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Would this bother you?

287 replies

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

OP posts:
lynthesearesexpeople · 22/12/2022 21:01

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 16:31

Suzi nowhere did I say I wanted half?

it’s £12,000

If I had won 12k thanks to you, I’d give you 1k of it. I wouldn’t have had the other 11k without your help.

(I wouldn’t give more, 11k would change something horrible in my life at the moment).

AliceOlive · 22/12/2022 21:04

The person is a massive jerk for not acknowledging you. I wouldn’t help them with anything ever again.

CoolShoeshine · 22/12/2022 21:19

Err yes of course she should give you something- £1k at least.
why on earth didn’t you point out in front of everyone that she wouldn’t have won without your help??? She probably thinks as you were quiet you don’t care.

xprincessxjanetx · 22/12/2022 21:28

I would 100% hand on heart have given you half without question. It would have been £6000 I wouldn't have had without you. I know a lot of people wouldn't give half and that's fine but I am overly generous (not always to my credit!) and have always been that way.

SirVixofVixHall · 22/12/2022 21:30

forththeroast · 22/12/2022 16:05

I would definitely give half if I hadn't known the answer and you stepped in. Otherwise, I would have received nothing. What sort of person is this colleague that that does not occur to them?!

I agree with this.
I would split it equally under the circumstances.

Mumwithbaggage · 22/12/2022 21:41

A friend was taking some books to a charity shop for me from my dad's house. She noticed (I hadn't) that one is a signed first edition from 1950s and suggested I contact an auction house. Will definitely be taking her out to dinner if the book raises any money!

Blowthemandown · 22/12/2022 21:45

Wow @Grapesontheice no way could I not have given you half if I had no clue. Saying that, I’d probably have been too worried about breaking the rules to have used your answer … so to say nothing is terrible. Especially if they’d otherwise have given you a hard time if you had not said. I’d literally insist we shared it because I’d have zero otherwise?

IncompleteSenten · 22/12/2022 21:46

I'd be pissed right off that they didn't say thank you!

poefaced · 22/12/2022 21:49

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 19:01

Because they were looking at everyone mouthing ‘help’ after a big groan during the question, if they’d known the answer they would have just said it knowing they had a short time limit to answer in.

None of this makes any sense.

CambsAlways · 22/12/2022 21:53

Anyone want to know what the question was

HimiJendrix · 22/12/2022 22:00

CambsAlways · 22/12/2022 21:53

Anyone want to know what the question was

YES

Togoodtobeforgotten · 22/12/2022 22:02

Maybe she's just waiting to see the funds clear in her account first and perhaps it takes a little while? I would maybe say to her well a thanks would have been nice!

CambsAlways · 22/12/2022 22:03

I hope this is a genuine post as few have asked the question

Folklore9074 · 22/12/2022 22:06

it’d be nice if she shared but she entered the competition not you, and she’s not obligated to you. Sorry OP.

Benjispruce4 · 22/12/2022 22:15

I can’t believe nobody else has said oh it was lucky you knew the answer and helped them. That would trigger a conversation surely?

mydogisthebest · 22/12/2022 22:20

Folklore9074 · 22/12/2022 22:06

it’d be nice if she shared but she entered the competition not you, and she’s not obligated to you. Sorry OP.

She may have entered the competition but she didn't know the answer so without OP giving her the right answer she would have won no money at all.

She certainly is obligated. She has no morals.

theyarereallytakingthepissnow · 22/12/2022 22:24

What was the question ?!

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 22/12/2022 22:25

She is indeed obligated. I don’t know why you didn’t say anything

jelly79 · 22/12/2022 22:36

I am hoping that when this sinks in she contacts you to appreciate you. Whether that be a thank you or a gesture

FlissyPaps · 22/12/2022 23:19

She is indeed obligated

Under what law? 😂

Member869894 · 22/12/2022 23:32

That is outrageous. Of course you should receive something. If it were me I would give you half. I would prefer to keep it all but it's absolutely the right thing to do.Hopefully her conscience will get the the better of her

belowfrozen · 23/12/2022 00:22

LikeTearsInRain · 22/12/2022 19:04

I would have offered you a grand or something

Me too. Defo a decent chunk

harrassedmumto3 · 23/12/2022 05:03

That's really shit of them. YANBU Flowers

stillvicarinatutu · 23/12/2022 05:16

The decent thing to do here would be halves! They wouldn't have got a penny without you ! Awful behaviour.

Suzi888 · 23/12/2022 05:20

CambsAlways · 22/12/2022 22:03

I hope this is a genuine post as few have asked the question

Do you not think that would be massively outing?
Make things awkward in work..

£12k - I can see why your upset OP. It wouldn’t have hurt to have given you something, but with no agreement in place and in the absence of other people saying anything, not a lot you can do. By the sounds of it this person would’ve just brushed off any comments in any case.