OK I feel terrible about this but me and my colleague who I get on with quite well normally have both requested Xmas day off but our manager has said that only one of us can have it off and that we need to sort ot out.I have asked her to withdraw her request as her and her husband they have no kids normally go to her husbands parents on Xmas day but they also go everyweek so it's not like they never see them where as I on the other hand have a 4 year old Autistic son he normaly goes to nursery but his nursery closes 1 week before christmas and doesn't open until next year the shift in question is a 3 hour shift between 7 and 10 in the morning so she and her husband could still be at his parents for lunch time where as because I am a single mama and the nurseries are closed I have no one to watch my son yes I could pay someone but it would be extremely expensive and he would most likely be very distressed with having someone he is unfamiliar with in his home plus it would be difficult for said person as my son is non verbal.
I do feel bad asking her to do this but if she won't then I am going to have no choice but to leave my job.
AIBU?
To ask my colleague to withdraw christmas holiday request.
Jessiejuju · 05/12/2022 09:17
Scottishskifun · 05/12/2022 09:44
Speak to your colleague explain the situation and that you will work it next year.
I agree your manager is being rubbish in this! If you were my colleague I would agree in an instant
Vinvertebrate · 05/12/2022 09:45
I am guessing from the fact that you have not answered the question that your colleague requested first? If so then I think you have to suck it up. (I am also a parent to a child with ASC who was once also single and childless for more than a decade while other folk's holiday requests trumped mine!)
If she is feeling very kind she may toss a coin. But I think YABU to expect not to have to work in a job which clearly involves working the occasional weekend.
Where is your DC's other parent in all this?
DCwow · 05/12/2022 09:20
Oh yeah I forgot! If you don’t have children then Christmas and family means absolutely nothing to you!
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Jessiejuju · 05/12/2022 09:48
I have spoken to my colleague and offered to work her boxing day shift when my mum can watch my son but she is refusing to withdraw her request I have told my manager and he said that if we can't work it out he will expect me to come in as I have everyothef day off and if I don't it will be a disaplinary like I said in previous years his dad would look after him and my mum has bank holidays off so would have him then. The fact that it's Xmas is irrelevant in this house as my son isn't aware I'm not really sure what I'm going to do in future years, I have been looking for a part time job but not had much luck.
NewToWoo · 05/12/2022 09:25
Discuss this with your manager. Tell them it is unrealistic that you can find anyone to mind your SEN son on Christmas Day and that you won't be able to honour that shift.
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