Sleeping arrangements - fair?

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One week stay, is this fair:
Room1 DH and me
Room2 Our two DC (8yo boy/girl)
Room3 MIL and FIL
Room4 My mum
Room5 Sister and her 10yo DD
Room6 SIL, her 9yo DS and 3yo DD

Not great for SIL but am not sure how else we could split the rooms?
The DC all have different sleep patterns so not keen to mix families. Selfishly, our two sleep easily until 8-9am whereas SIL’s 9yo is awake at 6-7 so if he shares with our children they will all wake up early, wake us up and we will all be grumpy for the day.

SIL is saying that my DD could sleep with my mum and then her son could sleep with my son.
Am I really mean for saying no?

I wouldn't mix kids only because it will be like a sleepover and they'll be up playing and talking.

That is exactly the reason I would mix the kids! #makingmemories and all that old shit 😂

And this would be bad on a family christmas holiday because......???

I think that sounds reasonable as long as they would only pay for 1 room except you as you'd need to pay for 2 rooms.

This seems sensible.

The world doesn't revolve around your family and sleep tbh.

I would go with the original suggestion.
OP has an option to use a house for holiday with her family and offered others a room for each unit to join them.

They aren't booking together for commercial price, they use an opportunity the OP has.

We don't know what is DM's health, but I don't see anything wrong with the oldest member having a room for herself.

Give SIL the biggest room and done.

@Idtotallybangdreamoftheendlessnotgonnalie yeah and they'd be intolerable the next day. I'd rather they slept and enjoyed the plans and didn't keep everyone else up too

Because the kids end up grumpy and tired, which makes the while holiday less enjoyable for everybody, including the kids.

That's fine for a night or maybe 2 ,but any longer and it just becomes unnecessarily hard for everyone.

Can you have one night when all dc sleep together?

Sounds like my worst nightmare. I suppose the catering, cleaning, bathroom rota and all the other costs have been negotiated to within an inch of their lives also.

I'd rather be at home in my PJs in the peace and quiet. But ignore me bah humbug!

@greenhousegal I’m with you, especially mixing families. Couldn’t see my DB and my BIL’s families getting on

100% this. You are being totally selfish OP. Relax about the kids sharing, it’s what makes by far the most sense. It’s a holiday and they will enjoy sharing with their cousins. If they get a little less sleep it’s not the end of the world. It’s going to be an exhausting trip for your sil, on her own with two kids , including a 3 year old.

"Why should your mum have kids in with her rather than SIL?"

Why should she get her own room when nobody else does? How many grandmothers couldn't share with a granddaughter on holiday?

Fine if you are paying for 2 rooms. Not fine otherwise.

Your sisters idea is a good one

Let the girls and boys share if that's what they want. They aren't babies they would rather share with they're piers than with they're parents. Even if it means sleeping on a blow up mattress. How many nights is it for?

Do the cousins see each other a lot?
If not then it might be fun for them all to sleep in the one room except the 3yr old.
They can all go down and get cereals in the morning and watch TV. Even the 3yr old could join them.
Or each 'parent' takes turns getting up with the kids.
I think you are too hung up on the early waking thing.
Just go back to sleep for an hour, no?

The kids won't be going to sleep at their usual 'school night' time over the holiday will they? They'll all be up late every night and will sleep late.

Sorry, OP but it's a definite no from me. I'd put the kids separate from the adults. It'd be more fun for them and more relaxing to not have to worry about having such different sleep requirements.

I assumed it was your house..

As it’s a holiday home then yes you need to stick the kids in together so all the adults have their own rooms

Sorry if it makes your kids tired, but no you can’t arrange everyone else to suit you without everyone thinking you are a selfish git, because you are. Rent a bigger house or suck it up

above all the grandparent’s shouldn’t have to share rooms with kids. So your SIL is BU on that front

What if once there, SIL decides her DD and DS could share a room and SIL ends up with a room to herself. The only one who does? I suspect this would be annyoing

Why not allocate a kids room for all the children apart from the 3 year old …and then give all the adults their own rooms. If any of the kids are not happy to be in the kids room then they can revert to sleeping with their parents… this way you are not the “bad guy” and the sleeping arrangements can unfold naturally. It’s sometimes difficult to tell how the kids are going to get along when they are on holiday together and it can sometimes be a moving feast…one year they barely mix and the next year they are thick as thieves… you might find it’s actually one of your own DCs that wants to sleep in a room with her mum and dad.

It's a holiday. I wouldn't worry about sleeping patterns. I would actively be getting the kids to share, especially as at that age you want them to be in their rooms before the adults.

I'd do
Room 1 - you and DH
Room 2 - MIL/FIL
Room 3 - Mum and Sister
Room 4 - SIL and 3 yo
Room 5 - DDs 10 and 8
Room 6 - DSs 10 and 9

Alternatively put the 3 yo in with the other girls and SIL can share with Sister leaving Mum with her own room.

It seems like the only person that has a problem with the sleeping arrangement is the SIL, and as a result she’s the one expecting everyone to change arrangements.

If anything the onus is on her to suck it up and/or rent a bigger house.

OP shouldn’t expect the SIL to entertain her kids, no, and nor should she expect perfect quiet.

I'd just wait until everyone has arrived and go, "hey kids, where do you want to sleep?". Let them pick and have a fun adventure.

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