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Were couple in M&S queue cunty fuckers?

284 replies

DeeofDenmark · 02/12/2022 15:12

Really busy in M&S today, I just had a couple of items to buy. I glanced down the queues and picked the one that looked quickest. There was a big shop on the belt but only one person queuing with one item in her hand.
Just as there was room for her to put her item on the belt her partner turned up with a trolley. I’m not exaggerating to say this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it.
So Aibu to think it is not ok to hold a place in a queue like this?

OP posts:
MajorCarolDanvers · 02/12/2022 16:54

Total CF

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 02/12/2022 16:56

@Blossomtoes when I worked in Marks back in thr last century there was a glorious standoff when someone took tin foil out of someone else's trolly cos there was none left.
We were agog, with security called, and witnesses brought into play. Not sure maybe even the Store Manager might have deigned to pop by for a look.
Different times indeed.

Simplelivingisharderthanitlooks · 02/12/2022 16:58

Blossomtoes · 02/12/2022 15:46

Cheeky fuckery at its finest.

Just to restore faith in human nature, a woman in Tesco’s today with a huge trolley packed to the brim waved the woman behind her with a couple of items ahead. It was a lovely thing to see.

Where I live that happens a lot - It was a lovely surprise when I moved here!

Justleaveitblankthen · 02/12/2022 16:58

I would have pasted on my Sunday Best smile & asked if I could pop in front as I didn't know they would have so much stuff?
If they refused, I would nick some items of their shopping when they weren't looking and dump them by the till.

Done this before and it's worth it for the cheeky thrill, especially if it's the weekend bottle of Vino 😁

HotChoxs · 02/12/2022 17:00

The last time I challenged someone for queue jumping they had originally been in the queue and come back. Funnily enough they seemed to appreciate being challenged over it.

It may have been the case that they were queueing together originally and he had gone off because he had forgotten something, but we'll never know

If it wasn't for people stabbing each other I'd challenge a lot more people about their behaviour

knittingaddict · 02/12/2022 17:04

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 02/12/2022 15:16

See? Told you. 😉

Inevitable. 😁

I would have asked to go in front of them and there would have been words if they had refused.

Shunkleisshiny · 02/12/2022 17:04

The Co op in our village is the only place that sells newspapers now, so of course we have massive queues in the morning with all the retired men buying just a paper. I was just about to go to the checkout when I noticed a man behind me had just a newspaper. I had a basket with a few things in, but I told him to go ahead of me.
After paying for his paper, he then produced a handful of lottery tickets to be checked🙄 I did say in a loud voice 'Oh for God's sake', and when he looked at me I gave him my death glare. I no longer let any man with a newspaper go ahead of me now!!!!

KatherineJaneway · 02/12/2022 17:05

YANBU

ArabellaScott · 02/12/2022 17:12

DeeofDenmark · 02/12/2022 15:38

I didn’t challenge them but didn’t hide my surprise and looked pointedly back and forth between my shopping and the fully laden trolley. The guy just gave me the biggest cheesy grin in return.The queue for the self service was winding round the store and as I had alcohol I knew I would need a real person to authorise it. I think I just don’t do much shopping in person anymore and it was the cherry on the cake after fighting round the shop in amongst crowds of people.

Cheesy Fucker.

HashtagShitShop · 02/12/2022 17:12

fyn · 02/12/2022 16:15

Don’t bother waiting for the self check out, you can scan it all on the sparks app and then just pay on your phone and leave, no queuing necessary.

That's what I do too. Limit is sadly still 45 pounds though so end up doing a couple of shops on occasion when I go in there (our food hall is tiny without a nearby carpark or taxi rank so never a huge shop there)

ArabellaScott · 02/12/2022 17:13

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 02/12/2022 16:56

@Blossomtoes when I worked in Marks back in thr last century there was a glorious standoff when someone took tin foil out of someone else's trolly cos there was none left.
We were agog, with security called, and witnesses brought into play. Not sure maybe even the Store Manager might have deigned to pop by for a look.
Different times indeed.

I remember fondly the Great Literal Bun Fight on Xmas eve one year in the Co op, when there was one loaf of bread left and two people with an end each ...

Luncheonmeatsandwich · 02/12/2022 17:14

That's on a par with the couples that split up and wait in 2 queues.

I'm was trying to become more relaxed about such matters.... until I came across the slowest check out person ever to grave the planet in Tesco. He not only asked me whether I was ready for Xmas, but also if I had been anywhere nice on holiday this year! It was like the Rowan Atkinson scene from Love Actually.

