To expect DH to help me whilst the World Cup is on

[Sheilazwheelz]

I mean with the kids? Should I expect him to help me put the kids to bed whilst the footie is on? He seems to think he is exempt now.

Posted too soon! DH got them into PJs before the game and I did the actual bedtime bit just before half time.

You shouldn’t expect him to help: it’s not your job. You should expect him to do 50% of the parenting.

OP I think you’re being treated unfairly. There’s been a 7pm match for days. YANBU to expect him to miss the first 15 minutes of every other match

It started at 7, that’s not late.
YABU OP. I’ll happily take on bedtime if DH is watching the rugby (he’s not particularly interested in football), just as he’ll do it if I’m out or busy.

Some people go nuts for it, although I have caught some exciting moments lately and thought "This is amazing!". My DH and DSs watch it constantly - every chance they get. I don't mind (But no young kids - the exempt thing doesn't sound good for you at all!). I'm starting to get it though!

The World Cup is a big deal, but bedtime in our house with DC who are 4 and 2 is a usually a shared affair and thus a complete pain in the arse to do solo. I'd say fine for him to duck out on the nights his team are playing (assuming you don't care about the football), but on the other nights he needs to be pulling his weight.

Fair enough, I think it was the lead up to it, I did bath time, made tea etc. don’t know why he felt the need to watch it from 6pm

Oh the cool wives are out 🙄

Yes I’m shit 😂😂

The next football World Cup is actually next year. Maybe OP's husband likes to watch both women's and men's football – or maybe he will decide next year that he likes women's football. That would be handy for him.

Oh the cool wives are out

Or the wives in healthy relationships were they each take over parenting duties when the other has something they really want to do.

Honestly I find it so sad that people call those who allow their partners a bit of fun (and expect it themselves) are called ‘cool wives’ so disparagingly.
It’s bed time for 2 children, not competing in an Iron Man. I happily put my 3 to bed on my own when DH is doing sometime else and vice versa. That doesn’t make me a ‘cool wife’, just a normal human 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fine if it’s equal. Is it though? Really? If so then lucky you.

Are the husband's 'cool' when they take Iver bedtime when their wife wants to watch or do something? Or is just being nice to each other out of fashion now?

I hate the cool wives brigade. I was called one for not minding my long term DP is still friends with a woman he met in school.
It’s once every four years. England will be out soon enough, I couldn’t get riled about this as long as when you have something on he does everything so you can enjoy it

Ha, it’s so not about ‘being able’ to put a kid to bed on your own. Spectacularly missing the point. Of feckin course we can all do that. It’s more when the other person is entitled enough to assume that you’ll do it, plus all the other shite that needs doing, no worries, while they crack open a beer and sit on their arse for 90 minutes in the name of being a football fan.

Gently, YABU. I suppose it depends on if your DH usually pulls his weight and supports you when you want to go out/do things? My DH goes a bit football crazy every 4 years (or during important uk games) but in fairness he’s generally a gem so I roll my eyes (moan a bit to guarantee a cuppa in bed at the weekend) and let him get on with it. I agree it’s a pain and I’d rather he helped but if your Dh is usually helpful I’d let it go.

I don't do bedtimes during Strictly. He doesn't do bedtimes during sporting fixtures. Feels fair.

Yep, equal here. DH is actually away with work tonight so watching the football elsewhere, so I of course did bed time. He’s back tomorrow, and will do bedtime as I have a yoga class until 8 every Wednesday.
Then neither of us see bedtime as that big a deal. I quite enjoy putting my children to bed.

i always make sure I am available, I suppose that is the problem.

I would have nestled them down with him to watch it with him and gone for a hot bath personally. Bit late now.

I was called one once for agreeing to iron a duvet cover for my husband, they also said me agreeing was a sure sign I was either in a miserable or abusive relationship. They very quickly backtracked and decided it was a perfectly reasonable request when they realised that I’m a man 🤣

Yanbu. I'm a huge football fan and would watch every game previously. But I have a 2 year old who needs entertained, fed and put to bed. Most games I've just had to miss🤷🏼‍♀️ not sure why your DH gets to bow out of it - as others have said, to watch his own team, fair enough but not every game.

Putting the kids to bed during the world cup, seriously ?. I think you've got two hopes there !.

Mine is an involved parent the rest of the time who happily does his share of bedtimes, early mornings and school runs and will fly solo on nights when I have plans so I cut him a lot of slack around the World Cup. Because I love him and it makes him happy. Being generous with each other works best for us.

At least he’s just out at bedtimes this time - he actually went to the last two World Cups leaving me heavily pregnant and then with 2 small kids. I’d be doing everything for three kids for a week this year if they hadn’t held it in Qatar!