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Were couple in M&S queue cunty fuckers?

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DeeofDenmark · 02/12/2022 15:12

Really busy in M&S today, I just had a couple of items to buy. I glanced down the queues and picked the one that looked quickest. There was a big shop on the belt but only one person queuing with one item in her hand.
Just as there was room for her to put her item on the belt her partner turned up with a trolley. I’m not exaggerating to say this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it.
So Aibu to think it is not ok to hold a place in a queue like this?

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SofiaSoFar · 02/12/2022 21:56

There was a big shop on the belt...

How did they lift it on there?!

woodhill · 02/12/2022 21:58

Liquorish · 02/12/2022 21:51

Why would someone take a full trolley with them for something they forgot? If that was the case the trolley could be left with the person at the till while the other person runs and quickly grabs what they’re missing. I see people doing this all the time. You don’t stand at the till with no trolley.

Yes

One or 2 items, not a whole trolley

SkankingWombat · 02/12/2022 22:37

itsnotmeitsu · 02/12/2022 21:49

'Couples who do the supermarket shop together are irritating enough, but yeah, that's ridiculously rude.'

I don't get this about couples shouldn't be shopping together. There was a lot of stuff about this during covid-19 restrictions. If you're in the supermarket at the same time, shopping around and putting your groceries in the same trolley, and then going through the till together, what difference does it make it make, as opposed to one of the couple doing the same shopping but taking longer? And if you've got a trolley-full two people pack quicker than one.

Because there is always one half of the couple standing around, getting in the way, oblivious to all around him them, and not helping or adding anything positive to the outing.

ZiriForEver · 02/12/2022 22:44

woodhill · 02/12/2022 19:43

I disagree

She wasn't ready with her trolly and numerous items and her dh pushed in front of OP.

Just rude imo

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She was ready at the moment she got to the conveyor, that is all that matters.
She wasn't postponing payment to wait for him, she just did the dull queueing part alone and they reunited just in time to get to the business.

There is no moral obligation for two shoppers to wait all the queue together and loose their time twice, they still just paid for just one shopping.

I don't understand the hate this thread has for two people shopping together. We do it quite often, we can divide and shop in parallel, and we have two pairs of hands to take the shopping home.

Guessing which line will move faster is just guessing, no guarantees. If the supermarket wanted, they could have created an express path for those with less then 10 items or so, if they don't, they don't care/don't have the capacity on a busy day

LikeTearsInRain · 02/12/2022 23:01

SkankingWombat · 02/12/2022 22:37

Because there is always one half of the couple standing around, getting in the way, oblivious to all around him them, and not helping or adding anything positive to the outing.

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Even worse when they drag all 3 kids along for the weekly family day out to Tesco. Blocking the aisles and bickering and running about. Couldn’t one of the parents stay at home with them?

SirB0bby · 02/12/2022 23:43

This happened to me once in Tesco. I was almost at the till and a bloke dived in in front of me with no shopping whatsoever and started beckoning over his wife who was at the other end of the shop. I said "excuse me please, can I just put my shopping on the belt". He said "my wife is just coming ". I said, well she's not here and I am" and started to put my shopping out. He proceeded to glare at me and then moved to the next till slagging me off to his wife when she arrived! Cheeky bastard! Since when do you save a place in a till queue!

KatherineofGaunt · 03/12/2022 05:00

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 20:01

I've understood perfectly well, thanks. That is why I used an item such as dog food, which can be purchased in bulk and may need a trolley to be moved around due to their size.

I can't believe there are people who think this way walking among us regular humans 😂. Your blood pressures must be through the roof every time you leave the house

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Except the OP didn't say he arrived with a trolley with one heavy item in it. She said "this trolley was loaded as high as it was possible to load it", suggesting a full shop and one that would take a long time to unload, scan and pack.

crimsonpeak · 03/12/2022 05:18

Yes. It’s basic courtesy to let the person behind you in the queue go in front of you if they only have a few items.

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/12/2022 05:34

Next time, “In that case, I’ll go in front of you. You can’t queue with one item then expect to push in front of me with a whole trolley.” Or prevented him from pushing in front of you.

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/12/2022 05:39

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 18:37

I'm totally baffled by this thread. I cannot see the issue in the slightest. Maybe the husband forgot dog food and ran to pick it up whilst wife waited in the queue, you know because why on earth would they lose their place in the queue to go get one item?

Strange thread. Stranger responses. If this actually bothers people to the point they throw tantrums and the like, I can't fathom how they cope with day to day life.

Then the wife should have queued with the trolley. This is M&S, not pets at home. No one was buying dog food in bulk.

miltonj · 03/12/2022 06:06

Shunkleisshiny · 02/12/2022 17:04

The Co op in our village is the only place that sells newspapers now, so of course we have massive queues in the morning with all the retired men buying just a paper. I was just about to go to the checkout when I noticed a man behind me had just a newspaper. I had a basket with a few things in, but I told him to go ahead of me.
After paying for his paper, he then produced a handful of lottery tickets to be checked🙄 I did say in a loud voice 'Oh for God's sake', and when he looked at me I gave him my death glare. I no longer let any man with a newspaper go ahead of me now!!!!

But I think that was quite rude of you? You let him go first and then got pissed off with him. Just seems unpleasant.