SinnerBoy · 02/12/2022 17:17

I would have done what I usually do and said, "Is it OK if I go in front? I've only got the one thing." I've only ever been refused once, I said nothing but several women started to slag them off, calling them miserable sods and tutting.

If I've got a load of stuff and someone behind just a couple of things, I always offer them the place in front.

Rosebel · 02/12/2022 17:17

Blanketpolicy · 02/12/2022 15:39

I would have said something if they still insisted on queue jumping I would have stayed calmed but been awkward and asked the staff or their manager to sort it out.

These CFers only keep up this behaviour because noone challenges them.

You would ask the staff or managers to sort it out? How would they they sort it out? Stop putting the other shopping through? Find the law that says you can't join your partner in a queue?
They absolutely were CFs and I'd be pissed off but I'm not sure how the staff would have sorted it out.
If you ask to go first and they say no, then they'll also say no when the manager asks

InSummertime · 02/12/2022 17:19

I would have been tempted to say - Is this lady with you in that case she needs to join the queue in your position in it rather then what you are trying to do - you were behind me

InSummertime · 02/12/2022 17:20

Or could you not have just blocked his trolley? By standing in the way or loading your items directly after hers

NatalieIsFreezing · 02/12/2022 17:20

Queue etiquette is: your partner is allowed to get anything they can hold in their hands while you're unloading the trolley or basket. Any additional basket or trolley brought to the unloader's place in the queue should not be allowed - they need to get their own queue spot.

<Bangs gavel>

poefaced · 02/12/2022 17:22

NatalieIsFreezing · 02/12/2022 17:20

Queue etiquette is: your partner is allowed to get anything they can hold in their hands while you're unloading the trolley or basket. Any additional basket or trolley brought to the unloader's place in the queue should not be allowed - they need to get their own queue spot.

<Bangs gavel>

Yes! Bang away!

MiniatureSchnauzerEyeBrows · 02/12/2022 17:24

Cunt behaviour but the couple should of let you go first as you had fewer items and they had ALOT. Also who the fuck can afford to do a full shop at M&S? I believe you OP but some people have more money than sense

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 02/12/2022 17:26

MiniatureSchnauzerEyeBrows · 02/12/2022 17:24

Cunt behaviour but the couple should of let you go first as you had fewer items and they had ALOT. Also who the fuck can afford to do a full shop at M&S? I believe you OP but some people have more money than sense

Everyone spends their money as they see fit. Plenty of people can afford to do a full shop at M&S.

Snowball20 · 02/12/2022 17:27

I would politely ask if I could go ahead of them.

dutysuite · 02/12/2022 17:28

This happened to my 15 year old son the other day, he only had a few items too - would have been decent to have let him go ahead therefore yes I think the couple we definitely cunty!

JudgeJ · 02/12/2022 17:29

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 02/12/2022 15:15

I think this is professional level Cunty Fuckery but I bet others will think it’s nothing 🤷‍♀️

Happened to me once, a woman with a basket then expected me queuing behind her to let 'my sister' to join her with a trolley load, I used my body to stop her and they were both apoplectic. OP should have stopped the trolley pushing in front of her, they get away with it because no-one stops them.
In a busy Aldi recently as I approached the checkouts the tannoy announced another till opening so I went there, another shopper from a different queue shouted at me because she should go first, When she'd stopped I gently asked if she felt better!

GeraltsGirl · 02/12/2022 17:32

I doubt the woman with the one item was purposely trying to throw people off and trick them into thinking she didn't have much? What would she benefit from that? They probably just weren't thinking

LoveMyPiano · 02/12/2022 17:32

This reminds me of earlier this year when I was just going through the tills in Aldi, and as I looked back saw a man with a basket of shopping give way for a woman, as she said (what I thought was), "I'm going to be sick...."
The expression on his face when she banged down an overloaded basket in front of him was one of combined annoyance and regret.
When I asked if she was OK if she was feeling sick, she screamed at me, and said, "I said I'll be Queeeeeek!! Queeeeek! Not seeeeeek!" (That was the screeching, not an accent - apart from Yorkshire.)
Which resulted in totally inappropriate and laughable war of words, as the poor guy shank even further away from the two shouty women in front of him.

Aldi though, is usually good for the staff enforcing the Aldi etiquette I find - not that I have been in that particular store since that day.