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Were couple in M&S queue cunty fuckers?

284 replies

DeeofDenmark · 02/12/2022 15:12

Really busy in M&S today, I just had a couple of items to buy. I glanced down the queues and picked the one that looked quickest. There was a big shop on the belt but only one person queuing with one item in her hand.
Just as there was room for her to put her item on the belt her partner turned up with a trolley. I’m not exaggerating to say this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it.
So Aibu to think it is not ok to hold a place in a queue like this?

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Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 18:37

I'm totally baffled by this thread. I cannot see the issue in the slightest. Maybe the husband forgot dog food and ran to pick it up whilst wife waited in the queue, you know because why on earth would they lose their place in the queue to go get one item?

Strange thread. Stranger responses. If this actually bothers people to the point they throw tantrums and the like, I can't fathom how they cope with day to day life.

ZiriForEver · 02/12/2022 18:38

I understand that it is unpleasant surprise, but I don't see anything wrong, or CF.

The queue is per person/shopping. The lady used her spot thoroughly, more than you expected, but she just paid for her shopping. If her card wasn't working, there were some other discrepanc, it would take longer as well.
If an express cashier is available, you can use that one, otherwise... Just bad luck.

MzHz · 02/12/2022 18:43

Why didn’t you use the automated tills @DeeofDenmark?

fancyacuppatea · 02/12/2022 18:43

I was in our local Sainsburys yesterday.
2 checkouts were open...one seemed to be having issues - and later closed, transferring some poor sods shopping to a different till.
When I counted 10 customers with trollies waiting (some of them fairly elderly) I stomped off to Customer Service and asked them to open more checkouts...then told my fellow shoppers what I'd done on the way back to my trolley.
It still took another 5 mins for another checkout to open.
Next time I will demand to see the manager.
They're bloody awful at the mo - see also Morrisons, Tesco, Asda...

kateandme · 02/12/2022 18:45

What would you say if the checkout lady said to the person with one or two items behind you to “come though first” if you had more?

KatherineofGaunt · 02/12/2022 19:14

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 18:37

I'm totally baffled by this thread. I cannot see the issue in the slightest. Maybe the husband forgot dog food and ran to pick it up whilst wife waited in the queue, you know because why on earth would they lose their place in the queue to go get one item?

Strange thread. Stranger responses. If this actually bothers people to the point they throw tantrums and the like, I can't fathom how they cope with day to day life.

You've misunderstood. The woman queueing had one item. When it was her turn to put it on the conveyor, her husband turned up with a loaded trolley.

Bubbles222 · 02/12/2022 19:15

Luncheonmeatsandwich · 02/12/2022 17:14

That's on a par with the couples that split up and wait in 2 queues.

I'm was trying to become more relaxed about such matters.... until I came across the slowest check out person ever to grave the planet in Tesco. He not only asked me whether I was ready for Xmas, but also if I had been anywhere nice on holiday this year! It was like the Rowan Atkinson scene from Love Actually.

😂😂😂 poor man probably thought he was doing a great job

Notanotherwindow · 02/12/2022 19:19

If it was my till, I'd send them to the back and refuse them service until they did.

XenoBitch · 02/12/2022 19:26

I thought M&S would be too upmarket for this CF behaviour Grin

I have experienced it once in a Lidl. Person in front of me had one item, and I had a basket full. I put my stuff on the belt, and then suddenly someone with a massive trolley load pushes in, stands with the person with one item, and physically starts shoving my items down the belt to make room for theirs.
Sadly, I lack a backbone so said nothing at all.

Thank fuck my local Lidl now has self-service checkouts.

woodhill · 02/12/2022 19:43

ZiriForEver · 02/12/2022 18:38

I understand that it is unpleasant surprise, but I don't see anything wrong, or CF.

The queue is per person/shopping. The lady used her spot thoroughly, more than you expected, but she just paid for her shopping. If her card wasn't working, there were some other discrepanc, it would take longer as well.
If an express cashier is available, you can use that one, otherwise... Just bad luck.

I disagree

She wasn't ready with her trolly and numerous items and her dh pushed in front of OP.

Just rude imo

lollipoprainbow · 02/12/2022 19:45

Was it Phil and holly ??

ancientgran · 02/12/2022 19:48

Snowball20 · 02/12/2022 17:27

I would politely ask if I could go ahead of them.

I wouldn't have let him go in front of me. Maybe we have narrow checkouts but where I am if he'd wanted to get past me with a trolley I'd have had to move my trolley ot of the way and I wouldn't.

Blossomtoes · 02/12/2022 19:54

ancientgran · 02/12/2022 19:48

I wouldn't have let him go in front of me. Maybe we have narrow checkouts but where I am if he'd wanted to get past me with a trolley I'd have had to move my trolley ot of the way and I wouldn't.

