To be proud of my son for standing up to his bully?

[Spreeofthemoment]

My DS is in y6. One boy in particular has been making his(and a few others) life hell he’s it wanted to go to school because of him. Well today, he snapped and floored this boy after he came and pushed DS over(he’s always pushing him!). This boys nose was bleeding. I got a call off the head and told him I won’t be punishing my son and that I’m proud of him for standing up for himself and showing this boy he won’t be bullied anymore, as clearly the school weren’t doing anything to protect my son!

It was self defence. I’d be bloody proud of him. I bet the bully will think twice now.

As I say, classy.

Disagreeing with someone is not gaslighting them. These words are bandied about on here far too frequently, and mostly by people who haven't got a clue what they mean.

In my experience of children, there is rarely just one side to a story.

Good for him. I did similar to my bully as a child and it all stopped after that. If you can't take it then don't dish it out.

I feel as if I've wandered into a parallel universe.

Violence isn't the answer. Bollocks. Sometimes unfortunately it is. Good for him 👏

I'd be proud too. My son is year 4 and has been bullied by the same boy since year 1. School do nothing about it. If my son stood up to him in this way I'd also be proud. Seeing your child crying every day and every Sunday evening because he's dreading going back to school is heartbreaking.

Me too. Sometimes a thread is far off what you expect

Well done to your son OP.

To all of you saying that it’s wrong- it’s called self-defense.

As for „two wrongs don’t make a right” the bully learns that actions have consequences and physical attack might be responded the same way. Nice? Not? Well,don’t do it again. Simple.

Some really obtuse comments on this thread. The OP’s ds isn’t a violent person. He’s been taking this shit for a while now and OP should be ashamed of him for defending himself?

It’s not about picking fights. Nothing to do with Eastenders drama or a real life mag. Stop trivialising a child’s painful experience. He reached the end of his tether with this bully and floored him to stop him from pushing him. He didn’t beat the crap out of him. Calm the fuck down with your faux outrage at OP’s ds “violence”.

I’m sure if an adult was pushed and pushed they would have their limits. But kids at school are expected to put up with it and remain calm always.

Good for your son OP.

It baffles me, the number of people who seem to think that standing up for oneself is wrong.

These are kids. These are kids who are bullies. They don’t speak the language of reason and compassion. Sometimes the only way is to use their language. And more often than not, the penny finally drops.

Lol. Those horrible little estate kids, eh?

What does floored mean here?

if your son pushed him back, that’s fine imo

if he battered him then could be OTT

I was taught to "be confident and stand up for myself", so one day I did. It didn't end well for me as I got punched by my bully. Sometimes a smack is the only language a bully understands.

Of the bully?
Yes so would I if he was my dc.

I assume floored means chucking someone on the floor. Grabbing hold of them and pulling them over. Don’t they do that in martial arts? Op didn’t say anything about punching the bully.

Self defence is a defence in law.

I would be sad my child had been driven to have to do that and would be questioning my choice of school that had let it get that far.

That said my fiery (very middle class) friend got a lad up against the wall in a grocers shop
and told him to stop bullying her son or else. Her little blond adorable year 7 was getting persistently bullied by this older lad. Not to be recommended but it bloody worked he never went near my friends son again.

The bullying is the dreadful behaviour here. Standing up for yourself is the right thing to do. I always taught my kids to fight back. Good for him!

Violent self defence is very much the answer in some situations. Those making tasteless remarks about the class of individuals involved are naive or ignorant. I went to private school and bullying was rife, as was fighting.

Well done to your son OP, it takes a lot of courage to stand up against bullies.

Yet another generation of boys learning violence. Fucking wonderful.

@MolesOnPoles so you'd be happy with the bully continuing to push your kid over all the time, but not for your child to push back??

odd, very odd.

@Spreeofthemoment when two of my god daughters were young (about 9&11 I think) one boy from the senior school got on the same bus & kept picking on the youngest, calling her babes & generally being a little twat. He was 2 years older & physically a lot bigger than the oldest GD. After a while of him picking on the little one the eldest told him to pack it in. He told her 'make me', so she did - landed him on his arse,

little git deserved it!

He stopped. Job done.

I'm proud of your son 😊

Good on him! As a parent of a child who was bullied, and self harmed because of it.....and is still feeling the effects of it years later.....maybe if she'd floored a couple of them back in school then she wouldn't feel so shit about herself now....

I know right? The bully sounds like a right nasty piece of work. I wonder what man he will grow up to be. Scary.

Well done to your son, unfortunately sometimes it's the only way.
If someone physically assaults someone then they should never be surprised if that person defends themselves in whichever they see fit and I hope the school appreciate how patient your son has been until now.
I hope the bully has learnt their lesson.

Don’t be ridiculous.
If an office colleague pushed you over you’d call the police. Children don’t have that privilege, they have to rely on the school to sort out the bully. Unfortunately too many schools don’t sort out the bullying.
Therefore the victim can either carry on being assaulted or they can lamp the bully.