OK I feel terrible about this but me and my colleague who I get on with quite well normally have both requested Xmas day off but our manager has said that only one of us can have it off and that we need to sort ot out.I have asked her to withdraw her request as her and her husband they have no kids normally go to her husbands parents on Xmas day but they also go everyweek so it's not like they never see them where as I on the other hand have a 4 year old Autistic son he normaly goes to nursery but his nursery closes 1 week before christmas and doesn't open until next year the shift in question is a 3 hour shift between 7 and 10 in the morning so she and her husband could still be at his parents for lunch time where as because I am a single mama and the nurseries are closed I have no one to watch my son yes I could pay someone but it would be extremely expensive and he would most likely be very distressed with having someone he is unfamiliar with in his home plus it would be difficult for said person as my son is non verbal.
I do feel bad asking her to do this but if she won't then I am going to have no choice but to leave my job.
AIBU?
To ask my colleague to withdraw christmas holiday request.
Jessiejuju · 05/12/2022 09:17
takeasadsongandmakeitbetter · 05/12/2022 09:23
I agree with other posters that having children doesn't give more of a right to enjoy Christmas etc but I think OP is actually saying that she needs the time to care for her son, it's almost irrelevant that the co worker had no children. Even if they both had children then OP doesn't have childcare.
monsteronahill · 05/12/2022 09:36
Who actually booked first though? Unless you put requests in on the exact same minute, one of you requested first.
It's managements issue - they shouldn't have left it this late to see a clash in the schedule.
5foot5 · 05/12/2022 09:38
You haven't answered what you normally do when you have to work on a Sunday, or one of the other BH. Nurseries don't usually work weekends and Bank Holidays.
Also what provision do you have for if he is unwell and can't go to nursery?
Frankly if you are struggling now for one shift at Christmas what will you ddo when he starts school? That's when the real childcare problems start.
Anyway another one saying it is unfair to always expect people without children to cover. Whoever asked first should get it. If neither of you will back down the manager will have to decide.
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