My husband has told me that for the second year of working for a company that he has not been invited to the Christmas work do. His work comprises of a few smaller teams and the person in charge of one of these teams also works in a pub and arranges the event. My husband and this person speak on a frequent basis and the coordinator has even discussed the party in front of my husband. His work colleagues all can’t understand why he hasnt been invited, they don’t gel personality wise but this man can be hard to get along with.
last night was the party and at work people were asking each other if they were going. DH works closely with one other person who said he wasn’t. However later DH heard him on the phone saying he was going and had to lie so it didn’t seem awkward in front of DH
My husband isn’t the sort to speak up about it or to find out why but AIBU at being annoyed that no one else has spoken up for him? I can see DH is gutted at not being invited and he says others across the teams have mentioned it to him.
it also feels worse as my six year old daughter was the only girl in her class (out of nine girls) last not invited to a birthday party last month - I’m starting to feel like we are social misfits
AIBU?
Husband was only one not invited
Beanielou · 13/12/2022 03:52
Am I being unreasonable?
903 votes. Final results.
POLLAllIwantforChristmas22 · 13/12/2022 04:50
Could it be a racist/cultural thing? Are they excluding your DH because of his background?
he should definitely complain, it’s not acceptable.
Confusion101 · 13/12/2022 05:06
That is so hurtful and rude and childish. The fact you can compare it to a child's birthday party shows how incredibly immature the dickhead is that organised it. I would be so hurt and would pull away from that guy. But I think your anger should lie with the organiser, not the rest who didn't speak up for him. He didn't speak up for himself either.
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