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To think this was a bit cheeky of friend

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Jacketpotato65 · 02/12/2022 17:10

I met up with a friend for lunch, she's got a baby girl who's a few months old who is so lovely. The baby was mainly sleeping in her pram whilst we ate but started getting a bit restless so my friend took her out. I was eating my sandwich and then at some point my friend literally just gave me her baby without asking and said, 'Here you go, you can hold her now." Whilst I was still eating.
I love holding her and I would be more than happy to take her whilst my friend also ate, it's just that she didn't even ask and just literally thrust her into my arms.

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stuntbubbles · 02/12/2022 20:07

A baby in one hand and a sandwich in the other sounds delightful tbh. I’d pay to go to a baby cafe like that. So long as the parents are laidback and allow smears of egg mayo on the baby’s head.

abw94 · 02/12/2022 20:11

i would have picked the baby up and let your friend eat, she probably doesn't get chance to eat a full meal now without distractions, whereas you do.

Mamaneedsadrink · 02/12/2022 20:16

A bit cheeky, and yes should've asked. But she probably hasn't slept for months and isn't even thinking properly, I'd be glad she even managed to meet you for lunch

Mamaneedsadrink · 02/12/2022 20:18

Riapia · 02/12/2022 19:10

You should have placed the baby under the table and finished your lunch.

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cansu · 02/12/2022 20:20

FgS she is a friend. Just hold baby for a bit and if she starts fretting hand her back. It isn't that difficult surely.

Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:25

50 shades of ridiculousness.

glovepillow22 · 02/12/2022 20:26

Some of these replies are awful.

I am not a baby person, not even my closest friends babies I am fussed over holding or cooing over (don't get me wrong I'm not rude about it and would try help them out if baby was fussy and they werent getting a chance to eat at all but my friends know me well enough to know being thrust a baby into my arms would make me uncomfortable, especially when im enjoying my own lunch. Selfish? Yup. But thats why i dont have kids!)

So this would 100% annoy me. 😂

Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:30

glovepillow22 · 02/12/2022 20:26

Some of these replies are awful.

I am not a baby person, not even my closest friends babies I am fussed over holding or cooing over (don't get me wrong I'm not rude about it and would try help them out if baby was fussy and they werent getting a chance to eat at all but my friends know me well enough to know being thrust a baby into my arms would make me uncomfortable, especially when im enjoying my own lunch. Selfish? Yup. But thats why i dont have kids!)

So this would 100% annoy me. 😂

I love holding her and I would be more than happy to take her

Looks like OP LOVES holding her.

glovepillow22 · 02/12/2022 20:33

Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:30

I love holding her and I would be more than happy to take her

Looks like OP LOVES holding her.

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Thats all fine - but ask especially when someone else is eating lunch 😂 OP isn't in the wrong to expect common courtesy here...

ChillysWaterBottle · 02/12/2022 20:36

I wouldn't even think twice if this happened. Literally wouldn't give it another thought.

Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:37

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Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:39

glovepillow22 · 02/12/2022 20:26

Some of these replies are awful.

I am not a baby person, not even my closest friends babies I am fussed over holding or cooing over (don't get me wrong I'm not rude about it and would try help them out if baby was fussy and they werent getting a chance to eat at all but my friends know me well enough to know being thrust a baby into my arms would make me uncomfortable, especially when im enjoying my own lunch. Selfish? Yup. But thats why i dont have kids!)

So this would 100% annoy me. 😂

BUT knowing how you feel about babies, I would never hand my child to you. I would know not to but OP has already says she LOVES holding the baby but needs to be formally asked. FFS.

glovepillow22 · 02/12/2022 20:43

Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:39

BUT knowing how you feel about babies, I would never hand my child to you. I would know not to but OP has already says she LOVES holding the baby but needs to be formally asked. FFS.

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I get what your saying.

I still stand by a simple "you alright to hold her for a bit" really is just polite especially when someone is eating 😂 In my (childless) opinion anyway.

Miajk · 02/12/2022 20:55

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Jesus rub two braincells together.

She could have easily said "do you mind holding her" I stead of "you hold her now"?

It would shave taken the same amount of time and effort to say.

Some of you on this thread are either incapable of critical thinking, or think being a mother somehow entitles you to everything. Get a grip.

giggly · 02/12/2022 20:57

FFS heard it all now🙄

angelikacpickles · 02/12/2022 20:58

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 02/12/2022 18:06

Hmm, I've never held a baby in my life, so I'd have to decline if asked - no objection in principle but I don't know how to support one correctly.

Do you imagine babies come with some sort of instruction manual on how to hold them?

Theydoyaknow · 02/12/2022 20:59

Miajk · 02/12/2022 20:55

Jesus rub two braincells together.

She could have easily said "do you mind holding her" I stead of "you hold her now"?

It would shave taken the same amount of time and effort to say.

Some of you on this thread are either incapable of critical thinking, or think being a mother somehow entitles you to everything. Get a grip.

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Get a grip yourself, do you remember what it is like being a new mother?? The OP is her friend not some random stranger.

FestiveFruitloop · 02/12/2022 21:48

Newsflash: not everyone likes holding babies.

And also: do people really think it incumbent on friends of new mums to offer to help them with their baby? And that doesn't strike anyone as being even a wee bit entitled? Blimey.

MilkyYay · 02/12/2022 21:54

My close friends and i would do this. Im always happy when someone trusts me with their baby. I love their little rosy cheeks, love a nice baby cuddle

ForgottenNurseryRhymes · 02/12/2022 22:02

She's just more comfortable with you than you are with her. No biggie. But it definitely shows as any friend would offer to hold the baby so mum could have a break. You've eaten every meal in peace whereas she probably hasn't had a hot coffee for a month.
You probably won't have to worry about this issue for much longer.

Create10 · 02/12/2022 22:05

I'm with you, OP. It's the mindset amongst some parents that anyone is lucky to hold their child.

Conkersareback · 02/12/2022 22:08

Jacketpotato65 · 02/12/2022 17:17

Yeah exactly. Just ask first, not just chuck her at me

She chucked her baby at you? Over arm or under arm? Did you catch the baby?

momtoboys · 02/12/2022 22:09

I think it depends upon how close of friends you are. With my closest three friends I wouldn't think twice nor would they on my shoving the baby as them so I could eat. A less close friend I would certainly ask.

Ivyblu · 02/12/2022 22:10

Why didn't you offer? She's your friend? I'd be horrified if my friend wrote this about me..
Imagine if she asked you to babysit Christ!

Loopyloooooo · 02/12/2022 22:10

Aw I'd be chuffed my friend was trusting me to support her with her baby and wouldn't bat an eyelid.

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