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to feel hurt? Last day of my job

136 replies

jaydeymoo22 · 07/12/2022 19:50

...before moving onto a new job, and I didn't even get a card from my work/team. Nothing. I'm not expecting a gift (I never would, especially in the current climate), but there was literally no acknowledgement that it was my last day. It was so weird. It just got to to the end of the working day and that was it. I'd worked there for 5 years.
AIBU to feel a bit upset?
Would you expect a card or something, or at least your manager to have some nice things to say/well wishes?
I feel hurt and like I've left with a sour taste in my mouth to be honest

OP posts:
OnlyFannys · 07/12/2022 19:52

Yes that's really shitty of them, I'm sorry to hear that I can imagine how hurtful that must be. I hope you are really happy in your new role and work with some better people

HazelBite · 07/12/2022 19:53

That is very harsh, I would be very upset if that were me. Did you belong to a big organisation/team?

Redlorryyellowlorryblue · 07/12/2022 19:53

Yes, that’s weird and shit.

FfeminyddCymraeg · 07/12/2022 19:54

YANBU, that’s awful. I’m so sorry.

I’ve only worked in relatively small teams but surely you’d have to go out of your way to avoid the fact it’s somebody’s last day? 🤷🏼‍♀️

bluebird3 · 07/12/2022 19:56

I'd also be really hurt. That's really horrible of them.

Redbushteaforme · 07/12/2022 19:58

That's really bad and reflects very badly on them (not you). Hopefully you will have much nicer colleagues in your new job.

Lorrymum · 07/12/2022 19:58

That is really horrible of them. You now know you made the right decision in leaving.

Sparklesocks · 07/12/2022 19:59

Yeah that’s very poor on their part, I’d be upset too. You had been there years, not like you were a temp who breezed in for a week or two.

glovepillow22 · 07/12/2022 20:00

Yeah that's so odd, unless that's the normal for the company? Has anyone else left in your time with them?
Hope you are okay

Towcester · 07/12/2022 20:02

So what happened when you got up to put your coat on? Did they even say a word? 'Bye?

poefaced · 07/12/2022 20:05

Did they know it was your last day?

Katkinsgreyy · 07/12/2022 20:05

I once worked somewhere for 3 months. On my last day I got a card and chocolates!

mcmooberry · 07/12/2022 20:06

They sound a horrible bunch to do that. Hopefully your new bunch will be nicer! It's not a reflection on you, maybe everyone was leaving it up to someone else.
Not to wish you well though, that's cold.

notnowB · 07/12/2022 20:07

YANBU Flowers

cushioncovers · 07/12/2022 20:07

Sore this happened to you op. I had the same after 13 years of working on a hospital ward. My manager didn't even say goodbye as I walked out. I did get a card signed by the people who I worked with on the last day. It really knocked my confidence as I genuinely thought I got on well with most of the other staff and had such a laugh working with them over the years.

AngelontopoftheTree · 07/12/2022 20:07

I would be hurt too, I don't blame you OP. Onwards and upwards! Best of luck in your new job.

poefaced · 07/12/2022 20:08

Katkinsgreyy · 07/12/2022 20:05

I once worked somewhere for 3 months. On my last day I got a card and chocolates!

How is that helpful?

Cherryana · 07/12/2022 20:10

They are thoughtless and devoid of empathy.

It’s on a par with ‘well you got paid for your job - why do you need thanks too’ - completely shitty attitude that removes the fact that people bring their own creativity and energy to roles and not just anyone could do what you did, the way you did it.

SingingSands · 07/12/2022 20:11

I know how you feel OP - it's surely just common decency to wish someone well?

I left my role of 20 years and was treated the same. I came home and cried.

Loving my new job though - good luck to you too!

Yutes · 07/12/2022 20:12

YANBU.

mobear · 07/12/2022 20:13

YANBU, onwards and upwards! 💐

Idrinkandiknowthings1 · 07/12/2022 20:16

No I agree, awful behaviour! It’s really not a nice feeling. I had similar when I left to go on maternity for a year and I didn’t get a card (or even a cheerio!) it really mad me sad as I’d been there 5 years and confided in one about a miscarriage.

I hope you meet some lovely colleagues at your new job! Good luck x

19lottie82 · 07/12/2022 20:17

Yes, that’s shit. I worked in a small team that was part of a larger company. I was made redundant and no one even got me a card. I think I cried in my car when I left.

CherrySocks · 07/12/2022 20:17

Very strange and mean. What has happened when other people have left?
Do they have some strange custom where the onus is on the person leaving?

Lemonlady22 · 07/12/2022 20:17

I had the same when I left the private hospital I worked at for 14 years. Awful place, I would never have any procedure there, always short staffed, what staff they had they treated appallingly…glad to see the back of the management who couldn’t manage a piss up in a brewery. Wish I had walked years before I did!