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Were couple in M&S queue cunty fuckers?

284 replies

DeeofDenmark · 02/12/2022 15:12

Really busy in M&S today, I just had a couple of items to buy. I glanced down the queues and picked the one that looked quickest. There was a big shop on the belt but only one person queuing with one item in her hand.
Just as there was room for her to put her item on the belt her partner turned up with a trolley. I’m not exaggerating to say this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it.
So Aibu to think it is not ok to hold a place in a queue like this?

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Flapjackquack · 02/12/2022 17:34

The ones that don’t mind are obviously ones that do this! It’s the equivalent of reserving a tables at a cafe before you‘ve queued and paid. I always let people with one or two bits go ahead of me if I’m still unloading too.

Riverlee · 02/12/2022 17:35

Def cheeky. Okay to add one or two items - forgotten loaf of bread for example, but not whole trolley load.

JudgeJ · 02/12/2022 17:35

NatalieIsFreezing · 02/12/2022 17:20

Queue etiquette is: your partner is allowed to get anything they can hold in their hands while you're unloading the trolley or basket. Any additional basket or trolley brought to the unloader's place in the queue should not be allowed - they need to get their own queue spot.

<Bangs gavel>

Can I add that you're not allowed to be a pita by going to get what you've forgotten, expecting time to stand still and, if you're the idiot who does it, don't return giving the waiting customers a smiling 'apology'. Either get organised or queue again!

itsjustnotok · 02/12/2022 17:36

Personally think it’s CF. It kind of comes across as selfish. Get in the queue together when you actually know what you’re buying. You don’t get one to wait in the queue and then bring a trolley afterwards because you think your time is more valuable than anyone else’s. If you’re not ready to pay, then you’re not done.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 02/12/2022 17:36

PurBal · 02/12/2022 16:29

No one is ever in so much of a rush that they can’t let the person with 6 items instead of 60 go first.

But some people are arses like this and don’t let you go first!

This is why I almost always use self service or scan shopping but also I get home deliveries.

People have got ruder since covid and lockdowns, if it’s not in supermarkets it’s driving… I could go on!

Feef83 · 02/12/2022 17:37

Horrible OTT way to describe them

Onefootinthegroove · 02/12/2022 17:37

CF's of the highest order.
My parents owned a shop for 10 years , some of the Cheeky/ Cunty Fucker examples I saw just beggars belief.

poefaced · 02/12/2022 17:39

Onefootinthegroove · 02/12/2022 17:37

CF's of the highest order.
My parents owned a shop for 10 years , some of the Cheeky/ Cunty Fucker examples I saw just beggars belief.

Tell us!

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 02/12/2022 17:39

itsjustnotok · 02/12/2022 17:36

Personally think it’s CF. It kind of comes across as selfish. Get in the queue together when you actually know what you’re buying. You don’t get one to wait in the queue and then bring a trolley afterwards because you think your time is more valuable than anyone else’s. If you’re not ready to pay, then you’re not done.

But in their mind it’s “my wife/husband is holding the queue for me with some items therefore we can both bring 2 huge trolleys but sneak in one sideways”. Technically this is rude and CF territory if you’re behind them with a few items and happy to wait for one full trolley to be scanned not two… one nipping in like it’s cutting you up!

MysteryBelle · 02/12/2022 17:41

They should have let you go in front of them. Very rude.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 02/12/2022 17:44

Luncheonmeatsandwich · 02/12/2022 17:14

That's on a par with the couples that split up and wait in 2 queues.

I'm was trying to become more relaxed about such matters.... until I came across the slowest check out person ever to grave the planet in Tesco. He not only asked me whether I was ready for Xmas, but also if I had been anywhere nice on holiday this year! It was like the Rowan Atkinson scene from Love Actually.

When my DM used to ask me to help her with shopping after a knee replacement (this was after she’d recovered but didn’t trust online shopping) I kindly helped her once a month if I had time as Stepdad hated shopping and we lived fairly nearby. She tried to get me to the one stays in one queue and other in another queue. It was ok a couple of times but I got such death stares (and I had my own trolley of food for my flat) that I refused to do it after that and stepdad helped out more. So did the supermarket, pacing and helping bring it to het car.

NatalieIsFreezing · 02/12/2022 17:45

Another rule of queue etiquette that absolutely should be put into national law: when a new checkout opens, the people who have been queuing the longest get first dibs. These are the people towards the front of the queue, NOT the ones who've joined!!

Fair enough if they prefer to stay put but they should get the choice!

MysteryBelle · 02/12/2022 17:47

Coincidentally I just had the opposite experience this morning. I was using a gift card to pay for my groceries at the self checkout and the little monster said 67 cents left (USA). I kept thinking it meant 67 cents left on my gift card, and stood there wondering why my receipt didn’t come out of the machine.

The attendant came other and explained it was 67 cents that I still owed (which I didn’t have) and without even asking me to pay, she already had money, she said from the extra change customers leave behind and so they have it in a drawer, paid it for me. I felt like an idiot and it was just a piddly bit of change, but she was so nice. I went out to the car and found part of the difference and went back and gave it to her and I’ll give rest on my next trip.

