to feel hurt? Last day of my job

[jaydeymoo22]

...before moving onto a new job, and I didn't even get a card from my work/team. Nothing. I'm not expecting a gift (I never would, especially in the current climate), but there was literally no acknowledgement that it was my last day. It was so weird. It just got to to the end of the working day and that was it. I'd worked there for 5 years.
AIBU to feel a bit upset?
Would you expect a card or something, or at least your manager to have some nice things to say/well wishes?
I feel hurt and like I've left with a sour taste in my mouth to be honest

@Goodgrief82 did you just admit to being a brown noser? 😂

I “admitted” to not bitching and endlessly moaning at work! 😂

How is this helpful? Stop bragging, it’s unpleasant.

So if that makes me a brown nose in your eyes… hell yes I am!

I didn’t mean to come across as bragging, apologies.

My point is…. That we all colleagues that are difficult, whine, gossip, bitch.

and I’m not saying the OP is one of them. But those that do have those traits in the workplace… don’t generally get much warmth from colleagues when they depart

I worked somewhere for 12 years (law firm) and didn't get a card or anything when I left. Obviously I felt bad but it said more about them than me. I partly left because we had a new team leader who had, over the course of 1.5 years, driven out the rest of the team. By the time I resigned there was only 1 of my old team member left (she was pregnant ) and a few new starters!

On my last day in my old job, my "leaving do" was the regular team Teams call that day, lasting 5 mins. No card, no gift. I had worked for my boss for 10 years. The previous week a secretary in our office had left after 2 years there and her boss had done the usual whip round and she left with a card and £250 voucher.

I was gutted but it confirmed my view of the reasons I'd decided to leave.

Exactly the same thing happened to me a few months ago. No card, no gift. I was usually the one in my office who organised birthdays and leaving collections so I think they just couldn't be bothered forgot. But no one came over to say goodbye or wish me well which upset me more. ☹️
We both deserve better. Congratulations on your new job, you will be brilliant at it!

I was gutted but it confirmed my view of the reasons I'd decided to leave

My goodbye from a place where I'd worked 4 years and done a bloody good job was a Teams meeting, a card and a present that I looked at and thought 'and what the hell was the thinking behind that??'

Like you, it confirmed that I was right to leave. The saying when people show you who they are believe them was never more accurate.

@Goodgrief82
Not much empathy though eh ? Still not registering eh ? We have all met folk like you .

That is really shitty of them OP, i can imagine you were hurt.

I left a job after 10 years and i got nothing as well, i had a horrible manager and i know she was behind it. I wasnt really fussed as i didnt like her or the job and was glad to leave.

Goodgrief sounds like the toxic colleagues I was very happy I'd left behind.

Were you remote? Could there be an E card on the way? When left a job during pandemic I just had a goodbye video call felt weird but was lovely to get an e-card with a few days later to my personal email.

This is so true - a lot of the time, you’re just another cog and people are too wrapped up in their own bubble.
I started seeing my current employer in a different light, when a remote colleague was in a serious accident. Her direct family members were killed. There was no official email explaining the situation, no collection or card. I feel terrible as I didn’t find out for weeks and was messaging her about doing work tasks.
I no longer stress myself out with work, they wouldn’t do the same for us.

I bet something comes in post when they realise. If it doesn’t it reflects badly on them.

That is awful

There always seems to be a clique in offices etc

Awful - did you have good working relationships whilst you were there? What have they done for others ?

YANBU. I know exactly how you feel. I've not left my job but am currently on maternity leave. I get on with everyone at work, have a laugh and have always felt that I was liked by my colleagues. Worked there for 5 years. Forever contributing money towards gifts and signing cards for colleagues who are unwelll, on leave, promoted etc...

On my last day before starting my leave, I just finished my shift as I would any other day. Nobody wished me luck or made any fuss. Had my baby... no card, nothing. Meanwhile I've spent my leave watching multiple posts on our work Facebook page for extravagant baby showers and collections for cards and gifts for others who have since gone on maternity leave, had birthdays, engagements etc.... I'm not one for a fuss and in fairness if anyone suggested doing a baby shower for me I'd have politely declined as its not really my thing but even a generic 'congrats' card signed by one person on behalf of the whole team would have been hugely appreciated. Its massively knocked my self confidence and I'm genuinely considering not returning to my job as a result.

I left a "team" last October after a year.
My boss's PA organised cards/presents and I contributed like everyone else.
She was fake and a passive aggressive troublemaker, and we tolerated each other.
No surprise then that no card was circulated for my departure!
I saw my boss on my last day and he said absolutely nothing to me.

Hope you like your new job, OP!

That is really nasty.

YANBU to feel upset.
I left a job after nearly 10 years. In that time, I had signed countless cards and given to loads of collections.
On my last day, I was given a bottle of Black Tower and a generic card that just the my supervisor had signed "from the other staff". It was like a huge punch in the gut.

My husband retired after 20 odd years,never got a card,good luck,kiss my arse or anything,he pretended he wasn’t bothered but he was deep down,and he would do anything for anyone.

Yes I thought the same, worked with a few colleagues like her previous roles. Funnily enough they also thought they were well-liked, but generally got gifts on special occasions because no-one wanted the drama/bitching/huff that would occur otherwise.

Yes it does seem like some are treated better than others even though you always contribute to collections

Don't get me started on the inequalities of secret Santa

I'm sure she was just giving an example of how decent people behave, not gloating.