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Sage green dress drama - Bride

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lgcoopers · 19/12/2022 19:47

Bride wants me to send a picture over of what I've chosen

I must wear a dress that's sage green. So must DD and DS (wear sage green). DD has to wear a dress but is exempt (bride's words) from wearing ballet slippers because she isn't walking yet

The men must wear any suit colour but black, with a sage green tie.

AIBU to tell her I can't find anything in my size really that's sage green? Blush

She wants me to send pictures of what I've chosen for the kids before they turn up on the day

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FusionChefGeoff · 19/12/2022 23:11

What happens if you don't want to / can't afford to buy completely bespoke outfits?!

This is mental

bridgetreilly · 19/12/2022 23:13

Just point out clearly that she has gone batshit crazy and she can’t start telling other people what to wear.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 19/12/2022 23:17

lgcoopers · 19/12/2022 20:30

I am 5'3. Definitely obese at a 14/16 sadly

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Op I’m 5’ 3” and a size 14/16 and I’m not obese. Size 14 top and 16 bottom.
That dress is gorgeous, it’ll look lovely on you.
One of the links showed a lovely wrap over style, I find Wrap over styles are flattering.

Iknowthis1 · 19/12/2022 23:20

It would look like some sort of cult gathering if all the guests are wearing the same colour.

SnowlayRoundabout · 19/12/2022 23:31

It's going to look quite bizarre if four of you turn up in dresses the same colour - even more so if the bride has told all the female guests to wear sage green. It'll be a cross between a girls' school outing and a chorus line. Frankly, if I were you I'd ignore it.

My SIL, or rather her fiancé no. 2, were dead keen on dictating what the guests wore for their wedding.. DH was an usher and they tried to tell him that he had to travel 200 miles to a particular hire shop in the North to hire a suit with waistcoat. He simply told them that he couldn't afford the time or the money and they would have to put up with the morning suit he trotted out for every formal wedding. They also tried to say that we should all wear autumn colours. As I'd already decided on what I was wearing (blue)I ignored it, and likewise ignored them when it came to the DC. Most of the guests ignored the diktat also. I don't think our mass rebellion had anything to do with the fact that the marriage didn't last and she is now on husband no. 3, but who knows.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 19/12/2022 23:38

I would be asking the bride if everyone is wearing green.

She would have no way of knowing/being able to guarantee it, though.

Jux · 19/12/2022 23:39

Hang on! Isn't sage rather darker than most of those dresses? And then there's purple sage which is darker still....

UsingChangeofName · 19/12/2022 23:42

Surely this isn't the first time y'all have heard of a wedding where guests were asked to wear a certain colour(s)!?! However, I thought it was supposed to be a bit of fun

It's the first time I've heard of anyone who isn't a "celeb", and planning a magazine shoot rather than an actual wedding, yes.
Clearly I only know sane people.

Hadjab · 19/12/2022 23:45

lgcoopers · 19/12/2022 20:32

No requests made on shoes but I was going with white heels?

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NOOOOOOOOO! Silver shoes, please!!!

Chilesstanton · 19/12/2022 23:55

There was a bride on here not long ago asking for sage green bridal dresses…🤔

KettrickenSmiled · 19/12/2022 23:55

DD has to wear a dress but is exempt (bride's words) from wearing ballet slippers because she isn't walking yet

Exempt!!! 😂😂😂 Shock

Oh OP. You've got your work cut out with this one.

Gwenhwyfar · 20/12/2022 00:06

I would just say I can't afford a new dress and I'm coming in something I already own. She can't force everyone to buy something new that they might never wear again.

2bazookas · 20/12/2022 00:08

Ridiculous bride! She can't dictate the dress of wedding guests.

Seeingadistance · 20/12/2022 00:09

dapsnotplimsolls · 19/12/2022 20:24

I love the way this thread is 50% links and 50% incredulity 😂

It's truly amazing!

I'm on the side of "tell the bride to fuck right off"!

ScruffMuffin · 20/12/2022 00:12

I'm on the side of "keeps popping back for another disbelieving snigger"! I don't disbelieve the OP, just to be clear. I'm just lost for words that anybody is as shockingly self-centred and full of cheekyfuckery as this bride.

LaBellina · 20/12/2022 00:13

I hate weddings where the bride tells people what colour to wear. Yes it’s their day and all of that but it’s imo, entitled and not very hospitable. We have been asked to wear pink once to a wedding, another one demanded we showed up in red and white. I wouldn’t dream of telling people what colour to wear to my wedding as long as it isn’t white. I’ve also noticed it’s a certain type of person who will make such demands.

Dita73 · 20/12/2022 00:19

I wouldn’t go or if I did I’d wear a giant fancy dress sprout costume just to piss her off

Tallisimo · 20/12/2022 00:19

You’re not in the bridal party? Then I don’t understand why she thinks she can dictate what colours you or any other guests wear. I can imagine the sea of sickly green now!

Your choices as I see it are ..

Go, wearing sage green (but I would so not be doing this)
Send her a link and say this is what you willl be wearing (but don’t, wear something else)
Tell her you aren’t coming if you have to share sage green
Stsy home.

ScruffMuffin · 20/12/2022 00:23

As it happens, I have something in sage green (long skirt and top... not a dress) so would be semi-OK for this particular wedding. But pink @LaBellina - eek, that would be a non-starter. I don't own, and have never owned, anything pink. Certainly wouldn't be buying a new pink outfit for a wedding. Firstly, I hate it, and secondly, I have red hair!!

LaBellina · 20/12/2022 00:25

ScruffMuffin · 20/12/2022 00:23

As it happens, I have something in sage green (long skirt and top... not a dress) so would be semi-OK for this particular wedding. But pink @LaBellina - eek, that would be a non-starter. I don't own, and have never owned, anything pink. Certainly wouldn't be buying a new pink outfit for a wedding. Firstly, I hate it, and secondly, I have red hair!!

It’s quite a particular colour indeed. The men were also expected to wear pink and my ex ended up buying a pink tie he never wore again, just for their wedding. I wonder how many clothes end up in landfill every year because guests feel pressured to spend money on clothes in certain colors they dislike and will never wear again.

ScruffMuffin · 20/12/2022 00:29

This behaviour is utter wankery.

Ihaveroyallyscrewedup · 20/12/2022 01:41

@lgcoopers , if the text just says “ladies in dresses please” I wouldn’t assume she is cancelling the sage outfit request, it sounds like she’s realised women may turn up in sage trousers/sage top and that won’t fit her aesthetic so she is saying you must wear a sage dress specifically.

kateandme · 20/12/2022 01:47

You will look lovely in that dress op. But have more confidence in yourself!

Notatallanamechange · 20/12/2022 01:48

If you want people there to celebrate your marriage you don’t dictate what colour they can wear down to one! This is going to be such an unhappy wedding, guests will drop out (like you should unless you challenge the nonsense). Her view on marriage will be tainted because of her idiocy and they’ll divorce. Calling it.

AclowncalledAlice · 20/12/2022 07:16

My response would be

"Dear cheeky cow bride, I had hoped to get you a lovely expensive gift for your wedding, but due to your demands requests around mine and my families outfits I will have to use that money in order to buy the clothes. I hope the lack of a gift at your wedding will not offend you but I can't afford both. Please let me know which you would prefer"

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