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Same. Or he’d have had to ask me to move. I’d refuse.

woodhill · 02/12/2022 19:56

So would I

It's like cheating as far as I'm concerned and stuff that happens as kids

Remember I'm saving that place for x at school. Same mentality

ancientgran · 02/12/2022 19:57

PurBal · 02/12/2022 16:29

No one is ever in so much of a rush that they can’t let the person with 6 items instead of 60 go first.

Sometimes they even let you go in front with a full trolley. I was in a queue when heavily pregnant, it was my last day at work and lots of people had been in chatting to me and I was late getting away and was tired. I was due any day with a 10lb baby and looked very much like a ship in full sail.

The two women in front of me looked me up and down, looked at my full trolley and told me to go in front of their trolley, one then unloaded my trolled and one packed my shopping. I was so touched and thanked them profusely. They said not to worry, they'd just finished a shift on the delivery ward and they'd decided it would be good to move me on quickly as they really didn't want to do another delivery that day. It did give me a laugh.

HotChoxs · 02/12/2022 20:00

Blossomtoes · 02/12/2022 19:54

Same. Or he’d have had to ask me to move. I’d refuse.

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In all probability you'd have both stood there and cursed to yourselves.

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 20:01

KatherineofGaunt · 02/12/2022 19:14

You've misunderstood. The woman queueing had one item. When it was her turn to put it on the conveyor, her husband turned up with a loaded trolley.

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I've understood perfectly well, thanks. That is why I used an item such as dog food, which can be purchased in bulk and may need a trolley to be moved around due to their size.

I can't believe there are people who think this way walking among us regular humans 😂. Your blood pressures must be through the roof every time you leave the house

Blossomtoes · 02/12/2022 20:27

HotChoxs · 02/12/2022 20:00

In all probability you'd have both stood there and cursed to yourselves.

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You’ve obviously never met me!

tothelefttotheleft · 02/12/2022 21:07

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 18:37

I'm totally baffled by this thread. I cannot see the issue in the slightest. Maybe the husband forgot dog food and ran to pick it up whilst wife waited in the queue, you know because why on earth would they lose their place in the queue to go get one item?

Strange thread. Stranger responses. If this actually bothers people to the point they throw tantrums and the like, I can't fathom how they cope with day to day life.

Wouldn't make sense to take the trolley with him if that was the case would it?

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 21:10

tothelefttotheleft · 02/12/2022 21:07

Wouldn't make sense to take the trolley with him if that was the case would it?

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Do you struggle with piecing thoughts together yourself? Dog food is an example of something that can be large, heavy and depending on someone's general health, difficult to carry from one side of the shop to another.

Isn't it obvious something like that happened? What else could it possibly be? The wife was standing in the queue for the last half hour whilst he did his whole shop? That wouldn't make sense would it.

Blossomtoes · 02/12/2022 21:15

M&S doesn’t sell dog food in bulk - or anything else for that matter.

ancientgran · 02/12/2022 21:30

HotChoxs · 02/12/2022 20:00

In all probability you'd have both stood there and cursed to yourselves.

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I've already posted about when someone tried to do it to me. I just laughed at them but they definitely didn't get past me. So it is a fact I wouldn't let someone push past me like that.

ancientgran · 02/12/2022 21:33

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 21:10

Do you struggle with piecing thoughts together yourself? Dog food is an example of something that can be large, heavy and depending on someone's general health, difficult to carry from one side of the shop to another.

Isn't it obvious something like that happened? What else could it possibly be? The wife was standing in the queue for the last half hour whilst he did his whole shop? That wouldn't make sense would it.

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Well when they tried it with me the woman was standing with one item, the man tried to push past me and join her with a full trolley, not full of one huge item but with probably 30 or 40 items piled up. Why they were doing this is beyond me but that's what they did, well tried to do.

itsnotmeitsu · 02/12/2022 21:49

'Couples who do the supermarket shop together are irritating enough, but yeah, that's ridiculously rude.'

I don't get this about couples shouldn't be shopping together. There was a lot of stuff about this during covid-19 restrictions. If you're in the supermarket at the same time, shopping around and putting your groceries in the same trolley, and then going through the till together, what difference does it make it make, as opposed to one of the couple doing the same shopping but taking longer? And if you've got a trolley-full two people pack quicker than one.

Liquorish · 02/12/2022 21:51

Why would someone take a full trolley with them for something they forgot? If that was the case the trolley could be left with the person at the till while the other person runs and quickly grabs what they’re missing. I see people doing this all the time. You don’t stand at the till with no trolley.