MysteryBelle · 02/12/2022 17:47

monitor not monster 😀

Onefootinthegroove · 02/12/2022 17:54

@poefaced
A Christmas one .......
Xmas eve, have been open since 5:30 am, signs up for weeks saying Xmas Eve closing was 4:30 pm.
Mum, Dad brother and 13 Year old me in the shop. Closed, cashed up , started to do our own shopping ( y'know, for our own Christmas Day) . Someone starts absolutely HAMMERING on the security blinds, shouting that they NEEDED to get in it was an EMERGENCY, they needed baby milk. Scared the shit out of me tbh. Against his better judgement dad opened the door a crack, this CF shoves him out of the way and picks up a basket. Dad - " We are closed. What baby milk do you need "
CF " I only said that so you would open the door - I want cigarettes and a browse round "
Brother was about 18 and a rugby player so calmly removed the basket from his hands and bodily threw him out.
Starts hammering again, we had ruined Christmas, he was going to put our windows in, he knew where we lived ect. Police ended up attending.

So, that was a peaceful start to Xmas that year ...

JennyJenny8675309 · 02/12/2022 17:55

123woop · 02/12/2022 15:32

I do a big shop (and I mean, BIG!) when I go as I hate having to nip back for things during the week.
I always always let people with less go in front of me even if they've got a basket full of items. It really pisses me off when people don't!

This! I do this all the time. It seems like common courtesy.

Dguu6u · 02/12/2022 17:58

Just speak up for yourself! These people just do what they want, because others just let them get away with it.

DillDanding · 02/12/2022 17:59

Yes, very naughty. But I quite enjoy gazing off into the middle distance when queuing/judging others’ shopping/clothing, so I’d not have been bothered.

JudgeJ · 02/12/2022 18:00

NatalieIsFreezing · 02/12/2022 17:45

Another rule of queue etiquette that absolutely should be put into national law: when a new checkout opens, the people who have been queuing the longest get first dibs. These are the people towards the front of the queue, NOT the ones who've joined!!

Fair enough if they prefer to stay put but they should get the choice!

Hanging back hoping a new till opens is an art form though, assessing which it will be, deciding how long it will take for a check out opertor to appear once the announcement's made!

BaileySharp · 02/12/2022 18:01

That sounds really annoying! I wouldn't really expect them to let me go first but I qouod be quietly seething to myself

JudgeJ · 02/12/2022 18:05

Onefootinthegroove · 02/12/2022 17:54

@poefaced
A Christmas one .......
Xmas eve, have been open since 5:30 am, signs up for weeks saying Xmas Eve closing was 4:30 pm.
Mum, Dad brother and 13 Year old me in the shop. Closed, cashed up , started to do our own shopping ( y'know, for our own Christmas Day) . Someone starts absolutely HAMMERING on the security blinds, shouting that they NEEDED to get in it was an EMERGENCY, they needed baby milk. Scared the shit out of me tbh. Against his better judgement dad opened the door a crack, this CF shoves him out of the way and picks up a basket. Dad - " We are closed. What baby milk do you need "
CF " I only said that so you would open the door - I want cigarettes and a browse round "
Brother was about 18 and a rugby player so calmly removed the basket from his hands and bodily threw him out.
Starts hammering again, we had ruined Christmas, he was going to put our windows in, he knew where we lived ect. Police ended up attending.

So, that was a peaceful start to Xmas that year ...

Good for you brother! I'll trot out my Asda story again as it's almost Christmas. We went in to scout for markdowns on Christmas eve, 10 minutes to closing, a woman in the vegetable section screeching at a poor, knackered-looking assistant Why do you have no fresh sprouts, don't you know it's Christmas? The amused spectators looked ready to burst into song.

woodhill · 02/12/2022 18:06

I think she should have let you go in front

I don't agree with queue bagging like this and they weren't ready to be in the queue

Very selfish of them

Twinsforthewin · 02/12/2022 18:08

SirenSays · 02/12/2022 16:03

Nice smile and a "I've only got these few bits, would you mind if I went in front?" Has always worked for me. Just looking shocked wasn't going to do anything.

This, I don't see why you didn't do this??

LlynTegid · 02/12/2022 18:14

Unreasonable.

Mind you, I think that shopping should be one person only unless you are helping someone who is disabled or cannot drive.

limitedperiodonly · 02/12/2022 18:15

No it's not. You should only save places for someone with a couple of forgotten things. To avoid people like that or people with big shops which are of course acceptable I go to the self-service checkouts.

However, I sometimes encounter dreary fuckers who tut passive aggressively over my use of a trolley and sometimes challenge me in a loud and sarcastic way and look around as if expecting a round of applause.

I always have 10 items or fewer but they are often too heavy or bulky to get in a basket and I have delicate wrists. I always use the self-scanner and always use the small trolleys which you can push over the bit that basket bearers use to rest their grocery receptacles on. If you do that rather than leaving it side-on everyone else can easily get past.

A new member of staff recently marvelled that I was really clever for doing that. I said I couldn't take the credit - one of his colleagues showed me how to do it. He said he would teach people that trick in future. I pass it on here for anyone who doesn't already know.

I'm in and out much quicker than someone who has to scan all their basket items, pays cash or lectures me on my use of a trolley like a man unwisely did on Sunday. I explained all that and asked him if he was trolley monitor. I forget what he said, if anything.

PS - scanning and paying cash is fine as is asking for help when the screen freezes or having to be age-verified when buying a bottle of wine. It's just bossy gits who get on my tits when I go shopping.