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Were couple in M&S queue cunty fuckers?

284 replies

DeeofDenmark · 02/12/2022 15:12

Really busy in M&S today, I just had a couple of items to buy. I glanced down the queues and picked the one that looked quickest. There was a big shop on the belt but only one person queuing with one item in her hand.
Just as there was room for her to put her item on the belt her partner turned up with a trolley. I’m not exaggerating to say this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it.
So Aibu to think it is not ok to hold a place in a queue like this?

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woodhill · 03/12/2022 21:57

We'll have to disagree 😀

She shouldn't be in the queue if her items and trolley aren't with her as far as I am concerned

Do you think people should stand in car park spaces so someone can come along later with the car

It's a bit like the sunbed scenario abroad

ALongHardWinter · 03/12/2022 22:16

Sonyrecording I also thought it meant 'cunty fucker'! Grin

Partyprofessional · 03/12/2022 22:26

woodhill · Today 21:57
I had an appointment at the hospital for my daughters teeth. Drove round the car park around 4 times to get a space. Saw a car leaving a space and thought yes!!! As I was just about to park a girl appeared from no where standing in the space. I asked her to move. She replied it was her friends space. Turned to my right and a bmw was waiting behind me to go into my space lol. God knows how she was going to get in as I was in front. I told her to move! Eventually she walked away from the space taking photos of my car lol lol bloody cheek!

woodhill · 03/12/2022 22:37

Good on you

I can't stand this type of behaviour

Snugglemonkey · 04/12/2022 06:16

poefaced · 02/12/2022 15:47

That’s just as shitty though, to throw a tantrum. Some poor staff member has to put it all away.

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That is why it is a good idea though. When I had more time pre children, if I arrived at the tills and all the queues were ridiculously long, I always just left. If everyone did this, shops would be upping the staff levels. They don't want to be messing about putting things back, especially not if baskets have frozen or chilled food. It is so annoying when there are 30 checkouts, with 3 open and 3 massive queues.

Queenofheart · 04/12/2022 07:14

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 02/12/2022 15:16

See? Told you. 😉

😂😂😂😂

Fizbosshoes · 04/12/2022 08:03

I joined a queue for watching one of my DC in a school play once. I was very pleased to find only 4 people ahead and then my friend joined behind me and we discussed that this would be the first time we would have front row seats. About 10 seconds before the doors opened, dad, nan, grandad, friend, uncle Tom cobley etc each joined the 4 people ahead and my friend was demoted to second row (I got the last front row seat)

Flossatops · 04/12/2022 08:24

Yes, definitely CF 😡

Autumndays123 · 04/12/2022 08:30

Lallaw · 03/12/2022 11:34

You might benefit from some sort of self-awareness course? Or critical thinking book? Maybe just spend some time thinking about how other people are different from you? I do think it must be hard for you to walk through life being so easily confused. Mumsnet is for everyone and it is a good opportunity for you to think about things outside your world, but there are many ways to widen your experience. Good luck!

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Luckily I surround myself with people who aren't so highly strung so it's not often I come across you special breed of professional complainers

Autumndays123 · 04/12/2022 08:32

KatherineofGaunt · 03/12/2022 05:00

Except the OP didn't say he arrived with a trolley with one heavy item in it. She said "this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it", suggesting a full shop and one that would take a long time to unload, scan and pack.

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I didn't say his trolley only contained one item? I didn't say anything like that, I said maybe he took the trolley to grab something large like dog food that they'd forgotten. This site gets worse every day.

Autumndays123 · 04/12/2022 08:38

eastegg · 03/12/2022 18:47

If he’d forgotten one item and ran to pick it up he wouldn’t take the trolley with him, so you’re wrong there. Full trolley would stay at till, while person runs to get the one item. And I can 100% guarantee that if it had happened that way round the OP wouldn’t be on here complaining about it.

Clearly he was finishing the shop while she saved a place. And that had the effect of luring the OP to the wrong queue.

You’re baffled because you haven’t read it and understood it properly.

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You actually have zero evidence to support your statements. Nowhere does the OP say the husband was finishing the shop because she couldn't have possibly known. If the OP (who was there) wouldn't know, I can't for the life of me think why you would.

How you've decided I haven't read the thread properly because I'm coming up with possible circumstances is beyond me. Maybe take some time looking up the meaning of the words you've used in your post, it might help prevent future similar issues.

CrystalBollocks · 04/12/2022 09:03

belles001 · 03/12/2022 18:40

Honestly? If you're gracious, it will be repaid. It's called Karma.

There's no such thing as karma. Be gracious because it's better than being ungracious, and it makes you feel better, too. But don't do it because of some idea that karma is a real thing. Karma is superstitious mumbo-jumbo.

offyoufuckcuntychops · 04/12/2022 09:06

@Olsi1009
Then told her she could have fCking waited for me to be nearly finished when she looked at me shell shocked*

So you're rude enough to use 'fucking' to a woman in M&S but can't bring yourself to type it on MN? Hmm

SLS500 · 04/12/2022 09:20

If I have a big trolley filled I always let people with a couple of items past me while I’m still unloading. I would feel really mean to make them wait. This happens more in Lidl than any other supermarket, but I think it’s because they don’t have a one basket isle or self service.

for the people saying it’s no big deal - the incident in itself isn’t necessarily, but it shows a complete disregard for others over their own entitlement. I hope they don’t have children

SnowyNoey · 04/12/2022 09:44

its that time of year, people turn into animals. I worked at a supermarket for a while and watching the pattern of behaviour of people and how easily influenced they were, literally made me want buy an island with one house on it 😂 (especially during covid, what were people thinking?!!)
no one’s entitled to go ahead if they have one or two items and no ones entitled enough to hold a space and bring a big massive trolly from nowhere….…
…. Comes down to common courtesy.

