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AIBU?

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Would you say I’m a crap wife?

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Xmasiscomingg · 20/12/2022 22:19

Hubby came down with some flu like thing shivers and migraine yesterday. I got up with him at 2 in the morning and made him tea remedy with lemon oranges garlic. Stayed up with him until half 4. Baby woke up at 5 for bottle then again at 6 for nappy change. Then I was up at 8 put all the washing away got dressed and went food shopping with baby 2 older kids stayed with him.

Back home tidied up as they trashed the downstairs whilst I was out and then I done dinner for everyone. I feel like he wants me to nurse him back to health but at the end of the day I’ve got a million other things to do.

he lied in bed all day sleep and on his phone, all I asked of him was to take the 2 oldest upstairs to bed. They had already put their pyjamas on and done their teeth. He’s got so much energy to shout at me and sit on his phone for hours. But when I’m ill in bed he will ask me what’s for dinner and palm the baby of to me!!

AIBU? He is saying he’s going to expose me to his mum because I don’t care about him and I’m not looking after him properly 🤣🤣

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ItsaMetalBand · 21/12/2022 12:04

A migrane me hole.
There's no way you'd even want to look at your phone if you've an actual migrane.

I'd tell him that his babyish whinging is putting you right off him - and that he should remember that when he comes back from the brink of death and feels like a shag.

dcut · 21/12/2022 12:32

I got up with him at 2 in the morning and made him tea remedy with lemon oranges garlic. Stayed up with him until half 4

I would never have done that. Fucking hell. He should drink his remedy, take some paracetemol or whatever and go and fucking lie down in the dark. Why would you stay up with him???

He's a manchild. It's ridiculous.
Picking up lemsips or night nurse at the pharmacy for him - yeah fine. Maybe bringing a couple of hot drinks. But not sitting "nursing him back to health". There's nothing fucking wrong with him.

Also, I second the other posters saying that it's not a migraine if he's on his phone.
I was plagued with them when I was younger - couldn't fucking move for 24 hrs and couldn't bear any kind of light sources.
He's got manflu and manmigraine.

Brokenmiata · 21/12/2022 14:19

Sounds like you have another child, not a husband.

RedAndBlueStripedGolfingUmbrella · 21/12/2022 14:22

You got up with him at 2am to make him a tea?! Why?!
Sod that! 😁
As for telling on you to his mummy 🙄🤣

Noodles1234 · 21/12/2022 14:26

Expose you to his Mum? Is he 5?

Addicted2Kale · 21/12/2022 14:29

Safe to say, you're not really dissatisfied with your situation. But you do know how to provoke a reaction. Fair play.

Nagado · 21/12/2022 14:42

If my DH had woken me up at 2am to tell me he had the sniffles, I would have had a very different reaction.

I’m thinking of starting a home visit service for women married to men like this. My team of no nonsense women will come to your home for a couple of days and show these 6yr olds in adult men’s bodies just what side their bread is buttered and how lucky they are to have the wives and partners they have.

SinnerBoy · 21/12/2022 14:50

You've pandered to him, I'm afraid. Most illnesses make you feel crap and weak, but don't stop you making a cup of tea, or putting the kids to bed. I just tend to get on with things, cleaning the house, making dinner, walking the dog, doing the school run.

I can remember two occasions when I've asked my wife to help. I'd had really bad bronchitis for a couple of weeks and fell asleep on the couch, one afternoon. She wanted to know what I was doing, sleeping in the middle of the day. (Coughing up custard wasn't enough of a clue......) I asked her to take the dog out, as I felt dizzy and my legs were like rubber. She did, with some muttering.

When she got back, she told me to make a doctor's appointment. He gave me antibiotics and sent me for a chest X-Ray.

The second time was about a month ago. My daughter had a vomiting bug, but was fine on the second day. On the 4th day, I was up all night, throwing up. she came to see if I was OK and told me not to sleep on the toilet floor. I couldn't stand up and crawled back to bed. When she got up, I tried to stand up, but couldn't, so I asked for a Paracetamol, which she brought, after she'd had a cup of tea.

I didn't die or anything.

If she takes to her bed ill, I come and ask if she wants a cup of tea, Paracetamol etc. I think it's with us being adults and you know, trying to look after each other.

Salter1975 · 18/06/2023 19:58

Dial her phone number and pass him the phone and just say there you go I dialled her number for u incase you'd lost the ability to use his own fingers..
As his man flu had effected every other muscle in his body..
Sit next to him and say go ahead you tell her ur version and then I will tell her my version..and yell her straight .xx

NoAlexa · 18/06/2023 23:28

Bit of a zombie there mate

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