Not to feel comfortable with DH putting cameras up all over the house?

[Iwantyourmidnights]

Please help settle a debate between DH and I.

We have a toddler DS who does lots of the usual adorable/funny/unexpected things, and DH keeps talking about installing cameras in every room in the house so that we can capture all of the funny candid moments. For example today he did something funny with our cat in our bedroom while I was getting dressed, I told DH about it and straight away he said 'this is why we should have cameras up!'.

I do kind of get where he's coming from, DS is his first child, he's an absolutely doting father and he loves taking and watching videos of him and watching him grow up. However, I've just started mat leave and before that worked from home full time. I said to him that I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing I was being filmed all day long when I'm at home alone. Especially in our bedroom where we sleep/get dressed/sometimes enjoy, ahem, private time!

DH thinks I'm the weird one and most people would be fine with being filmed 24/7 big brother style. I think he is terrible at empathy and seeing things from the perspective of others, and most people would feel uncomfortable as I do.

To avoid the inevitable LTB pile on, I just want to say I'm 100% certain there's no hidden abusive/nefarious reason why he wants to put cameras up.

So:

YABU - there's nothing wrong with living under 24/7 surveillance in your own home, stop being a weirdo.

YANBU - DH is the weirdo wanting to film every moment of every day on the off chance DS does something funny.

Good god.

Take a step back. Interior cameras in your house??

This is like "pet cams". Nobody well adjusted needs to film their family in a place where they should be able to relax and be themselves.

No chance.
The router would be permanently off while he's out of the house.

Absolutely NOT!!!

That is creepy AF and utterly weird!!

Apart from the fact that it would make me uncomfortable to do everyday things like change and pick my nose 😁your child is NOT entertainment!

Nobody should have to give up their privacy for someone else's need to edit& rewatch family life.

Just bloody WEIRD!!

Is he going to trawl through hours and hours of footage to find his funny moments? He must have better things to do.

Are you a former Duchess, with broader concerns than a plebian burglary, @Vitalsigning? 😂
Has your security budget been suddenly curtailed, hence your obsession with the decreasing price of surveillance equipment? Never mind, all that domestic footage can be monetised as Netflix content, that should help cover costs.

He’s fucking insane.

YANBU

I believe you when you say your DH has no evil intentions. Some people do get carried away with filming all the time. But it is not acceptable for either you or your child to be filmed constantly.

Really? Why?

the most I have heard of people I know having is something like a ring doorbell or occasionally a camera outside to catch intruders.

i cannot fathom why anyone would want or need cameras all over their house?

I set up a camera to catch my cat doing funny/sneaky things and even though dh and I were aware it was there it still ended up catching me topless and Dh bottomless. 😂
The problem was I’d given my sister access to view it whenever she wanted but thankfully she never saw those bits.

The camera’s in it’s box now.

Why would you need to find excuses though @Dontaskdontget?
What's wrong with telling these people you will never enter their house again while they are so rudely obsessed with intrusive filming?

childs bedroom fine, but nowhere else. awful.

We have dogs and because if this we have cameras both inside and outside the house. We agreed that we'd have no cameras upstairs, the cameras downstairs aren't recording, we just use them to check up on the dogs if we ever leave them. I do find them Intrusive sometimes, but because they aren't being recorded and they aren't upstairs I can see the benefits. Yanbu op

Thats an awful suggestion, I’d hate that. definitely - not normal.

No, come on. You would leave quickly. It's basic lack of respect.

I know of absolutely no one with these cameras in their house. I would assume that anyone who did have them to have an emphasis on control.

Same - never come across any one with cameras inside the house - apart from pet cam if they go out

Absolutely not fine in my book

My Dh put up security camera in the living room and kitchen. I told him i didn't like the kitchen one as im always in there and would feel watched all the time. He agreed it's not nice and we took it down.

No of course it's not okay to place them in a child's bed room.

Anyones bedroom!

This!

Then you are breaking the law @Vitalsigning

You cannot make assumptions like that, Your visitors need to be specifically informed about each of your cameras.

My god if I was filmed in the bathroom or a bedroom I would report you to the bloody police as a voyeur. Pervy and controlling

As mentioned before this isn’t uncommon among my friends, general acquaintances and even wider in terms of work colleagues etc.

Do you work in a prison?

Your DH is weird OP.

We don't have any security systems, internal or external, and I don't know anyone who does. It isn't a money thing. We could afford to if we didn't consider internal 'security' cameras to be batshit crazily intrusive. I can see the logic of an external system but it isn't top priority.

God no. We all do things in the privacy of our own home that we would not want filming.