Deep breath, let it go. (Probably will happen again 😂)

Olsi1009 · 04/12/2022 10:17

offyoufuckcuntychops · 04/12/2022 09:06

@Olsi1009
Then told her she could have fCking waited for me to be nearly finished when she looked at me shell shocked*

So you're rude enough to use 'fucking' to a woman in M&S but can't bring yourself to type it on MN? Hmm

Of course - she deserved the full version. 😉

HoarHouse · 04/12/2022 10:30

I agree, it's not a problem if they spoke to you and told you that they had a large trolley full of shopping, or let you go ahead of them. Communication can change these situations immensely.

HotChoxs · 04/12/2022 11:08

Lallaw · 03/12/2022 11:34

You might benefit from some sort of self-awareness course? Or critical thinking book? Maybe just spend some time thinking about how other people are different from you? I do think it must be hard for you to walk through life being so easily confused. Mumsnet is for everyone and it is a good opportunity for you to think about things outside your world, but there are many ways to widen your experience. Good luck!

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Maybe you should take your own advice

Mandyjack · 04/12/2022 13:11

They've not done anything wrong but as you didn't have much would be nice to say would you like to go in front

tillytoodles1 · 04/12/2022 13:42

ThatGirlInACountrySong · 02/12/2022 15:21

Would that get you anywhere?

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Yes it would. I've done it before and put my shopping on the belt and refused to allow the person with the trolley to go in front if me.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/12/2022 14:29

SkankingWombat · 02/12/2022 22:37

Because there is always one half of the couple standing around, getting in the way, oblivious to all around him them, and not helping or adding anything positive to the outing.

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You've met DP, I see.

He's there purely as a beast of burden, rather than for decorative purposes. If he weren't, I wouldn't be able to get the shopping done all at once (especially for things that are on the bottom or top shelves, heavy or bulky) and if he went alone, he'd be back again every day for the rest of the week because he can't get his head around the notion of getting things to last for more than 2 meals at a time.

I try to mitigate this with online deliveries, but they aren't always available.

I let people who aren't dicks go in front of me - but demanding to go through first? Nah.

eastegg · 04/12/2022 14:43

Autumndays123 · 04/12/2022 08:38

You actually have zero evidence to support your statements. Nowhere does the OP say the husband was finishing the shop because she couldn't have possibly known. If the OP (who was there) wouldn't know, I can't for the life of me think why you would.

How you've decided I haven't read the thread properly because I'm coming up with possible circumstances is beyond me. Maybe take some time looking up the meaning of the words you've used in your post, it might help prevent future similar issues.

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Of course he was finishing the shop. There’s nothing else he could have been doing. Your point was he could have been popping back for one item. My evidence for saying he wasn’t doing that is that he had a very full trolley with him. Wife was clearly saving a place for a person who wasn’t quite ready to come to the till when she did. The evidence is right there. You can defend that as somehow an acceptable practice if you want, but it’s clear that’s what was happening.

Autumndays123 · 04/12/2022 14:53

eastegg · 04/12/2022 14:43

Of course he was finishing the shop. There’s nothing else he could have been doing. Your point was he could have been popping back for one item. My evidence for saying he wasn’t doing that is that he had a very full trolley with him. Wife was clearly saving a place for a person who wasn’t quite ready to come to the till when she did. The evidence is right there. You can defend that as somehow an acceptable practice if you want, but it’s clear that’s what was happening.

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Gosh how narrow minded some people can be.

You

Autumndays123 · 04/12/2022 14:57

eastegg · 04/12/2022 14:43

Of course he was finishing the shop. There’s nothing else he could have been doing. Your point was he could have been popping back for one item. My evidence for saying he wasn’t doing that is that he had a very full trolley with him. Wife was clearly saving a place for a person who wasn’t quite ready to come to the till when she did. The evidence is right there. You can defend that as somehow an acceptable practice if you want, but it’s clear that’s what was happening.

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...you have no actual evidence because you weren't there. You don't know the couple and you don't know what happened leading up to the event. As a pp has said on this thread, they sometimes do something similar because they have disabilities and can't walk for long. The husband could have a disability and needed to run to get a bulky item which is easier to transport via trolley. The point is we do not know. As we do not know, I haven't made any statements claiming my opinion is an absolutely factual account of what happened, because that would quite frankly be ridiculous.

It always annoys me on mn when insults like 'read the thread' etc etc are thrown around by people who quite clearly have below average literacy abilities. It's like the new troll hunting and it's embarrassing.

Stewball01 · 04/12/2022 15:49

@Fancylike
I'd have put my stuff on the counter and left. I know it's cutting off your nose but if it had been me I'd have exploded.