To think this was a bit cheeky of friend

[Jacketpotato65]

I met up with a friend for lunch, she's got a baby girl who's a few months old who is so lovely. The baby was mainly sleeping in her pram whilst we ate but started getting a bit restless so my friend took her out. I was eating my sandwich and then at some point my friend literally just gave me her baby without asking and said, 'Here you go, you can hold her now." Whilst I was still eating.
I love holding her and I would be more than happy to take her whilst my friend also ate, it's just that she didn't even ask and just literally thrust her into my arms.

The first thing I do when I meet my friend for a bite to eat or whatever is take her baby so she can drink her tea in peace. With us both having toddlers and her a baby too it's probably not very often she gets to her food or drink hot. I just do it because I'm a friend.

Maybe your friend thinks you're more of a friend than you are. I'm certain she doesn't realise you're as highly strung as this.

Can't believe what a big deal you're making of it.

Get a grip. If you're this over-sensitive don't see your friend, or any others in case they offend you. Whilst you're at it, don't even consider having your own children, because you don't get to eat a sandwich in peace for quite some time.

When I first read this I think I also would have felt a bit annoyed her just plonking her baby on me but from your friends perspective I wonder if she was feeling a bit irritated that you just carried on eating whilst watching her struggle to eat holding her restless baby?

Wow.

You could have said no 😂

I agree she's a bit cheeky and shouldn't have stopped you eating, but then when you're a new mum, it's often really hard to get the chance to eat a meal without being interrupted.

I would have offered. Poor woman probably dies t get to eat anything in peace and quiet without bolting it down.

You sound like a bit of a Nobhead tbh. The last time I bumped into a friend who had a baby it was at a Xmas fair. Our families decided to join groups and I held her baby for the entire 4 and a half hours we were together. You couldn’t have prised her out of my arms. I managed to eat a frankfurter and have a few drinks whilst holding the baby and watching our other kids on the rides. The only time she was out of my arms was when my little girl wanted a go of giving her her bottle. I don’t expect everyone to be as bath obsessed as me, but actually complaining on the internet about having to hold a friends baby in a cafe for a few minutes manors you sound like a dick tbh

Yes and can guarantee if that was to happen the majority of posters would be piling on the OP calling them a cheeky fucker for expecting their friend to hold the baby while the friend was also eating. They would be told it's their baby and their problem and how cheeky it is to just expect your friend to hold your baby because on Mumsnet people just like to make the OP out to be in the wrong.

I agreed with you it was cheeky of your friend. I wouldn't be bothered if a friend done this to me I would probably have offered to hold the baby anyway to give her a break but there's no way I would have done this when mine were babies. She should have asked or waited until you were finished.

OP wrote that the baby was in a pram before becoming fussy. Her friend wasn't sitting there struggling with the baby, and she had had just as much chance to eat as OP had.

I probably wouldn't say it was CF territory, but it is a bit rude to just thrust a baby at someone who is eating, without at least asking first.

I do this thing where I say "not now" if I don't want to do something at that moment.
Also, I hate to be that person, genuinely, but you had... a sandwich? I know I'm being a cliché here but if I (and many parents) can eat a full meal with a baby (sometimes feeding), you could manage a sandwich - those are easy since there's no cutlery involved!

She’s a monster. You should have thrown the baby back at her, picked up her leftover sandwich and fled. Thoughts and prayers.

Oh my god no! Hold the damn baby and give her a break!

you sound a bit precious tbh

Lol, you're probably right to be honest.

I think it was just a misunderstanding OP.

Just multi task and eat with the baby in your arms. 😂

Hmm, I've never held a baby in my life, so I'd have to decline if asked - no objection in principle but I don't know how to support one correctly.

YABU for not already offering to take the baby and helping a friend out who probably doesn't get a minute to herself.

Yep I reckon OP's friend will be posting soon.

"My child free friend gave me judgy looks in a cafe because I was trying to finish my lunch, so I asked my friend to hold baby to stop her kicking off, the friend was eating a sandwich which is a 1 handed food, AIBU?"

I really don’t like holding other peoples babies. People who pass babies without asking if you want to hold them are my nightmare.

Should have just handed the baby back

I would find her behaviour odd/rude, but sleep/food deprivation makes us do odd things sometimes! Hopefully she wonts make a habit of it.

God I've heard it all now. No wonder so many people don't have real friends anymore if this is the type of thing that gets their knickers in a twist! I mean i wouldn't even think about it, if it bothered you that much why didn't you just say give me a minute while I eat first. Totally and utterly bonkers... you have WAY too much times on your hands.

YANBU..She should have asked first and not assumed.

yep this! I'd have held the baby and carried on eating my sandwich 🤣