 22/12/2022 20:25

I'd give you half.

Salome61 · 22/12/2022 20:37

I'd have shouted for all to hear 'lucky I gave you the right answer, who'd have thought you wouldn't know that!'. Since lockdown people have become so selfish.

PrincessScarlett · 22/12/2022 20:50

Unfortunately OP you should have kept your mouth shut. Particularly if she is just a work colleague rather than a friend. An actual friend would have shared the money or at least given you a token amount. Sadly you are not entitled to the money but a decent person might have offered. I can't believe none of your other colleagues have said anything either.

Backtoblack1 · 22/12/2022 20:53

How much?! X

BreatheAndFocus · 22/12/2022 21:01

Yes, she should give you a thank you and a gift/cut of the 12k. The fact she hasn’t even said thank you doesn’t bode well. What a selfish person!

I had similar but for far less money. There was an office quiz and a colleague took part, filling in their answers over lunchtime. They were those kind of puzzle answers where you have to work out the TV programme from the ‘code’ pictures. Colleague was hopeless and had got hardly any. I got the majority of them and colleague gratefully - or so I thought - wrote my answers in. She won and stood there receiving her £30 as though she was a f**king genius for winning. Everyone was saying Well Done and she never said a word about the fact I’d done 75% of the answers. I gave her the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe she’d thank me and/or give me some of the money later in private, but she didn’t. So, I said something right in front of the whole office. Whereupon she got in a strop and stomped off. Made me feel better though.