My mum keeps accidentally calling herself mum

[twinmum2022]

Right, I do have a weird history with my mum so don't know if I'm being over sensitive.

But... when she's talking to my babies she quite often accidentally refers to herself as "mum".

For example, "aah come and see mummy" when she picks them up or "ohh shall mummy do it" when they drop their dummy ect.

She does correct herself but it really annoys me. Throw in a bunch of comments about what she'd rather they wear and constantly taking the pram away and I'm getting a bit fed up...

Am I being sensitive, are these just normal grandparent things we all suck up?

I've done this occasionally
with my DGC. Not deliberate or creepy just years of being mum and trying to break in the new name of Nana. I would hate to think my DD thinks I'm weird because of a slip of the tongue.

AllforGloria, “grab” & “criticise” are not words used by the OP.

I actually don't think it's that weird to do it a couple of times, but annoying if she carries on!
I've been on a day out with a friend and her little boy (similar age to my DD) and said to him "let mummy help you" or similar! - by accident obviously, but referring to yourself as mum becomes a habit that's hard to break!

My mother in law will often do this too. I'd be surprised if I ever forgot that I wasn't somebody's mother 🙈

Wait until you're in that position. It's not that I forget that I'm not my DGD's mother. It's an entirely subconscious response that comes entirely by surprise when I'm caring for her, especially if I'm doing so in my own home, where I mothered her mother at that age.

Given that I'm caring for a small child who I love like I loved her mum, and using the language that one uses with a toddler, with the tone of voice that I did all those years ago, and in the same environment, it's hardly surprising that my brain pipes up with 'mummy' instead of Grandma.

And no, there's no risk that DGD will get confused, as a pp suggested. She doesn't seem to even notice, and I correct myself within a couple of seconds. And even the smallest of children knows perfectly well who her mummy is. It's farcical to suggest otherwise.

Bizarre.

I do understand those motherly feelings being aroused.

My mother calls my daughter " the daughter I never had".
My mother had two daughters- including me.
She has also said to me " I hope you realise how lucky you are having such a daughter- I wasn't that lucky".