Sage green dress drama - Bride

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Bride wants me to send a picture over of what I've chosen

I must wear a dress that's sage green. So must DD and DS (wear sage green). DD has to wear a dress but is exempt (bride's words) from wearing ballet slippers because she isn't walking yet

The men must wear any suit colour but black, with a sage green tie.

AIBU to tell her I can't find anything in my size really that's sage green?

She wants me to send pictures of what I've chosen for the kids before they turn up on the day

Yes I thought this, the anti-fat rhetoric is strong on this thread.

The bride has now said the green is off?!
Hope you can get a refund on the one you ordered.

Honestly, unless I especially liked the couple, I would be bowing out at this stage.

Oh come on. Women are allowed to feel insecure about their bodies and avoid styles they think are unflattering. Even if they're smaller than you are. No need to take it as a personal attack.

Just what would the bride do on the day of the wedding if she arrived at the wedding venue and no one was wearing Sage Green?
Would she throw down her bouquet, rip off her veil, stamp her feet and declare ‘It’s ruined, RUINED! It’s OFF. And then run screaming away from the venue.
Not a chance.

Sage green isn't a common colour, so guests are not unlikely to find they've turned up in the same dress as more than one other guest.

There's also bound to be a good deal of variation in how people perceive/interpret the colour.

The result could be comical. I'd be tempted to attend just for the entertainment value!

I don't know... I still think it's all in the spirit of a bit of fun and should be taken that way! I was invited to a 50th birthday party for a chap named Steven last month.. the invitation asked everyone to come dressed up as a famous Steve. (I went as the Six Million Dollar Man in a tracksuit and polaroid sunshades). It was great fun and never crossed my mind to consider that he was being a cheeky f**ker to demand everyone dressed up as a Steve!

Can you not see how that’s completely different though, @BootifulLoser?

It’s a completely flexible request and it’s totally possible for a guest to approach it either by being silly or taking it super seriously; by buying something new or creatively using what they already have. And it’s clear that it would be welcomed in the spirit of fun even if they looked a bit daft. It is a bit of a pain in the arse maybe but it’s light-hearted.

Not remotely the same as “You may only wear standard wedding-appropriate attire in an obscure colour of my choosing, and the same goes for your children. Please submit your outfit for approval in advance kthanxbai”

Sage green is an ugly colour anyway. I wouldn't adhere to it (I just wouldn't go actually, I can't imagine having a friend that thought it was OK to dictate outfits outside of the bridal party).

another one demanded we showed up in red and white.

along with green being considered unlucky for weddings, there's an old superstition that you never wear red and white together; or even have anything that's red and white - flowers, cards, decor etc. - as it's thought by some to represent blood and bandages.

I'm not one for superstitions personally, but my DGM would have been horrified at the suggestion - akin in the 'bad luck stakes' to getting everybody to wear a printed mask of the bride or groom's ex-spouse!

It’s a completely flexible request and it’s totally possible for a guest to approach it either by being silly or taking it super seriously; by buying something new or creatively using what they already have. And it’s clear that it would be welcomed in the spirit of fun even if they looked a bit daft. It is a bit of a pain in the arse maybe but it’s light-hearted.

Exactly - it's obviously giving people an awful lot of 'licence' and freedom. You can just easily go as your Uncle Steve or Auntie Stevie who are not celebrities at all, 'happen' to always wear the exact same frock or suit as you yourself have in your wardrobe and may only actually exist theoretically. You can freely choose to go as Steve Irwin, Stephen Spielberg, Stevie from Miranda, Stevie Nicks or Steve/Steph Perkins who runs the local greengrocer's!

In sage green!

Exactly. That is a totally different scenario.

Fair enough; I take your point. (Although the invitation did specify a famous Steve!) Okay, bridezilla is a cheeky cow.

Sage green isn't a common colour, so guests are not unlikely to find they've turned up in the same dress as more than one other guest.

Unbeknown plan to "sage green dress" guests.
Maybe they were all going to be the bridesmaids but bride couldn't afford/didn't want to pay for the dresses.

Well, two of the quests managed to rustle up a green outfit 😀

www.vogue.com/article/see-prince-harry-and-meghan-markle-official-wedding-portraits

Is she planning a Thunderpants-themed wedding?😂😂😂
moviechat.org/tt0283054/Thunderpants/58c7824c93cef4080d83929f/Green-Why-is-everything-green

(Although the invitation did specify a famous Steve!)

How very very dare you - Steve Perkins is an absolute legg here in Little Thrumpton, don't you know?!

(Legg as in legend; not Dr Legg from Eastenders....)

To be fair, it wouldn't be difficult or expensive to go as Steve Jobs in a black top, or Stephen Spielberg in glasses, suit and gloves if you thought it was too tricky to dress up as Steve Irwin (in sage green! 😂) or Stevie Wonder!

Gloves? I meant a scarf. He likes scarves doesn't he?

Who? Where?😆

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Good it would have looked shit