DarkNecessities · 03/12/2022 06:17

Irritating but no big deal

DH and I shop together, our adult DCs come too sometimes. Just for nice stuff and to pick up lunch so not a big shop as we get that delivered. Can’t see the problem with it

lljkk · 03/12/2022 06:55

Just ask if you can jump ahead with your 2 items.

I must live in a nice town because no one would deny that request & many would spontaneously offer it. Brits & their inability to be politely assertive, irk.

ButterCrackers · 03/12/2022 07:53

miltonj · 03/12/2022 06:06

But I think that was quite rude of you? You let him go first and then got pissed off with him. Just seems unpleasant.

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He should have said he had the tickets instead of taking advantage of your offering your place . That was impolite of him. Some people are cf.

connie26 · 03/12/2022 08:05

Yes, definitely CF but I would've said 'ooh, do you mind if I jump in front of you please?'

BessieSurtees · 03/12/2022 08:26

I absolutely would have said to him sorry you are behind me. Your wife can go through with her one item or join you but seriously he wouldn’t have got the trolley past me. I am too old to put up with this type of cheeky fuckery now.

BewareTheBeardedDragon · 03/12/2022 08:34

PurBal · 02/12/2022 16:29

No one is ever in so much of a rush that they can’t let the person with 6 items instead of 60 go first.

You cannot assume this.

I have been on the receiving end of shitty comments in Aldi (which has been refurbished and has self checkouts which rarely have any queue). It was the only day that I could shop, we had run out of many essential foods, my suspected ASD ds had had a meltdown at drop off and made me hugely late to get the shopping done and my elder disabled ds was due home from school and would have had a meltdown if I was not there to meet him when his transport dropped him off. I literally couldn't let anyone in because I was cutting it so fine.

I frequently have let people with small amounts ahead of me, when I can I do.

In OPs case they were utter cheeky fuckers though. Saving a space in the line for a full trolley to rock up is not on.

limitedperiodonly · 03/12/2022 10:52

I live in a posh area and it's always men who do this on Saturday mornings when they've got the kids while their wife is doing other things like fucking the gardener.

Once a man in red corduroys said: "Scatter children!" like it was an upmarket Hunger Games. There always at least three floppy-haired children who have inherited sharp-elbowed genes and honed them at public school.

One moppet said: "Look Daddy! They have Merlot!" This is now a saying between me and my husband when we spot posh gits. These days we just look at each other and mouth the word Merlot.

Red-Trousered Men are always rather surprised to be given a firm no at the checkout by a common woman who objects to this practice. I think it gives them a sexual thrill.

Pieministers · 03/12/2022 11:08

SirenSays · 02/12/2022 16:03

Nice smile and a "I've only got these few bits, would you mind if I went in front?" Has always worked for me. Just looking shocked wasn't going to do anything.

I tried that once - I wanted a book of stamps, nothing else. Guy in front had a full trolley. I asked nicely if he would let me get my stamps and he rudely told me no and I had to queue like everyone else. Even the cashier looked embarrassed.

Obviously, it was his prerogative to refuse but there was no need to be a cunt about it.

Feef83 · 03/12/2022 11:18

I remember the time I let someone go ahead of me with 2 items and I had a full trolley. They hadn’t got their wallet out, then they had to scan their loyalty card, then they paid by cash so cashier had to count out change. Had I know they didn’t have wallet ready, and would faff with handing over a large note that needed lots of change… I would have said no. But when they asked… that was an unknown.

I got back to my car and there was a traffic warden writing a ticket for me. Had I not let the person in front ahead of me, I would have made it back on time.

cost me £50

MrsSkylerWhite · 03/12/2022 11:20

I’d tell him to get behind me. One of the benefits of getting older, don’t give a monkey’s what people think.

YWU not to say anything.

Lallaw · 03/12/2022 11:34

Autumndays123 · 02/12/2022 18:37

I'm totally baffled by this thread. I cannot see the issue in the slightest. Maybe the husband forgot dog food and ran to pick it up whilst wife waited in the queue, you know because why on earth would they lose their place in the queue to go get one item?

Strange thread. Stranger responses. If this actually bothers people to the point they throw tantrums and the like, I can't fathom how they cope with day to day life.

You might benefit from some sort of self-awareness course? Or critical thinking book? Maybe just spend some time thinking about how other people are different from you? I do think it must be hard for you to walk through life being so easily confused. Mumsnet is for everyone and it is a good opportunity for you to think about things outside your world, but there are many ways to widen your experience. Good luck!

woodhill · 03/12/2022 12:25

@ZiriForEver

She wasn't ready

Her dh was still shopping and pushed in front of the OP with a full trolley

It was queue bagging and I don't agree with it

Get in the queue when you have finished, a couple of times is understandable

Shunkleisshiny · 03/12/2022 17:25

ButterCrackers · 03/12/2022 07:53

He should have said he had the tickets instead of taking advantage of your offering your place . That was impolite of him. Some people are cf.

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Thank you for that ButterCrackers as for miltonj, there is always one isn't there?😒

Iwanttobeagranny · 03/12/2022 17:54

You should have used M&S scan and shop and then you don’t need to go through the till point…I use it all the time unless you’re doing a big shop or buying alcohol x