To think this was a bit cheeky of friend

[Jacketpotato65]

I met up with a friend for lunch, she's got a baby girl who's a few months old who is so lovely. The baby was mainly sleeping in her pram whilst we ate but started getting a bit restless so my friend took her out. I was eating my sandwich and then at some point my friend literally just gave me her baby without asking and said, 'Here you go, you can hold her now." Whilst I was still eating.
I love holding her and I would be more than happy to take her whilst my friend also ate, it's just that she didn't even ask and just literally thrust her into my arms.

It doesn’t sound that bad to be honest, no.

If you went out for lunch once a week and she did this every time when the food came, then yes it would be though.

I had food in my hand too, it's just that she didn't even say 'could you hold her for a bit?'

Still, I'd ask my friend first. I wouldn't just thrust my baby suddenly into their hands and say 'youre holding her now' when they were in the middle of eating something

Yes she’s a CF and you should never speak to her again.

What an outrage.

Not cheeky, not unexpected from a friend with a baby. What did you do? Back away in horror? You can hold a baby and still eat a sandwich.

Talk about oversensitive.

So what, she passed you her baby without asking. I mean, really? That worked you up enough to post on a forum about it?

Odd as.

Part of going out with a friend who has a small baby is helping them with the baby. I don’t think it’s that cheeky, no.

YANBU. Of course it's a bit rude and cheeky. She could have at least asked. I would never have expected a friend to stop eating to hold my baby. If they offered I might have gratefully accepted but wouldn't just chuck the baby at them no.

It’s the type of thing family do, so she was a bit over familiar.

She should have asked, or suggested that you take it in turns to eat and hold baby.

She probably thinks you are more easy going than you actually are

Yeah exactly. Just ask first, not just chuck her at me

What a liberty! Did you tell her to beg your pardon? Did you end the lunch with a curt 'Regards'?

I don't know if my friendship could get past that to be honest, I think you should think carefully about whether you are prepared to accept being treated like that.

And no need for sarcy posts, I didn't say I'd 'never'speak to her again. I'm just asking for an opinion on this

To be brutally honest, you sound over sensitive. This is such a non issue.

Fair enough, I just didn't know it was a done thing.

She's not a going to hurt you. She's a baby. You probably should have offered so your friend could eat.

I would of said "sally im still eating, I'll hold your baby but give me a second." Problem solved.

My friend was eating whilst she was in the pram initially. If she hadn't managed to eat of course id have offered

It’s the “done thing” to help a friend with a baby.

FFS first world problems or what.

Yeah of course it is, but don't you ask for the help or do you just tell them they'll be helping and not give a choice?

It's just a sign of a relaxed friendship, not cheeky fuckery.

OP, I've had a think and maybe your friend was put out that youd carried on eating instead of seeing if she would like to eat, while you held the baby.

We may yet see a thread on here tonight started by your friend: "went out to eat with mate who continued munching on her toastie instead of asking if I'd like a break to eat while she held my baby. AIBU?"

Oh ffs get a grip! Are you that incapable of holding a sandwich and a baby at the same time? I’m glad you’re not my friend.

She sees you as family I should imagine total non issue
i think you should get a restraining order though 😂