Would you say I’m a crap wife?

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Hubby came down with some flu like thing shivers and migraine yesterday. I got up with him at 2 in the morning and made him tea remedy with lemon oranges garlic. Stayed up with him until half 4. Baby woke up at 5 for bottle then again at 6 for nappy change. Then I was up at 8 put all the washing away got dressed and went food shopping with baby 2 older kids stayed with him.

Back home tidied up as they trashed the downstairs whilst I was out and then I done dinner for everyone. I feel like he wants me to nurse him back to health but at the end of the day I’ve got a million other things to do.

he lied in bed all day sleep and on his phone, all I asked of him was to take the 2 oldest upstairs to bed. They had already put their pyjamas on and done their teeth. He’s got so much energy to shout at me and sit on his phone for hours. But when I’m ill in bed he will ask me what’s for dinner and palm the baby of to me!!

AIBU? He is saying he’s going to expose me to his mum because I don’t care about him and I’m not looking after him properly 🤣🤣

I thought it was lemon and honey you were meant to have?

Garlic I’m sure has some helpful properties but I wouldn’t want it in tea.

Is he not from the UK, hence this unfamiliar (to MN) drink?

Or maybe OP's had fuck all sleep and she wrote the wrong word starting with G.

When you hear hoofbeats, etc.

Did you ask him to make dinner and remind him that's what he said to you?
Ask him how he feels about it now.

He's a big baby. Although it could be worse mine has covid and decided to let the kids hug and kiss him. He's also snuggled in every blanket we own. My kids have Chicken Pox so in a few days I'll be dealing with 2 toddlers with chicken pox and covid. Merry fucking Christmas.

I've had covid 3 times. I've also got a toddler and work full time. My DH has thankfully let me nap when I could and took care of dinner while I was ill. I returned the favour when he had it (twice) but generally when you have kids, you don't get to rest much with a minor illness. You just make it work. Especially when you can't take sick leave.

Bloody heck! What did you do in the middle of the night whilst he was ill after you made him the tea?

Our of interest, what would how mother say if he did 'expose you'? I'm just thinking what my partners mother would do if dp tried this shit and I honestly think she would tell him to get to fuck, just as I would if this were my son!

No, you're not a crap wife. You made him a hot drink full of good things to help him instead of some shite like Lemsip. He sounds perhaps a bit young and spoilt unless he said it as a joke. My DH once called me Nurse Rached from "One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest" as I kept muttering "FFS" under my breath every time he wanted something. 😄 Also though in seriousness, someone who is "playing with their phone" is not very unwell. Someone really ill could not be bothered doing that. Very irritating. He is malingering.

God ring his mum and tell her to come get her baby.

What is with the men on here tonight.

Expose you to his mum?
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Tell him to hop on over to hers and not come back.

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This is so embarrassing for him. You should threaten to expose him to his mates for being a baby. I've never once had to look after my husband when he's been ill except for making him a hot drink and taking the painkillers up to him!

Yes, I was thinking OP should send him back to his mum, but then thought why should she have to deal with him?

Please people, don’t say because she brought him up. Presumably he had a dad too. These blokes usually learn from their dads.

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Tell his mum to come look after him next time

Neither of you are good partners. He wants to destroy you to his mum and you are destroying him online. Doesn't sound like either of you care for each other at all.

Sounds like he only takes care of dinner as a favour when you're ill!

You sound a bit like a martyr tbh get some boundaries and learn to say no.

Also he is the shitty spouse, not you.

I wouldn’t be surprised if he was abusive

"Gonna tell me mam on you...". Last heard that when I was about 7. What a wally.

I'd be asking the fucking sook how he's going to cope when he's sick and doing 50% care as a single parent.

Why would you sit up with him overnight? I know there was a another thread recently where A woman wanted her husband to sit up with her all night as she didn’t feel well and lots of people agreed he should but I don’t get it.

Adults can get through A sick night on their own without needing their husband or wife to stay awake with them and martyr themselves. Humans need sleep and if you are a man or woman down due to illness, the healthy person should rest as much as they can to 1) keep the fort running and 2) stay healthy themselves.

Urgh. Nothing less attractive than a man child. I think you should get in there first….expose the ‘man child’ to his mother…and ask if she wants him back.

If his mum has any sense when she's 'exposed' to this level of twaterry from him she'd tell him to get over himself.

If by any chance she's one of the thankfully dying breed of women who think grown men need babying then she can make up his toddler bed and take him back rather than you having to deal with him being a big baby like this.

This is about right. He needs to get on with it and if he is in bed literally unable to move, stay out of the way (in these circumstances I would bring drinks and painkillers).

He is saying he’s going to expose me to his mum because I don’t care about him and I’m not looking after him properly.

Pack him a bag and send him back to his Mummy so she can nurse the Big Bwave Soldier with convenient ManFlu