Is he a keeper?

[WhatisWrong1]

I have trust issues with my BF of 8 months.

He hasnt done anything to make me distrust him - I just think, from what he has told me, he acts up with his friends and he is with them this weekend for a weekend bender. He sees his friends probably every 6 months.

He has told the odd fib or two when quizzed about stuff that happened way before he met me. I like to know the background of someone, what their values are, I think past can tell alot about present.

Anyway, he drove 9 hours last night to the hotel he is staying at. He had to stop a few times to charge his car. During which he wanted to call and phoned a few times. I didnt answer. I've told him I dont trust him and I think we should break up because its not fair on both of us.

He has pleaded with me not to end the relationship, said I am the one and doesnt undertand why we would break up if we love each other. He has said I am overthinking things and creating fake senarios and I am pushing him away. He texted the whole time using voice control text to sort out the situation.

I said I didnt want us to be together but I do worry and would like to know when he has arrived safely - he then sent me a live location pin so I could see that.

I then said I was going to bed (as it was nearly 1am), he told me he would arrive around 230/3am (he left late as we argued). He said he wanted to charge his car when he arrived so it was done for when he drives back Sunday.

Much later he texted saying he had arrived at 2am. Then he said he was going to charge his car and then he said he was back at 4am(ish). Why did he do this? Was he visiting the strip club which his hotel is around the corner from?

This morning he has texted me saying good morning, how am I etc., then he said that he hopes I get to work okay with all this bad snow, and now he has texted asking if I am okay.

I havent texted him back since asking him to let me know he arrived safe.

But with this asttentive texts, while he is with friends,. am I being horrible?!

Did he go to a stripclub last night?

I dont know if I am ruining this and pushing away a man, I do consider to be the one.

Help

@WhatisWrong1 are you reading the replies here? Because the vast majority of people are telling you to back off and sort out your trust issues. You need to tell him it is definitely finished and then go and get yourself counselling.

Right. So he meets his friends every six months.
You've been dating for eight months.

That means he has met them once during your relationship.

You sound batshit, OP. The poor bloke. Just finish it for good, for his sake.

Do you get a kick out of posting these threads OP and trying to create some drama? I can’t see what the point is otherwise?

Yes
He had a night out when we first started dating

If I was his friend I’d be saying “you dodged a bullet”

So?

I wish I could get hold of this bloke and tell him to run a mile.

Starting to think this is a pisstake. You’ve finished it, do the guy a favour and block him. You won’t though, as you crave the drama and attention.

You’re being controlling and harsh. Stop messing him about

You’ve dumped him for no good reason that anyone here can see, so either leave him be, or apologise and get over yourself. You’re doing it deliberately to make him worry and beg and plead.

This isn't you?

Trusting him http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4698677-trusting-him

How do you know there is a strip club round the corner from his hotel anyway?

I dont like the drama but I DONT want to be with someone who acts single

So... because some of his friends have cheated he automatically would!
A couple of my friends have cheated, I didn't agree with it and would never cheat ... so because that's what a couple of my friends have done. I would tarred with the same brush??
All I can see is that you have spoiled his Christmas night out with his friends he sees every 6 month. You need to break up!
You sound like you need to work on your own issues and let this poor man get on in his life

I googled his hotel and stripclubs in area
Its a 5 min walk around the corner

Nobody will be 'a keeper' if you treat them like that. They would rightly run a mile.

Using it to manage her anxiety whilst her partner is on a weekend away is worlds away from using it to control and stalk someone

Ok so I’ve asked if you have children and your silence would indicate there are.

OP, this is going no where aside from tension, mistrust and spats. Just focus on you and your kids for the time being. You don’t seem to be in the right frame of mind for a relationship atm

No silence - I have no chidlren and neither does he, I answered that up thread!

Fu”k me

How is he acting single? By going out? I must be mega single then, better tell my husband.

He’s 40

how old are you Op?

Run new boyfriend, run like the wind

I am 33

Hanging out with your friends once in every 6 months is not “acting single”.

You are being abusive.

Seeing your friends once every 6 months = acting like you are single 😂😂😂😂😂😂

He said he loves me and asked if we are toghether
i dont know what to say