To think something has happened to my mum?

[Pippa113]

My mum usually calls atleast once a day, usually more. Every Tuesday she comes here for her dinner and to see her grandchildren.

I spoke to her multiple times yesterday, the last thing she said was that she was going to see her sister today but was quite apprehensive about it because she is off her meds and has been behaving strangely (she has paranoid schizophrenia) and she doesn't like going round when she's like that.

Mum's phone has been off all day, this isn't like mum these days, she's always reachable and always calling. Her sisters phone is off too.

I have a sinking feeling that something has happened to her. I don't know what to do or if I'm being irrational / prejudice or ignorant.

Would I be contacted if something had happened? I can't go down there, 3 poorly DC here and no car.

Would you be worried?

So glad your mom is okay OP, I’ve been there before and panicked when I couldn’t get hold of my mom. It’s so out of character when everyone has a mobile nowadays. I hope your aunt is located safely soon and you can relax a bit tomorrow xx

@Pippa113 ignore the nasty ones on here. I really hope your aunt is found soon and starts to take her meds. 🙏

I am so glad your Mum is ok, but obviously it is worrying that your aunt is missing. I once had to call the police to check on my aunt, and they were lovely about it (she was fine).
I have a friend whose partner has schizophrenia and he does sometimes wander off when he stops taking his medication, which he often does if he feels well. Your aunt might be walking around somewhere? I hope she is home soon and can get help.

Again, like I asked the OP when she said it, who has been 'nasty?'

Really relieved your mum's ok.
I'm so sorry your poor aunt sounds like she's been through the mill.thst must be hard for all of you to see someone so in pain and or poorly with it. It's a horrific illness if the sufferer isn't on their meds.i can't imagine what her head is like.it must be agony for her.

Good idea to report missing straight away op.with someone in her category of vulnerable there should be no wait time needed for the authorities to start investigating.

Does she have anywhere she usually goes.a safe space.

Could you leave a note at her house in case she comes back.
Any friends you no of.
Is she known locally so shop keeper might have been her last seen?
Anyone on her street with ring doorbell to check her direction?
Id check general hospital admissions too.with how things are st the moment she could be on any ward.😢

Glad your mum's okay, OP. Hope your aunt turns up soon.

Glad your mum is ok! What a worry. Hope your aunty is ok too x

Did you miss where the OP said her Mum was apprehensive of visiting her sister when she was off her meds? Or where she said her Aunt had been sectioned many times?
FFS

Hope you find your aunt OP

I’m glad your mum is ok, OP. She’s lucky to have such a loving daughter looking out for her.I hope your aunt is safe too.

Glad your mum is ok and hope your aunt is too

This.

Also it was right to keep your sick children at home safely tucked up in bed. Absolutely no point in bungling them into a taxi on a winter's night. Contacting the authorities is the right call. Hope you got some sleep x

@Pippa113 I hope that you have had some rest.
Understandably you & your mum are worried about your aunt.
Hopefully she will soon be safe, sound & benefitting from her routine meds.

So glad your mum is ok. Hope you find your aunt soon and that she's ok.

So glad your mum is fine. Think you now need her neighbours’ numbers, in case something similar happens in future.

Have you heard from your aunt yet, OP? Glad your mum is ok!

Glad your mum is safe and hope your aunt is found safe soon. Understand your worries, I was always worried when my ex who suffered from paranoid delusions would be uncontactable while with our daughter.

I don't know? I haven't read the whole thread just took OP's word for it? Thought someone had been removed?

The few who think she's being U are odd.

The one that suggested the op get help for her anxiety wasn't exactly nice was it? It's not anxiety if you have something to worry about that is actually worrying.

The ones making op feel bad for suggesting her aunt might have hurt her mum weren't nice either. The op knows her family better than the rest of us.

My mil was a tiny middle aged to elderly woman during her illness. I won't go into details but she physically attacked family members and had grown men fleeing from her house. Some mentally ill people are a danger to others. Not most, but some.

I've managed to locate my aunt, to an extent. She is in hospital but I don't know which ward or the circumstances that lead up to her admission as the nurse I spoke to couldn't say too much as I'm not NOK.

She did say she's safe and in good hands and not to worry, such a relief.

Hope your Aunt is found safe soon

Oh cross posted, thats a relief for you!

This always seems to happen in the run up to Christmas so it's nothing new (my aunt going off her meds and being admitted that is) it never gets any less stressful though 🙁

Pippa113 · Today 09:30

I've managed to locate my aunt, to an extent. She is in hospital but I don't know which ward or the circumstances that lead up to her admission as the nurse I spoke to couldn't say too much as I'm not NOK.

It must be a terrific relief for you to know that she's in a place of safety. It's always very worrying when you have a relative with mental illness and they're not being rational.

My cousin vanished a few years ago (she's not schizophrenic, but had a breakdown and went into paranoid psychosis). She was driving round to different towns, buying and abandoning cars; none of us knew where she was for weeks, until she asked a lady in a shop for help.

The lady realised that something was badly wrong and called the Police, who called an ambulance.

Good to hear she's safe and being looked after.
No less stressful for you, take care of yourself and your mum 💐