To think he's dead and I don't know what to do?

[Mahanii]

A man I've been dating for the last 10 weeks (so not boyfriend or anything remotely committed) text yesterday morning to say he'd tested positive with covid and was feeling awful and getting into bed with his electric blanket on and all his clothes on. He was last online at 2pm and hasn't replied to my last 2 messages. This morning I thought I should call him and he didn't answer. I'm starting to think he might not be ok, he lives alone and I don't know any of his friends or family who could check on him. He's been asleep for 19 hours with no contact and possibly overheating.
Any sensible suggestions for what I can do?

Utterly irrelevant as that was a totally different situation.

I did not pop round and do anything weird, I did go about my day as usual. He eventually called to say he'd slept for nearly 24 hours and felt much better for it. I said I thought he might have boiled to death in his electric blanket, he laughed and asked if he could drop my Christmas present round tomorrow. I don't think I've come off crazy, he hasn't ghosted me or died, all is good.

Just as an aside, he dropped round uninvited when I was ill recently, with a book I'd said I wanted to read. It was at that point that I started properly liking him. So...horses for courses!

Glad you have spoken to him and he is starting to feel better, OP. All sounds good.

Thank god you didn't take the (IMO) loony advice this morning from the poster saying call the police for a welfare check.

I really worry that there are people who waste police resources like this. Calling police about someone who has stated that they are off to bed and only 19 hours later just because they haven't messaged. Really irresponsible. IMO.

If I were him I'd be touched that you were concerned. It's not like you broke into his house to check he was breathing at 2am. Glad he's OK and feeling better and hopefully you can relax more now too!

This made me smile OP. I’m glad he’s back in touch, have a great Christmas 🎄

You sound a really nice person, OP. I hope it all goes well with this man. He brought a book you wanted — I like him already!

Glad he’s ok @Mahanii but can’t believe you didn’t mention in your OP that he dropped round to yours recently when you were poorly! Would have made for completely different responses I think. That was defo a long drip feed!!

Glad he's ok. I don't think it would have been weird to drop things round if someone I cared about was ill (and clearly neither does he!). I'd be far more likely to dump someone for not caring - not for being thoughtful and checking in/dropping essentials off. You're not forced to answer the door if you don't want to/don't feel up to it fgs, doubt she'd have been hammering the door down and shouting through the letter box

"Haters"?! 🤣 Are you 14?!

I agree. All these messages about popping round are making me cringe with second hand embarrassment. Don't do it! He'll be in touch when he's feeling better!

I'm glad to hear he is okay op. There are some nasty bugs going around, we are all on and off zombies in our house with this current chesty cough thing. We are usually the smug never get ill ones too. Its nice to have someone to worry about you sometimes, especially when you are unwell.

I often go 2 days without contacting the person I have been dating (been dating 6 months), he never assumes I am dead.

If he does have covid then maybe he doesn’t feel like texting, maybe he’s sleeping and resting. Or there’s a chance he doesn’t have covid and he’s ghosting you? I think it’s very unlikely he’s dead and even if he was dead there wouldn’t be much you could do.

10 weeks of dating… after 2 months and a half of regular contact, I would know I am either in a new relationship or have at least a good friendship…

Obviously, 10 weeks talking every day and meeting at least twice a week is not the same than meeting every 3 weeks for two hours with silence in between. But if contact was regular I would be concerned, probably not so much to drive there after 24 hours but enough to check after 48. Having said that… if he didn’t look that interested I would assume he has met someone else and ghosted me 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Mahanii I have just had horrendous vomiting/ dizziness condition for 2 days and wasn’t answering or looking at phone at all-
Chances are he’s just sleeping .
When one feels really ill, even texting is too much.
HOWEVER
I did have a friend who had died.It was me who flagged up him not answering phone and door and police were called.
Always check if concerned.

are you worried because he has an electric blanket? mine switches off itself after 90 mins.
i think worryig about an ill person who lives on his own and dont have any relatives to check on him is normal.

Me too @Mahanii @Ofcourseshecan

Blimey, op, you have had some weird responses to your post. I think your concern was real and valid - I'd have felt the same.

Glad that he has been in touch and is feeling better!

Glad everything is okay. X

'Just as an aside, he dropped round uninvited when I was ill recently, with a book I'd said I wanted to read.'

Just as a side note = massive drip feed 😂

So he's done the same thing to you before, of course you considered turning up uninvited.

He sounds like a nice guy. Hope you two spend a nice Xmas together.

I thought it was different because he didn't turn up at mine thinking I was dead 😂 we were in contact and then next thing he was at my door with a book. The weird bit in my situation was worrying because I hadn't heard from him.

Thanks guys, have a lovely Christmas too!